What is your worst gynecomastia memory :'(

[Dave_8]

dude prodigy, i know how you feel man. being on vacation while still suffering with gyne is the worst. its like watching people stuffing their faces at a buffet after you havent eaten in a week and still aint able to eat (if you get it). I just want to go swimming without my shirt on. thats all i ask for.

[smok3y]

I've been doing weights for a few months and my pec muscle have increase in size, noticebly my puffy nipples can still be seen protruding from reasonbly tight shirt.
prior to my surgery which was yesturday, I told my mum that I have G (it suck that my dad and brother have flat contour chest).  I told my mum that I will have surgery to remove the breast tissue glands causing the puffiness, she replied, its because you're you have been working out thats why you have breasts, she was referring to pec muscle as breasts.
she wasn't aware about this condition.  I'd to explained to her, by taking off my shirt to describe the condition.  So embarrassing even thou it was my mum.  I am gladed I had surgery and wish I'd knew more about G and surgery back in my teens instead of living with it for more than 8 years.

Oher then that I can reflect with some of the stories on this thread, I remembered I hated summer as I always had an excuse to refuse going swimming or at the beaches and any activities required to take my shirts off.

[!!!LIfe!!!]

There are thousands of them that I can type right now... But one day comes to my mind right now.

It was gym class.. and there was one kid who was always hyper... He was a Competitor.... He hated loosing to any one... and would get so mad at himself if he lost or misses a shot...there was a lot of Testosterone in that body of his.

We were all playing two on two Basketball.. and he was off that day.. He was missing all the shots... and his team lost against my team....He went ape shit .. He started to curse at himself, he punched the wall and kicked the basketball like it was soccer ball.

I tried to be slick and said to him  "You need some anger management buddy"
He turned around and said to me "And you need some sports bra buddy"

I wanted to commit suicide.

[tartan_tiger]

There have been a few but the one that stands out most in my mind was when I first developed gynecomastia and I was still doing all my sports but it was something that I was worried people were going to notice. Anyway, I wasn't participating in gym that day because I had an injury and lots of kids hung out outside of the gym with the kids who weren't participating but we still had to wear our uniforms and so I was sitting next to this girl and this jerk was like, you have really big boobs, and the girl next to me was like, "thanks... I guess" and he said, "No, I'm talking to him" and he pointed to me. Then everyone was staring and laughing and making jokes about it, I was mortified. I quit the track team the next day and I haven't played any sports at all since then and that was about 7 years ago.

[Cellar_Door]

I avoided a relationship with a girl I really, really liked - and she was crazy about me. Damn it, 4 years later it still pisses me off.

[tartan_tiger]

I avoided a relationship with a girl I really, really liked - and she was crazy about me. Damn it, 4 years later it still pisses me off.

Happened to me too. In fact, she even asked me out.

[Cellar_Door]

There have been a few but the one that stands out most in my mind was when I first developed gynecomastia and I was still doing all my sports but it was something that I was worried people were going to notice. Anyway, I wasn't participating in gym that day because I had an injury and lots of kids hung out outside of the gym with the kids who weren't participating but we still had to wear our uniforms and so I was sitting next to this girl and this jerk was like, you have really big boobs, and the girl next to me was like, "thanks... I guess" and he said, "No, I'm talking to him" and he pointed to me. Then everyone was staring and laughing and making jokes about it, I was mortified. I quit the track team the next day and I haven't played any sports at all since then and that was about 7 years ago.

Reading stuff like that - all over this forum, continually - makes me angry. What unthinking, abusive, sneering little fuckers. Their words can do years of damage.

[tartan_tiger]

There have been a few but the one that stands out most in my mind was when I first developed gynecomastia and I was still doing all my sports but it was something that I was worried people were going to notice. Anyway, I wasn't participating in gym that day because I had an injury and lots of kids hung out outside of the gym with the kids who weren't participating but we still had to wear our uniforms and so I was sitting next to this girl and this jerk was like, you have really big boobs, and the girl next to me was like, "thanks... I guess" and he said, "No, I'm talking to him" and he pointed to me. Then everyone was staring and laughing and making jokes about it, I was mortified. I quit the track team the next day and I haven't played any sports at all since then and that was about 7 years ago.

Reading stuff like that - all over this forum, continually - makes me angry. What unthinking, abusive, sneering little fuckers. Their words can do years of damage.

Yep. That changed it from something I was really uncomfortable about to something that made me actively hide it and avoid being around other people. Lots of people give you the whole "sticks and stones" nonsense but verbal and emotional abuse can have far worse and longer lasting consequences than almost any physical violence.

[Cellar_Door]

Absolutely.

[demha]

There have been a few but the one that stands out most in my mind was when I first developed gynecomastia and I was still doing all my sports but it was something that I was worried people were going to notice. Anyway, I wasn't participating in gym that day because I had an injury and lots of kids hung out outside of the gym with the kids who weren't participating but we still had to wear our uniforms and so I was sitting next to this girl and this jerk was like, you have really big boobs, and the girl next to me was like, "thanks... I guess" and he said, "No, I'm talking to him" and he pointed to me. Then everyone was staring and laughing and making jokes about it, I was mortified. I quit the track team the next day and I haven't played any sports at all since then and that was about 7 years ago.

Reading stuff like that - all over this forum, continually - makes me angry. What unthinking, abusive, sneering little fuckers. Their words can do years of damage.

Yep. That changed it from something I was really uncomfortable about to something that made me actively hide it and avoid being around other people. Lots of people give you the whole "sticks and stones" nonsense but verbal and emotional abuse can have far worse and longer lasting consequences than almost any physical violence.

Verbal and emotional abuse usually hurts when the truth is involved. Exactly like gynecomastia; something we know, dread and keep hidden. I remember once I made a joke about this girl who was flat chested; they were making friendly mockery of her boobs and she enjoyed it("you've got big boobs" "someones gonna grab them" etc). This was gr 8 and I was pretty immature so I tell the guy sitting beside me "first she has to grow them". The dumbass repeats it to her and she looks at me then starts weeping(I have never seen this girl cry before); of course I apologize afterwards but the damage was done.

One quote I recently heard from the famous boxer Riddick Bowe on "legendary nights bowe/Golota" was "God has a way of humbling you, maybe somewhere down the  line I did something wrong or snobbish and he decided to bring me back down to earth." Looking back on those days, maybe I wasnt so innocent and I had to be humbled somehow. People make fun of me for having breasts and I make fun of a girl for not having them. Right now Im post-op and I cant describe well enough what it feels like to be able to take my shirt off without  hesitation. People say it feels great! but to me it's a dull feeling, nothing like recieving a new privledge or benefit. More like finally getting what I was obligated to get. That said god plz dont be angry and give me back gynecomastia.
 

[Cellar_Door]

You're very right about your first point: it's the remarks that have some truth to them that sting. I think an important qualification to that point is this: some part of you must be trying to deny the fact.

Example:
If you are 100% open about having gyno, a remark from someone like "you have breasts" will not sting.
If you have 0% gyno, and you know it, and someone jokingly says "you have breasts", you will laugh it off as a false joke
If you have gyno, but part of you tries to conceal it, the remark will cut deep.

I just find the psychology interesting.

Also, personally I don't believe that the Creator of the Universe gives a damn about your gyno and is punishing you for hubris or snobbery - he sort of has bigger problems to deal with, like starving children, children born with terrible mutilations, daily torture and rape, and so on.

[demha]

You're very right about your first point: it's the remarks that have some truth to them that sting. I think an important qualification to that point is this: some part of you must be trying to deny the fact.

Example:
If you are 100% open about having gyno, a remark from someone like "you have breasts" will not sting.
If you have 0% gyno, and you know it, and someone jokingly says "you have breasts", you will laugh it off as a false joke
If you have gyno, but part of you tries to conceal it, the remark will cut deep.

I just find the psychology interesting.

Also, personally I don't believe that the Creator of the Universe gives a damn about your gyno and is punishing you for hubris or snobbery - he sort of has bigger problems to deal with, like starving children, children born with terrible mutilations, daily torture and rape, and so on.

You make a point and since you said personally I`m not gonna argue about your opinion. But, sometimes I wonder if my gyn was not just bad luck because without it I wouldn`t be as humbled as I am now.

[Cellar_Door]

Again, I'll throw in personally: I think that's the most self-aggrandizing, arrogant, myopic thing a person could possibly say.

[demha]

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[Cellar_Door]

It was a form of consciousness awareness, which had little effect.

If you think about it, imaging the creator of the universe - of all the billions of planets and galaxies, all the billions of humans that ever lived, dreamed, hoped, fought, loved, hated, suffered, and died on our own tiny planet in this insanely massive universe, all the horrific and traumatic and earth shattering events that have taken place ever since humans evolved, the sheer complexity of so many people interacting together for a short time on this spec of cosmic dust before they die, full of millions of children who live with maggots coming out of their eyes and born with genetic diseases that cause untold misery, that the creator of the universe thinks you - a single primate amongst billions - is so important enough in the scheme of the universe as to warrant endowing you with pubertal gyno in order to give you some humbleness, then hooollleeeyy shit. That comes close to being a mental disease. It's solipsistic narcissism at its worst.

Only, it's so entrenched in our society that we call this mental disease religion. There is safety in numbers.