Author Topic: Feminizing My Wardrobe  (Read 3649 times)

Busted (and happy)

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Comfort first, foremost and always. 
Economically, I will not pay more to buy mens clothing that is less comfortable. 
Womens are often available very cheaply at seasonal sales due to changing colours and styles

Offline concernedjacob

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I have to admit I had a hard time with this thread at first. 
Feminizing My Wardrobe,  by sound and definition makes us believe a wig is on the shelf above the hanging clothes.  Mychal Bloodwing, I don't think that was your intent.  I'm, from what I know here, am happy you are where you are.  We all buy what fits. 
  I like how Busted & Happy put it.  I left this site for a while because I felt like I was a part of a subset of the culture that being a man, liked to dress as a woman.  I rejoined for the support of men needing to navigate life as a man with gifts.  I like, and look for advice from "gifted" men.  Living as and happy to be, a man. 
I don't want to be associated with those seeking the thrill factor from dressing as a woman.  I do however respect those that had an extra dose that I didn't get and have those urges.  I was hopping this site was for gifted men.  I'm sure there are sites for the others. 
Not trying to run this off track, just felt I needed to make a suttle point.
Again, I mean this with no disrespect.
exactly! I identify as a straight man and do not want to "feminize" myself

the problem is society is so extremely judgmental about gyno they also call them bitch breasts and such, they dont treat the sufferer as a real man

each to their own, but i came here to cope with the condition and hide it, to me acceptance means living with it, not cherishing it

i would still get rid of it if i had the financial opportunity
just an older gyno sufferer

Offline 42CSurprise!

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Funny to read this thread after not posting on this website for some time.  Men with breasts letting testosterone remain in charge.  I hope everyone knows that it is estrogen that contributes to development of gynecomastia.  This website was started by a gay man with breasts he wasn't excited to have.  He cut them off and then sold this site to the doctors offering that service.  Men on this side of the forum are choosing to accept the breasts that have developed on their chest.  It is a tough place for a macho man to stand.  In a world where the younger generation is much more gender fluid, I guess it isn't surprising that the old men who arrive at this site, sometimes because of drugs taken for this or that reason creating breasts, would resist the notion that feminizing could be part of the whole process.

My former wife bought me a woman's purple turtleneck a few years ago not because I needed it to accommodate my breasts but because I couldn't find that color on the men's side of the aisle.  I've been frustrated for years because I like color in my wardrobe and folks producing clothes for men seem to think color is for women or gay men.  I'm neither but I love color.  I looked at the link OP included at the beginning of this thread and was delighted to see the colors on offer.  Alas, I also have fairly broad shoulders and that purple turtleneck simply didn't fit well.  I don't think I'll get color in my wardrobe this way.

So men here wear brassieres, sometimes wear panties, like women's shirts that provide room for their breasts, talk for years with other men about having breasts and sometimes say they'd welcome larger ones, then talk about the best brassiere to buy... and are offended if someone goes too far in saying they want to feminize themselves.  Testosterone wins again... more's the pity.

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I have struggled with very lowT for the last three years. Amazing what it does to you mentally and physically. Mentally..who am I now....physically...boobs!..more fat in the butt and thighs. Wear women’s jeans now because they fit better. Wear sports bras to help hide my boobs. I was going to start testosterone treatments until I started talking to others about it. The side effects....no thanks!...I too like color now. My wife loves the new me. No more toxic masculinity. Not going back there. So testosterone will not win this one. I have learned after the mental struggle to accept this. If others don’t like it....who cares. I am a much happier person now and it shows. People have even made comments about how I have changed and are much happier to be around me now.

Busted (and happy)

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The only issue that I see is "feminising" in the sense it is commonly understood.  Taking hormones, wearing make up and high heels, consciously trying to appear as woman etc........ If that floats your boat fine but this site is one of the few that cater for men whose body, not just boobs, through no desire of their own, become somewhat feminine (usually to their horror.)

This is a  site that can freely be recommended to wives or young teens without hesitation because it is not "weird". (Other than when a few people with a sub agenda occasionally take over for a while.)
I do not want to stifle views, but we must imo keep within bounds views that might stop newbie gyno sufferers  engaging for the help they need. We should all remember our reluctance to even try a Bra!

Discussion of clothing here is all about clothes that fit and are comfortable. Males on this thread who to their delight are discovering the joys of women's jeans are not "feminising themselves"  - just their wardrobes  and  finding clothes that fit.
That may of may not lead to other items as well.

For myself, 95% of my clothes come from the women's aisles but I do not present as anything other than male.

Hormones have a great deal to answer for but there is no great war going on within bodies. Oestrogen does not make me wear women's jeans, it is comfort and fit. More elasticity to accommodate non average shape.
Similarly it is not Androgens in women that make them wear trousers.



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Offline 42CSurprise!

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Is it okay if the brassiere is pink and has lace on it?  I just want to understand what the rules are...

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42C surprise. I was on this site (under a different ID)  when you were posting everywhere along somewhat similar lines. Some tried to engage totally unsuccessfully with you.
Excuse me if I don't rise to your bait.
There are no 'rules' but there is such a thing as discretion.

Please don't reply. I have found from past observation that these things pass in time when ignored. Anything else would be non contributory.
End of topic (for me at least}
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Offline curiousk

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Is it okay if the brassiere is pink and has lace on it?  I just want to understand what the rules are...
It is ok to wear any kind of bra you’d like as long as it’s comfortable and supports your breasts.  I have 2 lace bras I wear and like them a lot.  They aren’t pink, but I’d have no problem wearing a pink one.

Offline Johndoe1

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I have several lace underwire bras I wear in the summer. Lace is a surprising strong fabric that is light weight and breathable. I would die of heat stroke if I had to wear only padded or lined bras in the summer. Lace is much cooler and supports very well. It's also more stealthy with less bulk for the support. Mine are different colors depending my mood. I also have a maroon colored lace bralette for those times when I am not needing quite the structured support of an underwire, but still desire to be supported.
Womanhood is not defined by breasts, and breasts are not indicative of womanhood. - Melissa Fabello

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Breaking my silence promised above, there are only 3 considerations :
1. Comfort
.2 Comfort
3. You've probably guessed .......... Comfort
Colour, style, fabric are all irrelevant if these three conditions are met. 
Lace is cooler in summer - colour in my experience doesn't affect functional properties! Really! 


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Johndoe 1

I agree. Lace is really a very underestimated bra material.
In its traditional form it is non stretch and as such is extremely functional it giving support as well as being cooler.
Somewhat strangely, its visually pronounced texture is in no way uncomfortable to the wearer.

It is, however, much more noticeable if worn under a T Shirt that is in any way a stretch fit - a consideration for anyone wanting to be as covert as possible.

Happy experimenting to those who have not tried it.


Offline Evolver

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Is it okay if the brassiere is pink and has lace on it?  I just want to understand what the rules are...
It is ok to wear any kind of bra you’d like as long as it’s comfortable and supports your breasts.  I have 2 lace bras I wear and like them a lot.  They aren’t pink, but I’d have no problem wearing a pink one.
It is okay to wear anything that gives you CONFIDENCE!

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I have a lace underwire that I really like.  Fits well, is breathable, cooler and I just like it.  It does telegraph through a T shirt.
Like what was said, wear what is comfortable and gives you confidence.


 

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