How has this condition effected your sex life?

[jc71]

If the original question is how has it effected your sex life?  

My answer is that gyne has effected me far more than any chick i've ever been with.  The women i've been with never really said anything about it.

Back when I was single I had some pretty hot girls.

I have to admit, i've had a couple Hoggs thrown in here and there too.

I think it's effected my ability to have a close committed relationship.  I'd always keep women distant and therefore not have to open up to them.  This of course, would effect sex with them.  

[carguy]

last time i had sex with gyne i kept my tshirt on and hunched over so the chick wouldnt notice. kinda akward but it worked. i havent had sex without gyne yet.  cant wait!

[Kevin]

It most definitely made me avoid any committed relationship.

[a-man]

just for reference guys, it doesn't "effect your sex life", it "Affects your sex life"

[Man_Called_Sun1980]

I've just joined this site and glad to have read through the topic which bothers me most about my gyne.  I'm 25 years old, live in the UK and still a virgin thanks to this f**king thing which is ruining my life.  I'm going for a consultation with a breast consultant next month and definitely thinking of having the surgery but afraid I'll end up like that guy on the Boys With Breasts programme which is going to be repeated in August... i.e. having 2 or 3 operations and still not done properly.  

Over the years my shoulders have hunched as i don't sit with my arms back because of the problem, I don't even play football any more as I'm concious of the "jiggling" as it were, and I don't even bother going to the beach or swimming.

The other week I went back to a girl's house i really like and been waiting to get with.  That night I could have slept with her  (the first time i ever!) and I said no.  I really wanted to but I said no and she then thought I didn't like her!  Obviously the real reason was underneath my shirt!!  I really want someone to truthfully say that a girl who cares about me won't care that I've got gyne... but is this really true???

Help...   :-/

[aux513s]

I really want someone to truthfully say that a girl who cares about me won't care that I've got gyne... but is this really true

Sadly, no. It's not true and thinking that way is lying to yourself.

[Gine2D]

Sadly, no. It's not true and thinking that way is lying to yourself.

maybe in your case it is a no.  But in my case & millions of other gyne guys that are married with children proves it that women reconize that breasts come in all sizes for men & women.  

It is usually the teens & early twenties that have a problem with their physical self not being the Hollywood perfect image.

Boobs can improve the sex life as they can be very sexually sensitive, if you want.

G

[Pferdestärken]

.. which is fine on a lady, but keep your ladyboy images to yourself please.

Over the years gyne certainly held me back from a lot of potential relationships. Fortunately if someone does care about you then its less of an issue. But its always there. If you aren't comfortable with gyne in a social situaton with clothes on then its unlikely you are going to feel comfortable in a sexual situaion with them off.

Suffice to say the missionary position has never been a favourite of mine.  

[Badgene]

Ok so where are these girls that magically sleep around with guys that have big boobs? I've put a good 7 years of searching into it. Most girls I would approach through school, then college later, and the workplace always end trying to avoid me as I got close, snickered while staring at my chest and whispering to the girl next to her if in a group(a most common of acts) . Then there’s the ones that soon as they catch eye contact with me or my body they immediately break it and put their focus somewhere else completely ignoring my existence. You'd be amazed at a girl’s ability to ignore. During the 7th to 8th grade I knew who half the girls in the grade had crushes on and who was having there periods just by sitting there in class and the cafeterias and being quiet as mouse. The stuff they kept secret with each other and never for the ears of the other guys they would blab on within earshot of me because it was as if I wasn’t there or wasn’t in fact a threat nor an allie to their gender's personal or potentially embarrassing affairs. I was off the social grid. At about this point I was considering just giving up and being a priest or something. Just before I lost my faith all together. I’ve liked and had crushes on girls since pre-school, I was always attracted to them…too bad it would be close to 20 years and counting before I would even hold ones hand or kiss, hope I’m not to pessimistic to ruin my chance when it comes.

The girls at my job are terrible too. They are always laughing at me and poking fun about my size and chest with each other. Sometimes they pretend to flirt in a joking and sarcastic way that I see right through. I think they dare each other to do it cuz they always laugh up a storm around the corner when they go up to each other right after, and before smooching the other guy that works in the back. These days I find myself incapable of flirting because I am so self-conscious. When I have any encounter with a female I'm so uncomfortable that anything that could even be a flirt just gets misinterpreted as the usual taunting that my once gentle self has endured into a very hard bitter rock sitting in the shadows… oh yeah with big boobs cuz that’s why I’m here.

BTW who the hell wants there boobs to be sensitive and sexual involved during their affairs??? How do you allow that? To me its not normal and its rediculous. Doesn’t it just remind you that you are comically different then most other guys? And you really believe all those women that said they didn’t mind? I mean if they were decent people and were seeking a relationship they wouldn’t dismiss you on your physical differences right off the bat otherwise they would be B*tches. They would make the best of it. They may accept you but they might not be as happy and proud of their mate as can be deep in their minds. I mean its like when your wife asks you if you think she is getting too fat and you would say "yeah honey your kinda looking like a cow and its becoming more of a turn off", most decent guys would say something more like, "no baby I love you for who you are and it doesn’t matter to me...oh look dear don’t the salads look yummy?" but come on, how many of you guys want there wives to be or get fat? Unless you have a fetish. And how many little girls envisioned their dream man at the alter with a matching double C-cups?

[Gine2D]

If you have a prioblem it does not mean that everyone has that problem.

I never had a problem gettin a date with any girl in high school or college.  I had bigger boobs that some of them.

Look around you at the malls or beach.  There are millions of guys with boobs, wives, & children.  Maybe your own father.  So boobs do not prevent you from getting a date or having sex.

Sex can be great with male boobs, mine is.

G

[agoniste]

I recently had a girlfriend and I told her about my problem and she thought I was kidding.
I think it is possible to find a girl who doesn't care about that. You just have to find her
having boobs doesn't mean having sex with a fat hairy midget, anyway think what you want

[c3ntralp3rk]

yeah.. see, my problem is that i work out.. i have a really nice body EXCEPT for my nipples. everything else is....well really nice. haha.

you cannot tell that i have gyne when i have a shirt on (even tight t-shirts, its basically my nipples that are puffy)

and girls, they look at me and judging by what they can see, they believe that i am ripped to perfection (which I pretty much am, besides the nipples! )

so i feel a little uncomfrotable going all the way. i feel like they might feel 'betrayed' by the fact that..... i hate to put it this way... but the cover was more tempting that what was inside..

[Minitits]

I've had discussions on this sort of theme on women's breast-related sites.

Strangely, on analysis, the complementary gender is a lot less discerning than the individual or their same-gender peers expect them to be.

What erks most potential partners is a lack of honesty and self-appreciation - it indicates an instability that is uncomfortable to live with.

If you say - look, I'm like this - accept me or reject me - you'd be suprised how many people are fed up with 'sameness' and 'mock perfection'.

Being a bit different is a novelty and some appreciate it.

[ItsOK]

This is a very long thread and I'm not sure I have anything original to add, but here goes.

There are some people who are obsessed with their gyne.  Nothing that anyone says is going to change this for them.  For these folks, having surgery is the only thing that is going to "fix" them.  

Then there are people who are able to embrace their body as it is, perhaps even revel in the novelty of it.  I wish there was a way to "transplant" this attitude into the first group.

I'll admit that I was never into the "perfect body" mindset.  I never spent hours developing the perfect body that was then "ruined" by gyne.  Females who are attracted to this kind of guy might be turned off by breasts.  I never cared about women who were only interested in a guy who worked out 10 hours a week.  That's not to say that I don't take care of my body or that I'm going after women who don't take care of theirs.  There's a happy medium, and that's what I aim for.

My breasts are an erotic zone for me, just as they are for everyone of either sex.  I recognize that for the fact that it is and enjoy the pleasure of having a partner touch them, just as my partner enjoys the pleasure of me touching hers.  Yes, I've had a few women who were turned off by the fact that I have breasts (in some cases, bigger than them) but so what . . . they might be turned off by me being overweight, underweight, not Christian, whatever.

I'm a man, and I have breasts.  Big deal.  They have as much power over me as I give them.

[nothingworse]

I was watching a talk show a week ago. I just was turning channels and stumbled across it. I am always watching anything interesting because there is a lot of crap on t.v. Anyways, 2 of the middle aged women had the same responses to this question. What something you look for in a guy. A guy that has great pecs. I've heard that same comment from women many times before on dating show, etc. It is one of the things women look for on guys. I don't think many women would answer this way. The thing I look for most in a man is a guy with gynecomastia. Don't hear it, never heard it, don't think I ever will. Just like a lot of guys look for nice boobs on women. I just don't see gyne as being attractive or sexy about a guy. And I don't think I would ever consider a girl playing with my breasts and am not into that kind of thing. Nothing good has come out of having gynecomastia for me. I have an okay body not perfect but, I am not bad looking. I remember in 10th grade we had to do some valentines day survery about how much us guys would pay for a gift. I was like $30. This one girl I kinda liked was like awhhh. Then a few seconds later she bursts out in front of the class I would never date a guy like you. There was nothing wrong with me I didn't look bad and was decent looking besides my gyne. That was my only answer to blame for that remark my gyne. Even though mine is more of a moderate case like A cups. At my job I worked with five pretty hot girls and there were 2 other guys that were pretty good looking. I had worked there a year and new the girls well and none would ever say anything else than hi and by. I was just about 1 year younger than them. I was 16 they were 17 big deal. But, they would always flirt with the other guys and laugh and smile and have a good time with them. Anytime I would try to start a conversation with them they would have nothing to say to me or (NO INTEREST). My bosses were older body builders that looked pretty good and they always flirted with them even though they were married and their wives worked there. I never understood it and one day it finally hit me it was my gyne totally affecting relationships. There may be some girls that don't care but, I have met to many that were never interested in me or ignored me. Again I was saying I wasn't bad looking but I had gyne. It totally ruined most of my self concisness and I had very few relationships because of it. Nothing will ever convince me ever ever ever ever that girls like gyne and consider it sexy. I remember when I was 10 about a year before I got my gyne and was interested in girls because puberty was starting. I actually hung out with more girls in late elementary school and girls never gave me a funny look. But things certainly changed with my mild/moderate case of gyne. Gyne is definetely a turn-off. No offense to anyone on this board. I am not getting off every night about 300-400 pound women and I am sure women are not getting off every night with a magazine in hand titled "GUYS WITH GYNE". I am not looking to be perfect. I have a normal medium build physicue with gyne. If I could have a normal medium build with no gyne I think I would be more physically pleasing to myself and more women. This definetely has affected relations for me. I don't look for perfect looking women but I am not after the 300 pound women with mustaches and I am sure not many men are. Again no offense towards anyone intended. I am just telling it how it is. Gyne never looked attractive to me and I am yet to find a women saying wow look at that good looking guy with gyne over there. SO, i would say this enourmously has effected my sex life (still a virgin) but, maybe I will gain more self confidence and feel better and soon that fact would change also. I look at all those happy couples younger teens my age and most of the non-gyne guys are getting the decent looking women. I don't know to many gyne guys or see to many with decent looking women that are more my age like 16-18. Everytime I do see this the guy is usually normal build decent looking and doesn't have gyne. This fact especially having a lot of malls and places to see lots of people around only increases my convincement that gyne does hugely affect your sex life. I want to be one of those normal guys with those decent looking girls. Sorry to say but they are my american idols as of this point until I can get my surgery to help change that.