Wearing a bra for now

[Conor W]

Thanks. I’m sort of getting comfortable with it. It’s when you put the bra on and you realise the boobs fit in the cup before you fasten and adjust. I can see they look like girls boobs. Added embarrassment of huge nipples. Whilst it’s been embarrassing I know my mum is trying to look after me. We tried binders but it went beyond it. And I feel better with them held and not wobbling. My close friends mum said if I was a girl I’d be happy with assets like these. I wasn’t quite sure how to take that. And if the colours match on my underwear it’s better. Just felt stupid looking at black boxers or briefs and a white bra.

[gizmodude]

Victorias Secret does have very good deals on panties where you can buy 5 for $30 or 7 for $28 sometimes. I find that the styles that work best for men are bikini, hip huggers, boy shorts, and cheekies. 

[MarcoB]

I know women who wear men's underwear because that's their thing.

My wife has worn mine to work a couple of times when she got the unpleasant surprise that she ran out of her own because she hadn't washed recently enough.

and from FredL:

Another thing I don't get is the suggestion of wearing panties. There's no room for your package. If I did that, my twig and berries would fall out the sides. I never understood boxers either. Briefs are comfortable and they hold things in place. 

Yeah, for most, I don't get the panties thing either.  The bra is for solving a problem.  I don't have any problems that would be solved by wearing panties, even though I would design men's briefs a little differently if I were in on it.  Some here may have a shape down south that's closer to a woman's though, from the same hormonal problem that made them grow breasts.  (I think ABWG said he's in that situation.)

[gizmodude]

Thanks. I’m sort of getting comfortable with it. It’s when you put the bra on and you realise the boobs fit in the cup before you fasten and adjust. I can see they look like girls boobs. Added embarrassment of huge nipples. Whilst it’s been embarrassing I know my mum is trying to look after me. We tried binders but it went beyond it. And I feel better with them held and not wobbling. My close friends mum said if I was a girl I’d be happy with assets like these. I wasn’t quite sure how to take that. And if the colours match on my underwear it’s better. Just felt stupid looking at black boxers or briefs and a white bra.

How has everything been going this past week for you? Are you feeling more comfortable with everything? Are your bras shrinking or are you just growing?

[Conor W]

Life just goes on. It’s very hot so been hanging about in shorts, t shirt …..and a bra. It’s sort of normal. They are too big to hide and uncomfy not to wear. Are they getting bigger ? They maybe. The older bras are feeling tighter in the cup, the new ones are a different design that push them together more. I don’t really want to think about it. In this heat, there is no hiding them. Had friends pop round last night and just stuck to what I had on. My sisters boyfriend was here and a few of her friends. They didn’t say anything. Maybe too hot to worry

[blad]

Life just goes on. It’s very hot so been hanging about in shorts, t shirt …..and a bra. It’s sort of normal. They are too big to hide and uncomfy not to wear. Are they getting bigger ? They maybe. The older bras are feeling tighter in the cup, the new ones are a different design that push them together more. I don’t really want to think about it. In this heat, there is no hiding them. Had friends pop round last night and just stuck to what I had on. My sisters boyfriend was here and a few of her friends. They didn’t say anything. Maybe too hot to worry

As I and many of us have said, wearing a bra for breast support just becomes so totally routine that you often forget about the issue and are unconcerned about wearing a bra in public. For much of the day you even forget that you are wearing a bra as you carry on with life. As you alluded to, you are more likely to be fixated on the presence of breasts if you go out braless than if everything is held in place with a good fitting bra. I would particularly find it irritating to go without a bra in hot weather with all the extra boob sweat. It just works and lets us get on with life without constantly being aware of our breasts uncontrolled movement. 

We get up, put on our socks and bra, get dressed, and get on with the day like anyone else. I think you are coming to that point. 

[Conor W]

Well, I guess it is sort of normal now. One of my friends said if people said anything and saw the size of your boobs, they would know you have little option but to wear a bra. It’s out of the house and other people that makes me anxious 

[Rich meier]

I'm glad to hear that a bra seems to make you more comfortable. At least more comfortable the the constant jiggle from going braless or the constant pressure from binding. Overall, bras seem to be the best way to live with breasts. They aren't for everyone, but, they are for most.

As far as the panties verses boxers, it's really whatever you're more comfortable in. Personally, I find panties more comfortable. It was quite a few years after I had been wearing a bra full time when I started wearing panties. Nobody influenced my decision and you shouldn't let anyone either. That being said, panties are only women's underwear if you want them to be. Otherwise, they are just underwear that you wear.

I just started wearing panties again but for a different reason, have BPH and tend to leak found a womens panties that is leak proof  fit feel good and work good wear them full time bought some for my wife

[Rich meier]

For me, I liked having them before they stopped growing and I wanted to keep them. At the time, I didn't want to be a girl. That changed over time too. Just don't be too anxious to have surgery for a number of reasons.

of course

 they color match my bras

[prc7966]

Well, I guess it is sort of normal now. One of my friends said if people said anything and saw the size of your boobs, they would know you have little option but to wear a bra. It’s out of the house and other people that makes me anxious

Personally, as far as being out of the house in a bra goes I find most people are too absorbed in their phones these days to notice much of anything. I've had conversations face to face while wearing a bra that causes a lot of projection and nothing was said. It wasn't terribly subtle either, the design on the front of my t-shirts tend to distort over my boobs.

[Traveler]

Personally, as far as being out of the house in a bra goes I find most people are too absorbed in their phones these days to notice much of anything. I've had conversations face to face while wearing a bra that causes a lot of projection and nothing was said. It wasn't terribly subtle either, the design on the front of my t-shirts tend to distort over my boobs.

Personally I find this to be true for me too. I just throw a tee shirt on over my bra and go about my business. I’m a 40DD and almost no one has noticed nor has anyone ever remarked upon my obvious (to me) projection. It’s all good!

[Conor W]

I have boobs, proper girly boobs and nipples. I need a bra. I don’t need panties. 

Summer is the difficult bit. Lots of pool / hot tub bbq events. See my friends , lads basically just in shorts, tops off showing their physique. Girls in bikinis or summery small outfits. Too hot for anything other than a t shirt. I feel like a flumpy hybrid. The tankini thing hasn’t arrived yet. Looked in the mirror this morning and I have cleavage in a bra. I’m wearing coloured t shirts or white t shirt white bra. Shorts and flip flops. 

[Johndoe1]

True story. The other night late realized I needed a few items from the store for breakfast. It was late and I knew the store wouldn't be busy. I was still in my bra and just had an old tee shirt and shorts on. I ran in and got the few items I needed and headed to the self checkout since the registers are not normally manned that late. As I am coming down the aisle, coming towards me is a middle aged woman making that same late night run for last minute items. As she passes me, out of nowhere she leans over as to ask a question and says"Nice rack" and smiles. I must have looked dumbfounded. I did manage to eek out a thank you as she continued on. It totally shocked me. I was a little embarrassed but also it felt good to have a positive comment for a change. I didn't know whether to be offended or hug her neck. Just goes to show you never know.

[aboywithgirls]

Typically with swimming in public, I’ve tried to get into and out of the pool quickly to avoid staring. 

Since I began wearing a bra, I feel that I have choices on how to stay covered without wearing a t shirt that clings to my boobs.  It’s uncomfortable and doesn’t make you feel good. 

I have a pool party on Saturday I’m attending with my co workers. They are all women.  They all know that I wear a bra and would probably care less if I swam topless.  I would feel funny about it. 

If I can’t find a tankini that doesn’t break the bank, I’ll wear a sports bra and dri fit shirt over it.  At least I’ll have some modesty. 

You could wear this and fit in just fine
https://www.lascana.com/Oversized-Tankini-Top,572?sc=GPF21&gclid=CjwKCAjwruSHBhAtEiwA_qCppmQOSs5gwpOdExLErR2GzQiBFhfJ_nb19myT0P1LwRI0FwRW4hjYRBoC9ukQAvD_BwE

[Traveler]

Such a cool story John! I think as we get older the less we care about the “norms” and can start having fun at the stick in the muds. That she was middle aged she probably fits into the fun group. I’ve yet to have any comments but I have gotten a few smiles and the occasional wondering stare. 😁