Raped because of gynecomastia

[bjonathan]

Maybe my story will be a little bit messy because I'm not used to write in english (it's a second language for me!)

So.. where do i begin.. I'm now 25 and I live in the Quebec Province in Canada with a public healthcare system.

It's started at 7. My parents divorced and I began to gain a little weight. At 10 yo when my nipples "came out", my mother and I thought it was because I was a little overweight.. But at 12yo it was breasts and people at school began to tease me because i was looking like a girl with a really tiny voice.. At 13yo i had the first diagnosis of gynecomastia. Six months later, I met a surgeon in the children's hospital (second diagnosis). She told she couldn't do anything before puberty.. So I waited puberty and i waited.. It came at 16½ yo. By this time, my family situation was horrible and my stepbrother raped me between 13 and 16 directly because I had breasts..

So, my teenage was terrible.. Kids teasing me, family issues, Uncles squizzing nipples, summers spent indoors.. I was alone, depressed and I gained weight..

At 17, I weighted 225 pounds. I went back to the surgeon.. There she told me I was too overweight.. For her the esthetical part was more important then my psychological health.. She was the first I told about what my stepbrother did, she didn't care..

Between 17 and 22, I didn't find any help.. I attempted to kill myself two times.. At 22, I weighted 340 pounds with the biggest boobs everyone here has ever seen. I saw another surgeon (third diagnosis), he told me I had to wait 4 years before a surgery if the government accepted to pay.. otherwise, i'll have to pay.. So I gave up..

I found help, I solve all my mental problems, i'm a new man, my stepbrother paid for what i did to me.. but i still have breasts.. I lost 60 pounds since november 2006 and I am very proud of that. Next week, i'll start again to be operate. I think I did a big part by loosing weight and being healthlier.. The most important for me is to remove these ugly things from my body.. I want to wear clothes that i want to wear not just because it hide my curves..

[to-be-or-not-to-be]

woww.....tuff life u had...glad ur holding up bro

[GynO_DuDe]

Forget telling your doctor ... i'd be going to the police!!!

Can't imagine how f*cked you feel ...

One day it will all be over!

[sim]

Weren't you able to defend yourself from him or stop him? If I were you I would have seriously hurt my stepbrother if he tried to do something like that.

[headheldhigh01]

good luck with your op, tu merites que le meilleur des resultats. 

[marmaduke]

Weren't you able to defend yourself from him or stop him? If I were you I would have seriously hurt my stepbrother if he tried to do something like that.

Yes, and you should have told your parents and/or the police.

There's nothing that can be done about crime if the victim does not report it.

[johnnybot]

man hope everything works out.I would have waited for your step brother to fall asleep the hit him in the throwt with a bat or something.  How did he pay like you said???

[Gcp]

Maybe my story will be a little bit messy because I'm not used to write in english (it's a second language for me!)

So.. where do i begin.. I'm now 25 and I live in the Quebec Province in Canada with a public healthcare system.

It's started at 7. My parents divorced and I began to gain a little weight. At 10 yo when my nipples "came out", my mother and I thought it was because I was a little overweight.. But at 12yo it was breasts and people at school began to tease me because i was looking like a girl with a really tiny voice.. At 13yo i had the first diagnosis of gynecomastia. Six months later, I met a surgeon in the children's hospital (second diagnosis). She told she couldn't do anything before puberty.. So I waited puberty and i waited.. It came at 16½ yo. By this time, my family situation was horrible and my stepbrother raped me between 13 and 16 directly because I had breasts..

So, my teenage was terrible.. Kids teasing me, family issues, Uncles squizzing nipples, summers spent indoors.. I was alone, depressed and I gained weight..

At 17, I weighted 225 pounds. I went back to the surgeon.. There she told me I was too overweight.. For her the esthetical part was more important then my psychological health.. She was the first I told about what my stepbrother did, she didn't care..

Between 17 and 22, I didn't find any help.. I attempted to kill myself two times.. At 22, I weighted 340 pounds with the biggest boobs everyone here has ever seen. I saw another surgeon (third diagnosis), he told me I had to wait 4 years before a surgery if the government accepted to pay.. otherwise, i'll have to pay.. So I gave up..

I found help, I solve all my mental problems, i'm a new man, my stepbrother paid for what i did to me.. but i still have breasts.. I lost 60 pounds since november 2006 and I am very proud of that. Next week, i'll start again to be operate. I think I did a big part by loosing weight and being healthlier.. The most important for me is to remove these ugly things from my body.. I want to wear clothes that i want to wear not just because it hide my curves..

http://eckharttolle.com/the_power_of_now

[Doolie]

To the idiots out there asking why bjonathan didn't defend himself you should be ashamed of yourselves for asking that.  If you stopped to think about it maybe it was because:  He was to small to physically defend himself, or he had such a low self worth he thought he deserved it, or he was afraid he would be killed or seriously fucked up, or accused of lying, or afraid it would draw attention to his gyne, or was too dpressed to do anything about it or who knows.  At any rate this man has triumphed remarkably over his issues and probably has it way more together than those of you who would have to audacity to suggest that he could have done something about it-shame on you.  CJ

[lee_fitness]

To the idiots out there asking why bjonathan didn't defend himself you should be ashamed of yourselves for asking that.  If you stopped to think about it maybe it was because:  He was to small to physically defend himself, or he had such a low self worth he thought he deserved it, or he was afraid he would be killed or seriously fucked up, or accused of lying, or afraid it would draw attention to his gyne, or was too dpressed to do anything about it or who knows.  At any rate this man has triumphed remarkably over his issues and probably has it way more together than those of you who would have to audacity to suggest that he could have done something about it-shame on you.  CJ

x2

[womanboob]

Hey dude sorry about your past..I didn't ever have that terrible of a childhood but I can relate because I was born/raised in Montreal and doctors there are different than doctors here because they are paid by the gov't so instead of telling you you do have a medical condition and bill you or your insurance company5+grand they send you home and tell you to suck it up. And its worse because in Montreal the hospitals are so packed that you often have to wait 2-4+ weeks to see a specialist.

And it's by no means a "way of life" but nobody seems to care about sexual abuse in montreal and it is so common almost every girl I've dated ended up telling me about their abused childhood at some point in the relationship and how nobody cared.

Montreal, and all of Quebec are more concerned about preserving their language and heritage than the commiunity's actual everyday problems.

Anyway you lived through it and you're definately improving your health by losing weight..keep up the good work and keep everyone posted

[womanboob]

To the idiots out there asking why bjonathan didn't defend himself you should be ashamed of yourselves for asking that.  If you stopped to think about it maybe it was because:  He was to small to physically defend himself, or he had such a low self worth he thought he deserved it, or he was afraid he would be killed or seriously fucked up, or accused of lying, or afraid it would draw attention to his gyne, or was too dpressed to do anything about it or who knows.  At any rate this man has triumphed remarkably over his issues and probably has it way more together than those of you who would have to audacity to suggest that he could have done something about it-shame on you.  CJ

x2

x3 but I'd say more ignorant than idiots unless it's happened to you what you suggest is very hard to do most victims will not even tell a best friend

[Paa_Paw]

First, I had no problem reading your post, you have a good command of English.

Saying that the Step-brother raped you because of the breasts is almost like saying that you caused the rape yourself. This is simply not true.

When you were raped, The person was committing a crime and you were a victim. It is that simple. It cannot be blamed on the breasts, They are/were a part of you, it is not rational to blame the victim for a crime.

Blaming you for his misdeeds was nothing less than yet another form of abuse.

Happily, you are now at a better time in your life. Congratulations.

[Dave_8]

Wonderfull ending to a life of adversity.

[johnnybot]

I didnt mean at the moment of rape I mean after. I didnt mean to offend even though my question made me look like an animal I really wanted to ask it so I did. There was a kid who beat me up in high school alot and we didnt even go to the same one. When I was in grade 9 I whent to his school and slaped him in the face with an extendo bat. his jaw broke in 2 places. I know not the same situation but still a helplessnes that I over came when I fucked his face up