Accepted? Most Likely.

[TomJones]

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[hammer]

Tom, I mean this with no disrespect, but welcome to the men's club! Welcome to the forum as well.

I'll be 56 this Wednesday and I'm one of the guys that have lived with these "breast" (I call them what they are) all my life and accept them 99% of the time. Due to health problems and lost of testicles my have grown to slightly larger then DD, but I stay with the DD bra to try and make them look as small as I can, but now and then I will wear a full support bra and let then stand out instead of a minimizer bra and that feels good and comfortable.

I to served 11 years total Navy active Army Reserves, father of 5 grandfather of 3 still happily married to second wife 26 years the mother of my two daughters. She helps me buy the bras, my daughters support the fact that I wear them, my closes family members and a few friends know as well, and my primary care doctor at the VA medical center told me that I should be wearing one all the time. I have my complete story in "my story after all these years" in stories.

Tom you or we are not alone and there is no need to get them cut off! I can understand the young men wanting to do that when they feel they need to, but I didn't ever feel that way nor even had that thought as a young man but that was then and this is now. At our age I see no need and with my size it would be a hard surgery, and a waist of money.

I hope that your wife supports you with the idea of wearing bras. We here have a saying, bras are for supporting breast and it doesn't matter if the breast are on a man or women! We have doctors that have agreed including mine.

Tom, I wish you the best! Once again welcome to the forum.


Bob aka Hammer

[walt]

hi Tom I also wear a sports bra I usually get either Danskins or Fruit of the loom T shirt bra from wallyworld.my breasts are somewhat larger than what you have and droop like a female breast does. I get pain and discomfort from working heavily or jogging as well as driving my truck,i would download some pix but im unable to at this time.im happily married with 4 girls and I boy, my girls and I go bra shopping together.and the wife is supportive as well and as for the gym I wear a sports bra when I work out seems im not alone one other guy wears one as wewll seems no one really cares or just too shocked to say something .anyhow best of luck and keep the breasts supported!

[hammer]

Good for you Tom! I did the same as for taking my shirt off, and did so until I got a little bigger then you are now! I can't remember how big I was, but we were always away at camp grounds so I didn't care as no one know me. The last time I know was we were in Duluth MN for a home school convention and my wife and I went into the hot tub while the kids where in the pool around 8-10 years ago and I was about a "C" cup" and it didn't seem to make a seen at all.


Bob

[walt]

Hello Tom and Hammer , I as well take off my shirt at the beach and the public pool and have not had any comments,sometimes the younger guys have some rather large breasts and seems no one cares around here its a college town.again what ever makes you feel comfy should be the rule not the exeption.Blessings all.

[Paa_Paw]

Welcome to the club no one really wants to be a member of.

(Ending a sentence with a preposition may not be good English, but who cares.)

My measurements are 46B and I am 76 years old. So?

For a number of us, this is something we have had since youth. For others is is the price we pay for good health. For some more, It is something associated with old age. Of those Men who actually reach the age of eighty plus, almost 75-80% have this condition.

Some young men over do the steroids and cause the condition. Drugs for depression and ADHD are sometimes the culprit. In our middle years, The culprit might be drugs used to treat Hypertension or prostate problems. In later years it simply could be that our testosterone has fallen off enough to allow it. None of those are the major cause though. The major cause seems to be "Your guess is as good as mine."

[Alchemist]

Hi Tom,

As has been said welcome to the club nobody wants their body to be in.  As the cumulative incidence is 50-60% over a lifetime breasts on men are the norm, at least by about my age of soon to be 66.  Look on the bright side of life, it's just the fickle finger of fate. At least you can pass the pencil test and don't have skin problems like some men and women.  With 150 million or so men developing breasts during a 50 year period of their lives that is 3 million a year or so.  Of that 5500 had a chop job in 2011 or 2012, not sure which.  The rate of increase is 20% a year currently.  That amounts to 0.001833333 of the current incidence, not even 2 tenths of 1%. 

Choosing surgery is very much a very small minority choice.  It's not only the cost of a double mastectomy for guys like us.  There is potentially dissatisfaction and needing one or more revisions.  Some guys regret ever having their surgery and feel like they ended up worse than they started out.  There are complications of all surgeries.  I had a friend die of anesthesia shock prior to even starting surgery.  My fathers life was destroyed by incompetent parathyroid surgery.  The lawyer told him he had a great case but that it would take the rest of his life pursuing it to possibly win the case.  If he won eventually in court it would still be a loss.

Then there are scars galore when so much skin has to removed and stitched together again.  There is loss of nerve function and sensation.  As a nudist I have seen a lot of reconstruction of the ladies and the best are still obviously not so great looking and obvious from farther away than across the pool.  I've seen the suffering during a not so great recovery and heard about it in excruciating detail. At 18 I might have considered it as junior high was hell and misery and high school wasn't much better. In college I started dating the girl who founded the school nudist club.  By 24 my life was changed when a guy ran through a red light and started my life of unending pain and problems and my breasts were not a consideration after that.

I work in the garden shirtless and mow my lawn (don't have a front lawn) shirtless.  I can start on my tan in March around here getting ready for the summer at a mountain nudist resort.  The old lady next door used to pull the curtains and keep her hubby from seeing.  The people there now in their 20s never come outside when I am shirtless.  Same is true for the next house over.  That is their problem. My story is also posted in 2 parts.  This is the same town where a female friend of mine was escorted from a county swimming pool for being shirtless in the women's locker room after a complaint.  She complained to the County management and the young lady manager was reprimanded and an apology was made. 

I was told by a woman at a public pool one time that I ought to be arrested for "displaying myself to all the children" except that as she said a complaint wouldn't do any good.  I absolutely refuse to be intimidated by such as her and invited her to a nudist club so that she would get a more realistic view and could take her clothing off too so we could compare.  She stomped off fuming.  For men its "Oh so you get off on man boobs?" or "Oh, so you like to be a bully".  I know very well how to handle bullies.  I can still catch a glass of water I knock over before it goes below the level of the table and often before it spills more than a few drops and that from grabbing it fast.  In Utah there is tremendous body fear and shame and hate.