In need of help

[DJMC2412]

Hey Ive always been overweight until I was about 16 when I finally lost about 3stone and got down to normal weight. I was so happy people were complimenting me and all, but one day I had just bought a new t-shirt and caught site of my strange body shape in the mirror. I had read about gynecomastia but never though anything of it because I had had slightly large breasts when i was overweight.

I have been living knowing of this problem for 3 years now as I'm 19 and I seriously feel my life is on hold. But I can't bring myself to tell anyone about it. I have an image as a chilled out guy doesn't really let anything get him down and really thats true, other than this. I'm scared to approach girls, even put myself in social situations that I really weant to be in and I've just started uni. I really wanted to join clubs take up sports but I just can't. A Recent example would be a girl I really like asked me to go shopping with her, she wanted to "pimp me out" but I declined made up some lame excuse about "men shop alone" I didn't want her to see me in a t-shirt (I know they dont). I went to the doctor and he said its nothing just muscle and my body shape but I can feel a gland and the soft tissue around my pecs is all lumpy. Another thing that makes we wonder is that I dont think it looks that bad without a tshirt on, but under a t-shirt you can see them quite clearly. I have the money although it is what my parent gave me to get started in life, how could I possible constitute paying X amount, that they have given to me, on surgery?

Im finally going to get up the courage to tell my parents however becuse I really dont want my life to be on hold any longer. I just have a few questions.

1) Ive read about Dr. Karadis how much is the surgery with him?
2) Will the surgeon diagnose whether I have it or not? Although Im almost certain I do
3) How long is the wait between the consultation and surgery? I would plan to consult in summer and aim to get the operation near winter so I can use the cold as an excuse to keep my top on whilst it heals

Thanks guys feels so good to actually type this out.

[NIN0808]

1) Not sure, but most is around $5000

2)Yes, (feel free to post pictures)

3) depends on when the doctor you choose is free. mine was about a 2 and half month wait.

[Cellar_Door]

Hey Ive always been overweight until I was about 16 when I finally lost about 3stone and got down to normal weight. I was so happy people were complimenting me and all, but one day I had just bought a new t-shirt and caught site of my strange body shape in the mirror. I had read about gynecomastia but never though anything of it because I had had slightly large breasts when i was overweight.

I have been living knowing of this problem for 3 years now as I'm 19 and I seriously feel my life is on hold. But I can't bring myself to tell anyone about it. I have an image as a chilled out guy doesn't really let anything get him down and really thats true, other than this. I'm scared to approach girls, even put myself in social situations that I really weant to be in and I've just started uni. I really wanted to join clubs take up sports but I just can't. A Recent example would be a girl I really like asked me to go shopping with her, she wanted to "pimp me out" but I declined made up some lame excuse about "men shop alone" I didn't want her to see me in a t-shirt (I know they dont). I went to the doctor and he said its nothing just muscle and my body shape but I can feel a gland and the soft tissue around my pecs is all lumpy. Another thing that makes we wonder is that I dont think it looks that bad without a tshirt on, but under a t-shirt you can see them quite clearly. I have the money although it is what my parent gave me to get started in life, how could I possible constitute paying X amount, that they have given to me, on surgery?

Im finally going to get up the courage to tell my parents however becuse I really dont want my life to be on hold any longer. I just have a few questions.

1) Ive read about Dr. Karadis how much is the surgery with him?
2) Will the surgeon diagnose whether I have it or not? Although Im almost certain I do
3) How long is the wait between the consultation and surgery? I would plan to consult in summer and aim to get the operation near winter so I can use the cold as an excuse to keep my top on whilst it heals

Thanks guys feels so good to actually type this out.

Good luck man.
Karidis costs about £4500 overall, including his fee and the hospital's fee. I have surgery booked with him for about 2 weeks. Cannot WAIT.
Yes, he will diagnose it. But you can post pics here too and people will let you know if it's "definitely" gyno or psuedogyno
The wait between consultation and surgery for me is only about a month. But it could be a little more. My one was early because of a cancellation by someone else.

[losernumber1]

One common experience of Gyno sufferers is that no one believes them, no one admits it to them no one  will want to help them to realise the surgery. Parents especially and most general practice doctors will just give a gyno sufferer a blank look and say "its not noticeable" "Its not that bad" or "Your wife will be the only one to see you with your shirt off" or some such lame comfort excuse. Dont be fooled. Also economically they will all advise you to spend your cash on education and lifes known and acceptable priorities so you will be encouraged to suppress the gyno issue. But dont be fooled, for you its actually a priority because you are a man with breasts. You need to get your dignity back, you gotta be prepared to fork out the cash and you gotta realise that no one will tell you the truth, because they have different agendas to that of the actual person experiencing the drawbacks in life of gyno.


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[Cellar_Door]

One common experience of Gyno sufferers is that no one believes them, no one admits it to them no one  will want to help them to realise the surgery. Parents especially and most general practice doctors will just give a gyno sufferer a blank look and say "its not noticeable" "Its not that bad" or "Your wife will be the only one to see you with your shirt off" or some such lame comfort excuse. Dont be fooled. Also economically they will all advise you to spend your cash on education and lifes known and acceptable priorities so you will be encouraged to suppress the gyno issue. But dont be fooled, for you its actually a priority because you are a man with breasts. You need to get your dignity back, you gotta be prepared to fork out the cash and you gotta realise that no one will tell you the truth, because they have different agendas to that of the actual person experiencing the drawbacks in life of gyno.


www.anticharisma.com

Excellent post, very true.

[Paa_Paw]

Sometimes parents and/or family Doctors do speak up, not always with good results.

Some time ago there was a young man who posted. He had thought nothing about it until his Doctor asked "Does this cause you embarassment?" It had not, but since it had been noticeed in that way, it soon started to bother him greatly.

When I was about 12, My mom said "If they get any bigger I'll have to get you a bra." She quickly realized that her remark had caused me grief and the subject was not raised again until I was almost 50 years old. 

Neither that young man's Doctor nor my mother had been trying to be hurtful, but that was the effect. Sometimes people keep silent or make light of the condition thinking that it is best not to make a big deal of it. Sometimes if the subject is to be opened for discussion we must do it or simply suffer in silence.

Sometimes, a grandparent is the best person to confide in. They are close enough to be caring while remote enough to be objective.

[DJMC2412]

Thanks guys yeah, Im not sure if anyone notices them. One girl did notice them once, a good friend of mine actually, jokingly grabbed them and said you have bigger breasts than me, really screwed mt up for abit. I feel people dont notice it as a dress to hide it (shirts with the top 2 buttons undone works a treat) and the case is mild compared to what I've seen, the nipple doesn't actually stick out much really but the tissue is all over kinda.

 I think the case isn't helped as I have really skinny shoulders, so I will hit the gym this summer and see if their apperence in relation to my body gets better, if not I guess I'll have to tell my parents. Although I really don't want anyone else to know, brothers, cousins etc. I really feel it holds me back though I cannot even think of starting a relationship with a girl knowing I will have to show them. I really feel it affects me loads.

One more question: What is the scarring like? Is it unoticable once the healing is done? Or will there always be a mark? I have really pale skin, would this affect the appearance?