I'm 23 years old, african-american college student; standing at just barely under 6 foot 3 inches, with an athletic build (somewhat lean), weighing about 208 lbs. being generally athelic i feel that my gyne stands out even more than it would if i were slightly chubby or something. as a youth i was always thin, I developed and notice my gyne at about 13 yrs old and was basically trumatized by it. misguided by lies, i didn't know what the hell it was and thought it would just go away on day. eventually i realized it wouldn't. my nipples didn't really look so bad when they were erect, but when they weren't they looked bad; and at their worse times were huge (just mainly the nipple itself... it was VERY puffy). i got my nipples pierced in hopes that my nipples would become permanently erect due to more lies and false information. i found out that it was gyne, a non-life threatening breast cancer, last year. when looking at my chest started bothering me again.
Debra, it's hard for me to believe that you as a woman, could know what it like for a man, to have breast similar to that of a woman's in any way. it doesn't matter if the nipples are slightly puffy or if they're full, outright breasts. to somewhat put things in perspective, i'm sure you wouldn't be just saying "it could be worse, there are worse things going on in the world" if at puberty, you clitoris suddenly started looking like a male thingy... or rather a penis. that embarassed you and you felt like you have to conceal. I'm sure you wouldn't just want to "accept" things as they are. as givemerespite noted, most men don't want a "healthy pair of breasts" ... women want that, not to mention a normal woman doesn't REALLY want her man to have them. she'd perfer them to be like most normal men's nipples/chest. if she accpets her man with his woman-like chest, she's just "putting up with it" and not trying to make the guy she's with feel worse about his condition. once again, a woman wouldn't want to have a "nice healthy penis" ... a man wants that... and your normal straight male doesn't want a lover with a penis.
I read your post about there being worse deformities, conditions, etc. out there. and of course that's true. but that arguement, though always true, it also almost always a ridiculous one to make. the reason being that you can always say that. for instance to a person with HIV you could say: "it could be worse... you could have AIDS," to a person with AIDS you could say: "it could be worse, you could have AIDS and a broken leg," to a person lying on their death bed from cancer you could say "well yea, you're i pain and gonna die soon, but hey it could be worse... you could be being kept alive, not allowed to die, only to be tortured in every second of you conscious life," or something. you can ALWAYS have a worse situation than you're in, so that whole "it could be worse" thing is bullshyt in the end to the one suffering. saying that usually also says "it could be worse (so stop bitching)." this in no way really makes a person feel better about their situation. this view is one that says you should just accept things and not want to nor try to improve your situation.
Gyne IS a deformity/condition/etc. it just is. it's a type of cancer. this in and of itself is more than enough of a reason to want to rid yourself of it. and when you factor in the fact that it usually develops/reveals itself/etc. around puberty, an often influential period of our lives, the reasons are even more reasonable. hell, without preparation, a boy who masterbates before developing sperm and/or knowing that one day it will come out will be surprised and possibly freaked out initially about something natural and healthy. a girl will be freaked out by her first period without being informed and prepared for it, and might still need comfort,etc. for something that's supposed to happen. so how the hell is boy to take gyne?? something clearly unnatural, in spite of how common it might be. clearly unnatural to be boy as he sees his friends the same age as him, all without this condition. and when they see his condition they point laugh and make fun. how is one to be prepared for this?? And then he's just to accept it because things could be worse? you gotta be kidding me! you have a lot of nerve trying to bring up that arguement. when you tried to make everyone feel like they aren't a victim and they have no right to feel the way they do about gyne you messed up big time.
for the people who can accept this and it's not a big deal to them, that's fine. no persecution. for people who say that those who are not like the acceptors of this cancer, SHOULD BE like the acceptors of this... you really should keep that to yourself, or try to honestly put yourself in our position.
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