So I am a 40 year old rather fit married man who has dealt with excess chest fat since childhood. I've been told by others that I need a bra. My current doctor actually suggested that I should wear a bra daily due to a current medical condition. I've always been uncomfortable about my chest and growing up I did all kinds of different strength training and lifted wieghts, nothing seemed to eliminate the excess chest fat. I'm not sure if it just fat or if it's gyno, but I've never been able to make it go away no matter what I tried. I've always been a manly man and have a hard time accepting the fact that at least 5 doctors so far have suggested that I wear a bra. My current doctor actually commented that I fill it out nicely when I went to see her for an appointment and I was still wearing one. I am just torn now cause I can't seem to overcome the hurdle of accepting that I need one and being out in public whilst wearing one. I don't think I could handle the rude or cure comments from others. I never pictured myself in this situation, I always figured at some point that the excess chest fat would go away through exercise or diet but nothing has worked. Now I'm not saying I'm huge by any means, but it's enough to be noticeable even without a bra. Years ago when I first met my wife, my mother in law looked me square in the eye and said, you need a bra. And that was a shocker to me coming from this woman. And at that time I hadn't even thought of wearing one even with all the teasing from others. I just am at a point where I don't know what I should do. I can't afford to have surgery, but can't go out in public wearing a bra, but also can't go without one due to pain. I injured myself pretty good on a rescue call and tore the intercostal muscles in my right chest, tore the right rohmboid muscle completely off in my back, and all the doctors I've been sent to say there is nothing they can do to repair the damage as its been 3 years since the injury. So now having some excess chest fat and a lot of muscle damage, there isn't much to support my right side and the constant bouncing and jiggling is extremely painfull. I need constant chest compression and I've literally spent thousands on different type braces and compression shirts but to no avail. Then one of the doctors I was seeing for the injury suggested I try a bra, it was instant relief, then all the others jumped on the bandwagon as far as me wearing a bra to support my chest and give some comfort. So again, here I sit, stuck either wearing my bra in secret from others trying not to be found out, or I go without and I'm in pain all day. Luckily my wife has been right by my side through all of this and she does her best to help me through all of it. I guess it's like she tells me, who cares what anyone thinks of it, it helps you make it through your day with less pain. But that is easier said than done when ever I try to go out while wearing.