Wearing a bra for now

[Conor W]

I've just caught up on some of your posts. You point out that the contrast between seeing yourself in a bra and boxers makes you uncomfortable or at the very least 'unbalanced'. You could talk to your mom about buying panties in the same colors as your bras. They would match and it may make you feel more at ease with yourself. You can buy some comfortable sets and maybe you, your mom, and your sister could organize a trip to VS to treat yourselves.

Im not sure wearing panties and lingerie was what I had in mind. Not sure how confident I would feel dressing like a girl ! 

[gizmodude]

You should at the very least talk to your mom about and get her opinion. It would certainly make shopping easier for her. You don’t have to wear lingerie. Bras and panties do not have to be like that. 

[blad]

You should at the very least talk to your mom about and get her opinion. It would certainly make shopping easier for her. You don’t have to wear lingerie. Bras and panties do not have to be like that.

I think Conor is just trying to adjust to the functionality of wearing a bra daily and is not interested in expanding his wardrobe further into panties. He merely did point out the contrast of a bra on a guy in boxers. 

He probably has enough to adjust too and is approaching this from a functional standpoint rather than exploring other items at this time.

[Johndoe1]

You should at the very least talk to your mom about and get her opinion. It would certainly make shopping easier for her. You don’t have to wear lingerie. Bras and panties do not have to be like that.

Panties are not really what Connor is worried about at this point. I think that is a very personal decision and really doesn't matter if you are only wearing a bra for support and not fashion.

[Conor W]

I thought about this today. I looked at my boobs  in the mirror before I put my bra on. Yes they look like a woman’s, yes it does look odd as a boy with a bra but I don’t want to be a girl. It’s just strange that I feel like I have more in common with them on some things! And I think in my head I have it straight and remember what the doctor and nurse said that they were proper breasts, I had a mammogram scan. The binder ended up uncomfy. The bras are better and it stops the movement and feels supported. To be honest I’m worried they are getting bigger or the bras shrink in the wash. It’s just the social and presentation aspects.  And I’m not sure when the hospital will review. 

[aboywithgirls]

For me, I liked having them before they stopped growing and I wanted to keep them. At the time, I didn't want to be a girl. That changed over time too. Just don't be too anxious to have surgery for a number of reasons.

[Traveler]

For me, I liked having them before they stopped growing and I wanted to keep them. At the time, I didn't want to be a girl. That changed over time too. Just don't be too anxious to have surgery for a number of reasons.

Quite true, mine have grown on me and now wouldn’t give them up. I’m rather fond of the girls now and like being “unique”. 😁

[p.r.1974]

With regard to bras getting tighter. Materials do shrink in the dryer, and why the only bras that go in the dryer for me are the cheap pullover sports bras. I hand was the delicate ones, but use dryer bags for those not so; then line dry. Then all the different manufacturers are similar in sizing and materials. or you may be growing. Too many variables to be certain.

I am not fond of throwing multiple bras in a bag to wash, as the hooks tangle in the materials of the cup, and they don't last as long with that. So I use similar items to this.
Woolite Bra Wash Bag & Reviews | Wayfair

[Conor W]

My mum uses those  bags, to be honest she does all the washing. Presumably the bras go in there. Things magically appear in my bedroom. I do think they are getting bigger or it’s the different feel in the bra as opposed to binder. Just seem to fill them tighter

[p.r.1974]

I did the whole binder thing, and it was just not comfortable, and too hot to continue. I remember the days of when mom washed my clothes, and wanting to grow up faster than I was. My two cents would be to appreciate the blessings in your life. Learn to do the wash if you haven't, including bra care that seems to be a need for you in the future. 

For whatever reason, your bras are felling tighter. I suppose it comes down to how we react to what we don't have control over. Or, don't currently have access to. We can give the power to someone else, or we can decide to accept what we have. Beyond the mechanics of processing (xyz), I choose how I am effected. I have breasts, and I choose to support them. I also choose not to feed the trolls. 

It sounds like you have a great support base in family and friends, and words fail me in how huge this is. My experience has been far different.

[froger]

I think the perceived weirdness of wearing a bra with boxers occurs because we have been conditioned to always see underwater models in a bra and panties for women or just briefs/boxers for men.  So, it's only natural to feel odd mismatching things.  But with anything, the more you do it, the more normal it becomes.  Wear whatever underwear make you comfortable and don't worry about how it looks.  I know women who wear men's underwear because that's their thing.  Men here wear women's because that's their thing.  Your thing is up to you.

[aboywithgirls]

I'm glad to hear that a bra seems to make you more comfortable. At least more comfortable the the constant jiggle from going braless or the constant pressure from binding. Overall, bras seem to be the best way to live with breasts. They aren't for everyone, but, they are for most.

As far as the panties verses boxers, it's really whatever you're more comfortable in. Personally, I find panties more comfortable. It was quite a few years after I had been wearing a bra full time when I started wearing panties. Nobody influenced my decision and you shouldn't let anyone either. That being said, panties are only women's underwear if you want them to be. Otherwise, they are just underwear that you wear.

[gizmodude]

Yeah what these guys are saying is correct. It really is up to you, and if you do decide to wear panties, they are not girl's underwear anymore. Make them your own and be comfortable with what you are wearing. As soon as you put it on, it's men's clothing. For me I've always been pretty tiny both height and weight wise. I'm in my mid thirties and my breasts are up to a 34D. I had initially started growing in college, and I had no money to really afford any surgical treatments. However, I ended up getting used to it and decided later I would keep them. I found a close knit group of girlfriends in college who I still hang out with. Now though, I mainly shop for for underwear, swimwear, and nightwear at Victoria's Secrets because for me it is the best fit, and it also has some of the most comfortable stuff. If you are still looking for swim suits, I actually bought one from here the other day that imo has a very masculine look actually. It's a one piece. I'll post a link so you can check it out. 

https://www.victoriassecret.com/us/swimwear/swimwear-catalog/victoria-s-secret-portofino-crochet-halter-one-piece-1106071300?brand=swimwear&collectionId=f2ceddea-772a-4d1d-af87-9a2ef1433887&limit=180&productId=eddc3af2-ba9f-4b16-b004-531c8a081633&stackId=23f5fa7e-9208-4191-bc89-dec809d733f7&genericId=11060713&choice=58KG

[FredL]

Another thing I don't get is the suggestion of wearing panties. There's no room for your package. If I did that, my twig and berries would fall out the sides. I never understood boxers either. Briefs are comfortable and they hold things in place. 

[p.r.1974]

It is all a moot point if one prefers to wear boxers and briefs. But the lack of understanding can be corrected with a little search. Everyone's mileage will vary in the direction they choose to accept themselves at that moment. I found panties and bras fit my shape better than boxers or briefs and braless. Some styles of panties are more prone to fallout, but I won't cay that that is the case for all. What I have, is here to stay, so I might as well be comfortable, I was snippy and miserable for a long time before hand.