When did you start excepting you for you?

[Parity]

I thought about all the conversations In the acceptance sections and made me think.  So much of whats said is by a very few compared to the number of members.  So I thought why not pick a question to answer and lets see if it helps those on the fence.

  If you could have a conversation now with a younger you, what would you say?


  What helped you accept your breast growth and decide to just live with it?


  For me accepting means to bra up some times and other times take measures to hide the growth.  At times hiding with a bra also.  Is that not really accepting?

  
  Is accepting and not caring an age thing?  Post work and the work world?  Kids out of the house?


For me, I never put it all out there in full display.  Not ashamed of my body and its shape but try to not not be the poster child of "men have boobs too".   Also, I have always had a fuller body shape lets say.  Not so much fat as broad chested lets say.  got away with shirtless as a kid but larger for a boy.  My mind set was always inline with my body shape.  I was comfortable being me.  Softer and could relate  with the girls without problem.  

So.... More from me later.  What do you think?
  


  

[WPW717]

Never had these issues or thoughts over my lifetime. Just a guy who works for a living. Then all of a sudden in retirement a ball bat to the head and a journey into left field & the twilight zone. The onset was very quick, months. Boy were the boobs sore! Roller coastered with health care and endocrine calamities one after another. 

The camaraderie & information I found on this site allowed me to sail through calmer waters to arrive at what I call acceptance. Have come to love my breasts and as an oldster the Alfred E Neuman “ What, me worry ? “ attitude predominates. 
It’s been so long ago that I was young, I don’t even remember the younger me. He was a different critter.
I do enjoy learning of everyone else’s experiences here, It is enlightening.

[taxmapper]

  If you could have a conversation now with a younger you, what would you say?

Accept that you are different. You always have been and dont try to be the thing THEY want you to be. Your in between the sexes. Accept it and be blessed by and by.

  What helped you accept your breast growth and decide to just live with it?

I always accepted because when they started I instinctively knew they were supposed to be there.

  For me accepting means to bra up some times and other times take measures to hide the growth.  At times hiding with a bra also.  Is that not really accepting?


Acceptance is not trying to be something you are not.
  
  Is accepting and not caring an age thing?  Post work and the work world?  Kids out of the house?


Partially yes, partially no.

Yes because you realize all the noise and fuss, no one really cared. 

No becuase anyone at any age can accept. 

[Justagirl💃]

  If you could have a conversation now with a younger you, what would you say?


  What helped you accept your breast growth and decide to just live with it?

Younger self, it's okay to be different you don't have to fit in.
Every individual on this planet is born different, it is social norms that try to fit everybody into General boxes. It's nothing but a big lie.

I had no choice but to accept it when I was younger because they weren't going anywhere. I did do the concealment option for most of my life hiding behind layers, baggy shirts, darker colors, and bib overalls.

It was this platform that finally brought out full acceptance of who and what I am. My grandmother was right in nicknaming me "Birdie" at a young age, and teaching me how to sew and knit and do all the girly things. My father was incorrect In forcing me to get testosterone treatments for a couple years and make me abandon all the girly things. His policy of "Man-ing up" caused me a lot of emotional trauma that lasted decades.

Failed relationships because I just don't have the equipment necessary were also scattered in my past.

I finally had to come to the conclusion that I am Birdie, and I am intersex. I'm not built the same downstairs as everyone else, and I have boobs, wide hips, and curves. I am much more woman than I am man, and it was time to live that.

So, several years ago on this platform, I finally found myself again.
I'm still that little girl that Grandma was raising. Grandma knew what she was doing.

[blad]

If you could have a conversation now with a younger you, what would you say?

I grew my breasts at age 13. I could tell my teenage self that this is not the disaster you think it is. I could tell myself that you will come to enjoy having boobs and wearing a bra daily just like the girls developing at the same time in your class. They are going through changes like you are, and some of them also have confused thoughts over puberty. 


  What helped you accept your breast growth and decide to just live with it?

It was definitely a pivotal moment trying on my first bra as a young teen and discovering that I did fit one, that my breasts filled out the cups and gave me cleavage. The idea of trying on a bra was clearly presented to me by all the comments from the kids in school that I needed a bra. A curiosity was created from those constant comments if I actually would fit a bra and how it would feel to wear one. Seeing myself in a bra made me realize that I did have boobs and that they looked good to me when held in a bra. I had to admit to myself at that point that all the comments that the kids were making about needing a bra were correct, I just could not admit that to them. So definitely discovering how my breasts fit / felt / looked in a bra was an instant traditional moment that only grew as I wore a bra more often


  For me accepting means to bra up some times and other times take measures to hide the growth.  At times hiding with a bra also.  Is that not really accepting?

Although I came to completely embrace that wearing a bra was right for me and gave me both physical comfort and acceptance of my breasts, I also felt it was a private matter and not something to openly share beyond my wife. My profile shows breast development with or without a bra on, and feel that I actually look a bit more put together while wearing a bra. My only guided issue is in close social contact of hugs or pats on the back giving away my bra straps to people I do not need to share that with, otherwise I usually completely forget I am wear a bra much of the time even in public. In closer contact situations, I feel the racer back designs are less likely to be registered with these close contact situations and wear them on those occasions. I have decided that wearing a bra is for me and refuse to go braless just to be around others and worry about any perceptions they pick up. Wearing a racerback in those anticipated situations is the only accommodation I will give, as I prefer regular strap designs otherwise. 

  
  Is accepting and not caring an age thing?  Post work and the work world?  Kids out of the house?


Age definitely increases the commitment to ones own needs over trying to fit other peoples expectations. Those "other people" were actually the ones that said I needed a bra in the first place way back in school. These experiences definitely make me feel that guys who develop breasts should try a bra at least once as they may be amazed at how they feel about themselves.

[tryingtoaccept]

About 2 years ago I was reading all the posts here and it gave me the courage to bring up the conversation with my wife.  When she assured me she didn't care; that is when I stated to truly accept it.