What do you think of the following quote from a medical journal -"Idiopathic adolescent gynecomastia is a psychological threat to normal self-esteem and sexual identity. Occurring during a critical period in the formation of self-image and gender identity, this gender-incongruent process may disrupt normal psychological development"?
To me, having had gyne age 13, then successful surgery age 21, the above is stating the god-damn obvious.
I just wish doctors were trained to read the above because the one who diagnosed me knew f-all and told me it would "go away". As a teen, I didn't have the knowledge or intellect to label his "consultation" a crock of #### which of course it was, considering I had 40g glandular lumps which needed excising and lipo.
I didn't have the intellect or the info to deal with this condition until I was age 19, and by then I was an utter wreck - the burden trashed my performance at school, with women, and in the workplace age 19/20 - it made me a social misfit and generally made me feel a complete loser.
What I did learn is that some GPs/adults are unreasoning and ignorant and sometimes have absolutely no idea what they are talking about - something I wish I'd known age 15.
Anyone else been at the end of similar treatment from doctors when it comes to gyne?
Hi Dan,
Yup. "Do pushups, it will go away by itself" so they said in 1960. It didn't. I had bigger breasts in junior high than most of the girls and was harassed endlessly by boys. The girls were my friends. By high school I had D cup breasts. Shortly after they went to DD and stayed there until I lost enough weight and got back down to D-cup but the stuck out further than ever with my stomach now so much smaller.
That hell started to dissipate in college when I started dating the girl who had founded the school's nudist club. I then switched hells when a guy t-boned my car running a red light and I was broken in half sideways, with 3 fractures in my back and damaged disks and nerve roots. After that health problems have dominated the rest of my life (65 now). I spend a lot of time at the nudist club I belong to. There it is totally obvious that at least half the men have gyne, making it the very definition of normal.
It's good to be normal. Nobody cares or notices. I have just another unique ordinary body. If most men with gyne didn't hide, you would have been part of the majority. This plague of body-shame hurts us all. I got rid of it, all of it. There was no point in getting rid of just some of the body shame and keeping just the same of breasts that was imposed on me by the world. If somebody doesn't like them, that is there problem. I go were I want, nude when appropriate. I go to public beaches and pools. Some of my experiences were written up in my intro postings. I have never had a problem with girls or ladies over these breasts. Some like them, some didn't care. I get a good share of nude hugs from the ladies. Some made an offer I wasn't going to refuse; "You can feel mine if I can feel yours". I was married for more than 3 decades and have had a partner since a while after my divorce. I have children and grandchildren.
I have also lost 145 pounds from peak weight, 85 pounds of water after figuring out my nutritional problems. My skin is several sizes too big. I would need huge amounts of surgery to get it all looking like an all scarred up re-tailored skin. Having a double mastectomy is the last thing on my mind. I am not going to put myself through that much surgery to look like a patchwork quilt with non-tanning scars all over my body at the nudist club not to mention more damaged nerves than I already have.
I have never been a good looker. $100,000 worth of surgery won't do any good because I would still look like a chopped up ordinary old guy and my health is barely manageable without getting such a chop job. Good luck. The docs are blind to so many problems. This gyne is a societal problem. We have a culture of body shame instead of acceptance. It comes don heavy on some of us.
I have never actually seen another guy with D or DD breasts like mine or some of the other guys here. That is major surgery to have them removed, not just a little lipo. I know and have seen women that have had single or double mastectomies. They had lots of misery from it. They can't imagine anybody suffering that misery for cosmetic purposes. Have fun.