This is frustrating!

[Finnish_dude]

Gynecomastia. A damn annoying word on my self-confidence.

I've been seeing a girl, which truly takes my heart. We have a lot of fun at cafeteria, we listen same music, we both know our true emotions of ourselfs. We both aren't superficial. But I still get sense of that gynecomastia is truly a problem. Since I've been meeting this girl, hate of myself has grown more and more. Every morning I wake up and go to the bathroom, the first thing which I notice on a mirror isn't my face. It's my boobs.

Since gynecomastia hasn't come as surprise. I've had even more embarrassing moments than now. As for example we had to play in high school soccer game without t-shirts, because our 'little perv' referee wanted to recognize team players. Guess in which team I was?
30 class mates and my naked male boobs. Afterwards it didn't feel that 'bad'. But I wouldn't do it again. Surely this isn't the only issue which I've been. Some bullies even wanted to know how my boobs felt, so they grabbed my boobs during the break in the school. I thought I would never become anything.

But now when I've had found true person which I really like, everything feels really hard. I mean really hard! I'm afraid that I'm going to lose this one of a kind person because of my gynecomastia. This person isn't superficial, I know she would accept me as I am.
But why the hell my mind says it's not okay?

So you're probably saying that operation is a only chance to get through with this. Yes it is probably the only way and I'm on waiting list, but sadly waiting time is nearly a half year. I've been on a waiting line for three months. How the hell I'm going to go through with this frustrating issue. The longer I go, more harder this goes. Why there can't be a phone call from hospital that I could go tomorrow on surgery??

I don't just know what to do. This gynecomastia disease is going through all of my body. Next week I probably hate my face look.
I know this sounds self patethic hatred, but I just don't know what to do.

[RyanMace]

I know how it feels man, but stay strong! U're getting ur surgery for free soon (same as in sweden I assume?), then u're free. Girls doesn't really care about stuff like that, and since u could play soccer with ur shirt off, I doubt it's that severe? Just hang in there!

Regards, Ryan.

[damnips]

Sounds just like what I went through not too long ago.  Hid it from my girlfriend for over a year, and we were living together!!!  Can anyone top that?  I am only 19, and was very self-conscious even though I knew she wouldn't care either.  Since then she moved 10 hours away and we broke up, but had we stayed together I would have just told her, and if she actually cared, then I would have known that she wasn't worth my time, and money, and stress, and whatever else comes with relationships.  I am pretty sure 90% of women would not care, ESPECIALLY if you are already dating her...

Until your surgery, and if you want to keep your gyno hidden, try super glue, and it will deflate your puffy nipples while applied

[GPTkid]

"try super glue, and it will deflate your puffy nipples while applied"......LMFAO

                                                 

                                                   

[damnips]

guess I deserve that one

[macho]

same here mate. i have also suffered through it as you are now. we have simillar story. there is one girl who really likes me. i also like her. but due to this fucking mediacal condition i cant go out and chill with her. everytime when my friends decide to go for a picnic, i starts finding excuses.
      i agree with ryanmace though that girls dont care much about stuff like that. i am overweight and also not so handsome that a beutiful girl like her can fall in love with me. but she never cares about my phuysical condition.
         but i dont want her to feel down when her girlfriends see me and tease her that "your boyfriend has menboobs"

[Finnish_dude]

I know how it feels man, but stay strong! U're getting ur surgery for free soon (same as in sweden I assume?), then u're free. Girls doesn't really care about stuff like that, and since u could play soccer with ur shirt off, I doubt it's that severe? Just hang in there!

Free surgery, as in Sweden. Unfortunately nurses strike made now waiting time longer to maximum 6 months, but that's okay since girl I've met is a nursing student 
So probably still 3 months to wait for surgery. My only stress is how to handle this issue with my mind. I know that gynecomastia is a common issue with my age men (20-25 years old).  Still I feel a creepy monster who boobs are the first thing which every new people stare at. I don't even mind go to night clubs, even I'm not the only one who has gynecomastia. Even pictures from my digital camera are deleted if I'm in the picture with my boobs. I know many people are camera shy, but this is just extremely patethic.

Again gynecomastia is like a cancer. It's not deadly, but it seriously spreads all over your body and ruining your mind and self-esteem.
Still 3 months  pain in the ass.

and next time soneone grabs at ur chest knock the s**t out of them or do something that would make them think twice about grabbing u again!

This happened in the high school over 6 years ago. Sadly I can't do anything to that issue and violence is not answer. The only thing which satisfies me is these bullies current poor condition; one of them is sitting in jail for DWI and second is using drugs. Couldn't care less for them. Still I'm very angry to the soccer referee for his little fantasies.