Growing Boobs

[ilikemytits]

The only discomfort that might have something to do with my breasts is some chafing where the breasts rub against my arms. Have any of you experienced that?

YES! I need side support myself to pull the tissue forward enough so that my arms don't rub the sides. There are many women who need the same support. It is more common than you might think.

That must be it - thanks. Now I need bra recommendations. I'd like to buy the right bra and try wearing it all day.

Look for bras that have "side support". It will be in the description of the bra. I am wide set and shallow but fairly round on the outer sides of my breasts like many women's breast. I started noticing it about 3 or 4 months after I started wearing a bra and swooping and scooping into the cups. I seemed to have had a lot of tissue in my arm pits that I never knew about and after some time of swooping and scooping it into the cups, it altered my shape from a cone like shape to a more full rounded look like a women's breast and hence my arms started running into my breasts. It appears I had more breast tissue that I originally thought and that ultimately pushed my size to a DD/DDD depending on the bra. I mentioned it to my fitter and she looked and said that she could see my shaped had changed. She also said that is not uncommon as weight change and age will cause that and she had just the bra that could fix that and while it pulled my bust more forward, and more female like with a little more projection since the tissue is pulled forward, physics demand that the tissue has to go somewhere if you move it, I no longer run my arms into my breasts. That is one of the reasons there are so many different kinds of bras. No two breasts are alike and depending on the bra, you can shape your chest to look anyway you want. That is why some bras work with some tops and the same bra doesn't work with other tops. You have to have the right bra for the right top for the look you are wanting, including a look that doesn't put the girls on display but you get the support you need without looking like a guy in drag. I have learned that women are masters of disguise when it comes to displaying or not displaying their breasts and I am trying to learn some of those hacks for myself. What I have found is that women do not always put their breasts on display like most men think they do. They are there, but you don't notice them and then other times, boobs are you see. Sneeky!

Great advice - thanks!

[SideSet]

You both sound like you have the same attitudes as women about having breasts 

[Johndoe1]

I haven't been shirtless swimming since I was in high school. Usually an oversized tee shirt that hangs and not forms to the body, but I have been looking for a swim bra kind of bikini top to wear under my shirt when swimming. Freya used to make what they called a "crop top" swim top with a low rounded neck line that looked more like a bra. Now everything like that has a high neckline that can be seen peeking out of the collar of a tee shirt or they are halters that tie around the neck and is totally exposed around the neck in a tee shirt. Guess just a bad time to be looking for that kind of swim top. 

[ilikemytits]

I haven't been shirtless swimming since I was in high school. Usually an oversized tee shirt that hangs and not forms to the body, but I have been looking for a swim bra kind of bikini top to wear under my shirt when swimming. Freya used to make what they called a "crop top" swim top with a low rounded neck line that looked more like a bra. Now everything like that has a high neckline that can be seen peeking out of the collar of a tee shirt or they are halters that tie around the neck and is totally exposed around the neck in a tee shirt. Guess just a bad time to be looking for that kind of swim top.

As for other items of clothing, women have a lot more choices than men. I don't think I'd be afraid to wear a women's swim top because I have breasts just like a woman and happy about it.

[Johndoe1]

While modesty plays into for me, it's also comfort. I really don't like to not be supported anymore. The support and containment of the bust has become reassuring that the girls aren't misbehaving and drawing unwanted attention. 

[ilikemytits]

While modesty plays into for me, it's also comfort. I really don't like to not be supported anymore. The support and containment of the bust has become reassuring that the girls aren't misbehaving and drawing unwanted attention.

I understand. Mine aren't yet uncomfortable without support.

[ilikemytits]

It can't express how happy I am to have found this community of men who like having breasts. I thought I might be transgender even though I've never felt like a woman in a man's body. I just greatly prefer a more feminine body and am happy that I'm headed that way. Developing breasts, losing most of my body hair and having softer skin are all wonderful to me. It's a bit like being reborn into an upgraded male body.

[Johndoe1]

I don't know if "liking" is the term I personally would use but my attitude has become if I am "blessed" to have a chest, then I want every thing that entitles to me. Or to put it in the male vernacular, Go big or go home.

[ilikemytits]

I don't know if "liking" is the term I personally would use but my attitude has become if I am "blessed" to have a chest, then I want every thing that entitles to me. Or to put it in the male vernacular, Go big or go home.

Exactly. If I'm going to have breasts, please let them be big, full and round.

[Goodnplenty]

For most of my life I didn't have breasts and my general thought on the matter was "why would any man want breasts?  That's kinda weird. "  But after growing my own and gaining more nipple and breast sensitivity my thoughts have changed.  I'm very surprised at how much I like and enjoy all the new sensations and that comes with a lot of internal conflict.  I think that I'm leaning more and more towards the I love having breasts side of things.  I agree with the statement "if I'm going to have breasts, I want to have great breasts".

[Johndoe1]

For most of my life I didn't have breasts and my general thought on the matter was "why would any man want breasts?  That's kinda weird. "  But after growing my own and gaining more nipple and breast sensitivity my thoughts have changed.  I'm very surprised at how much I like and enjoy all the new sensations and that comes with a lot of internal conflict.  I think that I'm leaning more and more towards the I love having breasts side of things.  I agree with the statement "if I'm going to have breasts, I want to have great breasts".

I don't think it's the attitude, I think it's the chemicals in your body that is driving that. I have seen where trans MtF who were not attracted to males before HRT, become attracted to males after transition. While I know my estrogen level is considerably higher than other males and my testosterone is lower than other males, and I admit that I have found that there are certain female feelings and attitudes I do have, but in my whole life I have NEVER been attracted to males nor have I felt I am a woman trapped in a man's body even though I have had gynecomastia since puberty. I am just a guy who has a unique understanding of certain female issues because of a natural occurring deficiency of a certain male chemical and an over abundance of another certain female chemical in my body that causes certain female traits that are not common in a male. Do I WANT to be a woman? Absolutely not. No. I do not. I have no desire to present female. That is not who I am. I DO want to physically be comfortable, and if that means that some articles of female clothing fit me better than male clothing, then I should be able to wear what is comfortable and no one else should even give it a second thought. But that is not the reality, sadly.

[JohannK]

That's an interesting, and refreshingly scientific way of seeing things.  Nowadays people are too quick to reject any remotely scientific observation.  Just a quick warning though, part of what you said can very easily anger the feelings-police.

Anyway, I personally have come to the conclusion that my personality is skewed to the feminine side.  Why that is, I'm not 100% sure, but your explaination does make sense.  Although I didn't have gynecomastia in my teenage years, I do wonder if my hormones are entirely what you'd expect for someone my age (that goes all the way back).  On the other hand, I started going bald (noticably) at 16.  So that along with my relatively wearwolf appearance points to high DHT.

[Johndoe1]

Just a quick warning though, part of what you said can very easily anger the feelings-police.

This PC world is a double edge sword. I think "those people" forget that. I look at it this way: Why should I worry about someone else's feelings when they clearly don't care about mine? I can't help I have boobs. I can't help I physically feel more comfortable supported. If that hurts someone's feelings. TUFF TITTIE! (pun intended) It's my life, not there's.

I would guess the response would be muted at best and scrambling for relevance at the worst.

Just a life time of putting up with crap from both men and women about my bust.

[JohannK]

It's all a matter of finding the right balance.  I'm personally not intentionally saying things to offend, but realistically speaking it's impossible to live without ever ofending anybody.

In case you wondered, I was referring to that bit about how you've seen changes in sexuality during those transitions.  That's what I consider to be a scientificaly minded observation (even though it's not on a large enough scale to serve as irrefutable evidence), but it goes against the "born this way" viewpoint.  We all have our share of remarks/bullying/rejection, but not everybody sees it that way.

[Johndoe1]

It's all a matter of finding the right balance.  I'm personally not intentionally saying things to offend, but realistically speaking it's impossible to live without ever ofending anybody.

In case you wondered, I was referring to that bit about how you've seen changes in sexuality during those transitions.  That's what I consider to be a scientificaly minded observation (even though it's not on a large enough scale to serve as irrefutable evidence), but it goes against the "born this way" viewpoint.  We all have our share of remarks/bullying/rejection, but not everybody sees it that way.

No worries. I completely understood what you were saying. I was just saying that after a lifetime of dealing with crap over my chest, I am to the point, I don't really care what others think. It hasn't helped me at all and they usually don't think beyond their own insecurities before saying something about someone else.

As far as the "born this way", if your chemicals are so off that you develop depending on your chemicals and they don't line up with the physical appearance, then there maybe something to it. I don't know. I ain't that smart.