How has this condition effected your sex life?

[Iano]

Hey all,

I had only just sent a post saying that I didn't know if anyone had talked about how gynecomastia affected their sex-lives when I came across this section! I had only had a brief look around the site, so forgive me!

Well, like I had said in the other forum, I find a woman touching my chest really off-putting. I'm lean all over from my fitness lifestyle and women love the whole erotic touching thing (as do I) but I cringe when I feel her hands on my chest. I work out a lot on my chest and some girls I've been with find that a turn-on and like to toch me there but I always feel really ashamed.

In turn you become defensive and withdrawn, then the girl wonders what's wrong and if it's her thats the problem and so on and so on.

I never like being on top and my gyne problem is emphasised so much more due to gravity. Plus, a girl taking my shirt off when I'm sitting down....absolute no-no!

I'm sure that if I could get rid of this problem and get that toned chest, sexually I'd be far more adventurous in terms of positions, scenarios etc

[Spleen]

I'm sorry but no matter how much you guys say girls don't care, I will always feel that they do. And plus, it's not an issue of them caring, it's an issue of me caring. How can I be comfortable with another person if I'm not even comfortable with myself?

That's cool man, as long as you realize the hang-up is your own.

What I wanna know is, if someone agrees that it's in their head and not the chicks, then what's the issue exactly?

[There_Is_Hope]

^

Some girls care, others don't. I don't want to risk that, bottom line.

Like I said, I have 1 or 2 months to go, and then I can start with a fresh slate. It's all good.

[Gine2D]

If you can accept your own body the sex life can be terrific.  My large boobs are very sexually sensitive & a great turn-on.  

I never had a girl refuse a date because of the size of my breasts.  Some were very pleased with them, others ignored them.  I love it when the wife fondles them.

How can anyone make love with a nude girl & keep a shirt on?

It is all in the attitude

[Iano]

Well,

Some of you may have a problem with the idea of your wife/girlfriend/lover touching your chest during sex and some of you may not but I cannot understand how anyone could LIKE the idea should you have gynecomastia. I have heard that the condition can make your nipples more sensitive but perhaps it's a lifetime of watching movies and tv and the image of what a man's chest 'should' look like but I could never reach a point whereby I find my problem a 'turn-on' or masculine in any way.

I'm happy to see the results of my LipoDissolve in the next couple of months and hopefully rid myself of this 'affliction' once and for all.

White T-shirt, here I come.....

[headheldhigh01]

You don't know how akward it is being in a room with the girl of your dreams who apperenlty likes you, and not being able to make a move or anything.

try being in the situation for twenty years, mix in a bunch of rivals and a nasty finish for good measure.  yeah, all in the attitude -- not.  like billy jeff clinton said, feel your pain.  

[serg]

Hey guys,

I'm 21, left uni last June. Although I've always been self conscious about gyne regarding what clothes i wore and posture, it never sffected my sex life. I think it's one of those things which could be used as an excuse (which I did in my 1st year) more than anything. In my 2nd year when I got myself together, gyne didn't seem to matter at all where sex was concerned. If people see that you won't let it knock you down, then they almost become invisible to it.

Don't get me wrong I was self conscious; but I was not afraid to take my shirt off in front of a girl and or at a beach. It's important to keep your head held high.

Hope that makes sense

Serg

[Dcupgyne]

my sex life has most definately been affected by my breasts,my first long term g/fwould incourage me to keep my top on untill i 'shed some blubber' and thus broke up with me when my weight spiraled and my boobs got bigger than hers. however i have had girls fondle and sometimes even suck! to be honest, my weight in general and small penis usualy dismay girls more. xx

[Zardoz]

I want you guys to look here, it's from my journal...then you can see what I'm going through right now!

Girls have always noticed me because they llike my face. My lack of muscles has really made me focus on creativity. Girls like me because I play in rock bands and I'm a writer as well. I have no problem meeting girls. Usually in the winter, I meet tons of girls, since I'm wearing a sweater or a jacket. It's in the summer, when everybody's got their shirts off and want to go to the beach that I feel self conscious. I've had plenty of sex, but I've turned down lots due to my self esteem as well. IT is in your head, girls love confidence. I've had some girls say joke that my boobs were bigger than theirs (I think they were self conscious about their breasts not being big enough, think about that!). I am skinny, with a deformed chest and nipples. I fucking hate it when my friends twist my nipples or grab my chest, I want to kill them. But I just smile....whatever. I try to act confident, but it's so hard all the time. And girls love the beach, they love it more than anything. I will go with a girl to the beach, because if I'm at the beach with a girl I've already had sex with, she obviously isn't that shallow. Doesn't mean you won't still hate yourself, deep inside. I never sit hunched over, always put my hands back, lay straight or move quickly to the water. Arrgh. 2 months to go for me, and the girl of my dreams wants me, but has never seen me with my jacket off. Look at my thread.

[Spleen]

Living life to the fullest is all about self-confidence.

Whatever one might percieve their flaws to be one has to put feelings of insecurity aside to  reach one's potential.  

[User]

I'm not making a moral judgement or attacking you when I say this: if you're having sex based on purely physical desires, then why wouldn't a woman be turned off by your gyne?  I understand that some women might not care, and confidence overrides just about everything else, but having breasts isn't a part of traditional male beauty.

I thought to myself that I could never have sex without surgery because my partner would be turned off by my breasts.  Then I realized that I wouldn't want to have sex with any woman that would feel that way.  I'd have to have a woman who would understand and accept my condition.  Regardless of gyne I'm not comfortable with intimacy in general and I could never feel comfortable sexually unless it was with someone I had a deep relationship with.

This is just my two cents, but it's part of why I couldn't find myself sleeping around.

[bassplayer]

the girl of my dreams and i were talking about getting naked and she said she has low self esteem about it becuz she has scars ( DOWN LOW ) of when she got hurt when she was little then i had to tell her about my gyn she took it well becuz i love her who she is so no1 is perfect and every1 is hiding something

[Cuttin Headz]

I personally like fat chicks because you can prolly get sex with them more easily, and toothpicks dont like people with gyno. Fat chicks 4 life!!! Yes fat chicks!!!

[RiseAgainst162]

Thats just lowering your standards lol...fat chicks might be just as insecure as people with Gyne are but i guess sex is sex right....as for me ima virgin im 17..self concius about my self even though some girls dont care cuz im buff but i still got a manchest and it sucks..its kinda depressing...i see alot of hot girls id like to talk to but i cant..because i hate to be looked at as some guy with man boobs...talkn about this sucks but its all reality some people say you need to have confidence which i do sometimes but its so hard. Its hard to find a girl that doesnt care about your total appearance my face is good looking so im told...but still i donno its hard to explain..i would be too ashamed of myself to take my shirt off infront of a hot girl or go to the beach even though i love it anyways yea no sex life for me.. dam chest...dam it to hell

[Zardoz]

Dude, your only 17, go get the op. Get laid. Hell, get laid anyway. Girls aren't as shallow as we are, they are much more insecure.