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Online Johndoe1

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Sophie, I hope you remain a part of this community. Because you are a part of this community. Your knowledge and experience is a treasure trove that has and can continue to help people. You have walked both sides of the line and you know. You have the scares to prove it. We are stronger with you than without you.

I am happy you now you have peace. And I think, ultimately, peace is all we want. Peace to live. And everyone's peace will be and is different. That's why we need a representation from all corners to help us see what our peace is. As far as I am concerned, you are always welcomed here and in my small corner of the world. Thank you!
Womanhood is not defined by breasts, and breasts are not indicative of womanhood. - Melissa Fabello

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I am truly humbled be all of your incredibly supportive comments and support. I am grateful and of course wish to remain a part of this community.

I had many factors that went into my gradual shift towards womanhood. As many of you know, most of the clothing that I had been wearing for years came from women's departments, clothing stores and boutiques. Women's clothing consistently fit better. I honestly preferred the fact and felt comfortable shopping for and wearing clothing designed for the female body. During the Covid closings, I worked from home my longish hair grew out more. I would notice the girls at work and what they wore and was jealous of their clothing. I started shopping on line and began purchasing skirts and dresses. I liked how they felt and how I looked and soon added makeup. I knew that I was actually Sophie.

I had informed my boss when it was time to return to work that I would need a new name plate for my desk. The overall support that I received was overwhelming. As a matter of fact, most of the ladies in my all female office wondered why I waited so long.

Thank you all for being so kind. ❤ I will continue to be a part of this community of acceptance and be more than happy to share my experience with my boobs and bras. 

A relatively recent " new" experience I had was purchasing a strapless bra. I had no need of one until I was  maid of honor for my sister's wedding. You're probably thinking that " she must have gone with an Elomi strapless bra". I didn't. If you have to wear a strapless bra, look for a bustier and Cury Kate makes an excellent one!

🥰Sophie🤗



Offline Getting boobs

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I am happy for you and am honored that you trusted me with your secret. Things change in each person’s  life and you have to do what’s best for you. You have been a great help to many here, including myself. I hope nothing but the best for you.  It’s not always easy to be the person you were meant to be. So you just have to be true to yourself and let the other things work themselves out.  Hope you hang around and keep doing what you do. Give good advice.. 

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I have been on this forum for a bit over 4 years and always look forward to reading your thoughtful posts.  Thanks to you and others, I have this bra thing figured out, I am completely comfortable with my girls and actually wouldn't mind if I went up another cup size, which I probably eventually will.
I hope you won't take this the wrong way, but you are the same person you have always been, you are just switching teams.  You have had a lot of time to think it over and you are better prepared than most who do it.  And I did pick up on the "haven't always wanted to be a woman" comment.  Best of luck and don't go away, we need you here.

Offline taxmapper

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You know.. I wish more women WERE on this site because insight into breasts from those who came with them would REALLY help at times! 


aboywithgirls

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You know.. I wish more women WERE on this site because insight into breasts from those who came with them would REALLY help at times!
Well...at least there's one here! While it took me a little longer than most women to get to this point, I've been wearing a bra for over 30 years and for me now, it's not only accepted, it's also expected.

I've been through all the stages and then some. After the overwhelming positive response that I've had. I will continue to chime in and answer any questions you may have about bras, fittings, and acceptance.

Sophie

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I haven't logged on for a week or so, so I'm playing catch up here.

Sophie, I am so very proud of you. 

Hugs!

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Congratulations Sophie.  I love your choice of name.

I've not been posting on this website for a long time and I've had a mixed reaction to what happens here.  I appreciate you telling us about your transition.  It seems that despite the fact we're talking about breasts and brassieres we more often than not feel a need to defend our masculinity as though our breasts are simply an aberration we must live with.  Some men will share photos of clearly feminine brassieres while insisting the only thing that matters is comfort.  In reality, men who develop breasts whether as adolescents or adults do so simply because their body produces less testosterone.  The abundance of estrogen affects our bodies and minds in many ways.  You've made the decision to transition, which surely is not required for every man who develops breasts and enjoys wearing a brassiere, but it is an honest response to living in a more feminine body.

Dale Warnio shared photos of him engaged in COSPLAY, one way in which he chose to express his appreciation for gender fluidity and feminine clothes.  I note he hasn't posted in many months.  I don't know whether he chose to leave but I know folks were uncomfortable with what seemed to be his interest in crossdressing, which is a no no on the board.  I've crossdressed in my life and it was doubtless connected to my confusion over a male body with breasts and an affection for, guess what?  Brassieres... the topic discussed here with enthusiasm.

Deep respect for the journey you've taken Sophie.  Again, not every man who wears a brassiere to accommodate his very real breasts will make the choice to transition, but it seems healthy to me that we recognize having breasts leaves us closer to the feminine side of the gender scale.  I put on a brassiere when I arrived home a short while ago.  It is comforting and enjoyable.  My breasts appreciate feeling thin nylon cups holding them and putting everything in place.  I don't need to wear the brassiere, but I choose to do so.  I like the look for well-defined breasts in my turtleneck, even if I don't wish to go into public dressed that way.  Different strokes for different folks I guess.

Again, respect for your courage in making this announcement.  I look forward to seeing you on the board when I stop in from time to time for a visit.

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Sophie, thank you for trusting me your transition until you were ready to disclose it.  I’m happy for you and hope that it’s everything you want and more. 

For myself, I started wearing a bra about 2 years ago and should have worn one since I was 12.  I’ve always been a bit on the softer” teddy bear” side and always related to women’s feelings more than men’s.   I definitely love women and I’m happily married to my wife.  I would never change that.   

I confronting my own issues with my possible gender expression and possible fluidity.  Trying on a dress a few months ago on a whim brought that on.   Now, I find myself examining where these new feelings fit into my life.  I’m getting some counseling now and trying to make sense of some of this.  

Again, happy for you, Sophie!!

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...I’ve always been a bit on the softer” teddy bear” side and always related to women’s feelings more than men’s.  I definitely love women and I’m happily married to my wife.  I would never change that. 

I confronting my own issues with my possible gender expression and possible fluidity.  Trying on a dress a few months ago on a whim brought that on.  Now, I find myself examining where these new feelings fit into my life.  I’m getting some counseling now and trying to make sense of some of this... 
What a healthy approach to all of this.  You describe yourself much as I would describe myself.  A teacher in third grade put me in the corner surrounded by girls because she thought that would stop me from talking... and it didn't.  I've always felt more comfortable with girls and women.  I'm a "soft" male, doubtless the result of my hormonal stew... elevated estrogen that contributed to a soft chest as an adolescent.  I realized a few years ago that the hair on my legs disappeared; then it disappeared on my arms.  My breasts have grown considerably in the last few years and I'm not taking any medications that would reduce my testosterone.  THIS is my body.  Pretending that I'm simply another guy is foolishness.  I'm here to come to terms with my developing breasts that I happen to enjoy.  I'm not here to defend my masculinity.  I'm here to accept who I am, exactly as I am... a person who has male genitals and wide-set breasts with a feminine shape that love to be held in the soft cups of a pretty brassiere.  Clearly, I'm moving to a more feminine body with reduced testosterone and elevated estrogen.  How that becomes expressed as life unfolds is an open question... though I can't imagine at my advanced age that I will either transition as Sophie is doing, or flaunt my breasts or brassieres in public.  Were I a young man I might make a different decision.  But here I am... here we all are... with breasts we wish to accept and care for... possibly even enjoy.  It all sounds good to me.


 

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