why, just why

[h8mylife]

Why does this crap exist, like I didn’t even know it existed I just thought I was a bit chubby and all the way from June 2016 to December I ate 1500 calories a day and did P90x every single day and most days go for a run to add to that, while starving myself thinking that my weird chest would go away and it never did and then I found out that gynocomastia was a thing that only leaves from surgery and doctors charge thousands of bucks to kids who get made fun of every day at school for something they can’t do anything about, my life sucks. I’m 18 btw and I’ve been living in hell for the past 4 years

[hammer]

I'm sorry that it is this way now days! I'm 60 and I had it as a young man too, but back in the "old" days if anyone would give my any crap about it I would just put them in a bad place, if you know what I mean, but now days you can't stand up for yourself!

Have you talked to anyone about this and how it effects you?

You have come to the right forum for support, we are all here for either surgery or acceptance, so welcome.

[HairyKnockers]

At 18 a lot of things seem like the end of the world.  That was a lifetime ago for me, like Hammer said things were simpler then.  Your screen name says a lot about how you feel, “h8mylife”.  You don’t want to even think about hating your life, it is the only one you have.   Maybe Hammer will give you a link to his story on this site.  He has been through a lot and he doesn’t even come close to hating his life.  Probably because he has faith, that always helps.

You are 18 and on the internet, Google Soren Kierkegaard.  Maybe you even need to pick up a couple of his books—or Kindle it or whatever you younger people do now.  I immediately thought of Kierkegaard when I read your post.  Two of my favorite quotes of his are:

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”  That is why I have perspective and you are in great pain.  I am now looking backwards at the time you must live your life forward.

“Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.”   I have quoted that to many clients who say they came to me to solve their life’s problems.  Can’t be done; no one can solve YOUR life’s problems they can only point you in the direction to experience it.

A third one for a bonus is really applicable to your situation with your life attitude: “Once you label me you negate me.”  I say once you accept that label of having gynecomastia, you have negated yourself.  You and I are both more than our breasts.

If Kierkegaard is a little heavy to start with, Google Solomon’s Ring—the basis of “This too shall pass”.

Chin up and go live your life.  Your got at least a $200 session out of me for free, your lucky day.

[hammer]

Hairyknockers made some great points! One thing that you find when you get at our end of the stages of life. All those things we thought were such big deals and were "worth dyeing for" or how ever you would like to look at it were just wrinkles in our tee shirts as we look back at then now, another words, no big deal at all, not even worth a second thought!

It gets rather long, but if you would like to look at it, in stories, " my story after all these years" is my story! I'll be doing an update soon. I'm going in tomorrow for my 9th surgery. It will be my 4th back surgery.  This one isn't as major as my past, just a bulging disc pushing on a nerve, so it will be just over night. My longest was in 09, 9 hours of surgery, but being bull headed  as I am, surgery on Friday, home on Monday!

My feelings have always been, that life is short, so don't let the little crap get you down, don't let anything major stop you, and don't let anyone put or hold you down!

That's why I stay as positive as possible. I don't let the need of a wheelchair stop me from hunting, fishing, ice fishing, snow removal, camping or anything else that I feel I still can, one way or another.

And most importantly of all, read the two sayings at the bottom of each of my post.

[Paa_Paw]

You are both lucky and unlucky.  You are here at a time when surgery is safe and effective.   Unlucky because those of us who are older had no choice in the matter.  Surgery was not a good option for us so living with the condition was the only thing we could do.  It was not a big deal for us because it was something we had no control over.  I was usually a pretty easy going kid, but if someone teased me about my condition, I would cause them pain.  Funny how that stopped the teasing.