Hi everyone,
I am new to posting on this board but I have been lurking on it for years and really appreciate the wealth of information it has provided me with. Like most of you, I suffer from gynecomastia and so I empathize with the struggle that you all endure. My case is mild so I have not endured any ridicule for it but I'm sure that others have noticed when I'm not wearing a compression garment and not said anything. I know what it means to have diminished confidence and chest obsession because of it.
I am 29 years old, 6 ft tall and weigh 170 lbs. My gynecomastia did not emerge during puberty but rather resulted from medication I took when I was 21-22 years old(Zyprexa/Risperdal for my Bipolar disorder). I discontinued using these drugs after about a year due to severe weight gain (I shot up to 220 lbs) and the onset of my gynecomastia. Despite losing 50 lbs many years ago, my gynecomastia persists and I have strong suspicion that it is largely glandular(I understand that only surgery can reveal its true pathology). I would classify my gynecomastia as mild yet more severe than puffy nipples.
As my 30th birthday nears, I have done a lot of reflection on my life thus far. One of the things I have thought a lot about is how much my gynecomastia has robbed me of in the realm of confidence and self-esteem. Despite being good looking, these struggles have been largely detrimental to my demeanor with women despite being confident around my men. Despite my strong opposition to debt, I made the decision to borrow the money for surgery. I was approved for a loan at my credit union at a good rate and it was funded on Monday. I consider the procedure as a gift to myself and an important step towards a richer, fuller life.
I have contacted the office of a well-respected plastic surgeon in my hometown of Portland, OR and have my initial consultation with her today. According to her receptionist, she performs approximately 70 gynecomastia surgeries a year and the total cost of surgery for mild to moderate cases is $5000. I seriously considered flying across the country to have my surgery done by Dr. Bermeant but I can't get the time off of work nor can I afford the significant expense of travel, lodging, car rental, etc. I have student loans, a mortgage, and other expenses I have to take into consideration when adding to my debt load.
My primary anxiety regarding the procedure is that I will not be satisfied with the results. I have student loans, a mortgage, and simply can't afford to spend more on revision surgery. I considered flying across the country to have it done by Dr. Bermeant but I can't afford the additional cost of plane tickets, hotels, car rentals, etc. I will scrutinize her before and after pictures tomorrow and seek out another surgeon if I am at all skeptical. If any of you can suggest a skilled surgeon in Portland I would appreciate it. Seattle would work too as it is within driving distance and since my father works there during the week I would have a place to stay.
Unfortunately, my family has been absolutely unsupportive of my decision to borrow money to fund my surgery. They are extremely financially conservative and believe that debt should not be undertaken for anything other than a home or education. It's easy to say this when you occupy the top tax bracket like they do and can afford to simply write a check, even for a new car. What's more, they say my gynecomastia is mild and that surgery would be because of 'vanity.' All of you know that this is absolutely not the case for 99% of us. Those of us with gynecomastia simply desire to have a normal, masculine physique and are condition is a source of constant anxiety. Despite their objections and desire to please them, I have decided to undergo the surgery without telling them. I don't want to deal with their nagging or rebuke, especially when it's unjustified. My sister has been supportive and has committed to transport me on the day of my surgery.
Sorry for the length of this post but I wanted to give you all a comprehensive introduction. Reading others' stories on this board has been highly constructive for me. I hope that sharing my journey will be beneficial for me and for all of you. I will post photos tomorrow and will give you an update on my consultation with the surgeon. As always, your feedback and advice is appreciated.
Thanks,
The Kid