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p.r.1974

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I believe tha tif my girls got to a point where the size difference merited it, I would just get one of the silicone fillets to even them out.

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So we met with dr. The other day but it was kinda useless.  It was a ms specialist who was supposed to be going over all my health issues and current treatment plan.  Well she was kind of rude and didn't really address my concerns.  My next stop is a breast health specialist who hopefully will help me navigate my next steps.  I'm gonna bring up support with them hopefully they will be more understanding 

Brdy64

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So we met with dr. The other day but it was kinda useless.  It was a ms specialist who was supposed to be going over all my health issues and current treatment plan.  Well she was kind of rude and didn't really address my concerns.  My next stop is a breast health specialist who hopefully will help me navigate my next steps.  I'm gonna bring up support with them hopefully they will be more understanding
My doctors would not make any recommendations on support. When I "insisted" I was simply referred to an occupational therapist.
That route took me down the path of compression vests, rashes, overheating, etc...
Then of course a visit again with my doctor because of blistering rashes. The doctor FINALLY mentioned that a different kind of support was in order.
O.T. Scurried into looking up other types of compression vest options while I decided a soft cup bra was in order and just bought one. O.T. was not happy, but my doctor thought it was a good choice.
Needless to say, the soft cup was not enough support for my particular size. I still suffered neck and back pain, and after many questions and research determined that an underwire was my best option. Again O.T. was not happy at all, but my doctor was okay with the choice if it provides me comfort.
Basically, I have found that the doctors tend NOT to get involved in the support question, they will pass that on to you or someone else. Someone else isn't thinking about your comfort but rather the optics of it (concealment).
If you want comfort, you need to research and determine what works for you instead of relying on medical staff with support questions in my opinion. 
« Last Edit: April 19, 2023, 11:58:50 AM by Brdy64 »

Offline 42CSurprise!

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Doctors are also absent without leave when it comes to matters of how our diet affects our health.  They clearly have their comfort zone when it comes to a wide range of issues.  They're content to give us pills or to cut us open, but that is about it.  It is fortunate that we've found this community where we can get support FOR support... 8)

Brdy64

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Doctors are also absent without leave when it comes to matters of how our diet affects our health.  They clearly have their comfort zone when it comes to a wide range of issues.  They're content to give us pills or to cut us open, but that is about it.  It is fortunate that we've found this community where we can get support FOR support... 8)
Yeah, my switching to an underwire bra pretty much was dependent on what I read here on this site. 

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The specialist who diagnosed my Gynecomastia, has been a good friend and still is.  He didn't anything about support.  His Physician Assistant is a woman.  She stayed in the room after he left and suggested that I begin wearing a bra for keep them from bouncing around and protect my sensitive nipples.  She suggested starting with a jog bra.  Even wrote a note to my wife with her recommendation. 

I think male doctors are just uncomfortable going there.  And I can understand that.  The doctor that I had for over 30 years retired and now I have a woman doctor.  She preforms a breast exam as part of my annual physicals.  I told her that I wear a bra most of the time, but not comfortable wearing one to doctor appointments.  She said it wouldn't bother her, but understood my concern.

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When I started wearing a bra I was going to a weight loss doctor and when I told her I had started wearing a bra when I excessed, she asked a lot of questions about what I was doing for support. Several months later, after I started wearing full time, we again had a breast conversation and she asked about how I felt wearing a bra and did it give me an confidence I hadn't had before. I said, surprisingly it had. She also she bet I didn't think about my breasts as much, did I? I said no. She said that's what support and containment will do.
Womanhood is not defined by breasts, and breasts are not indicative of womanhood. - Melissa Fabello

Brdy64

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When I started wearing a bra I was going to a weight loss doctor and when I told her I had started wearing a bra when I excessed, she asked a lot of questions about what I was doing for support. Several months later, after I started wearing full time, we again had a breast conversation and she asked about how I felt wearing a bra and did it give me an confidence I hadn't had before. I said, surprisingly it had. She also she bet I didn't think about my breasts as much, did I? I said no. She said that's what support and containment will do.
Wearing support makes me feel more confident as well. I hardly think about my bra all day. 😉

aboywithgirls

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The question of support really depends on the answer. "Are you more comfortable wearing a bra?" If the answer is "yes", then, I don't think that there is any question. 

I was fortunate enough that I was offered to try wearing a bra to see if it helped. No question about it that it did. I have been wearing full-time for over 30 years. 

It's so ironic that people believe that a bra has a gender assigned to it. If you have feet, you wear shoes. There's no question. 

As a woman, nobody questions the fact that I wear a bra. I was questioned occasionally as a man. The funny thing is, my chest has very little change. If anything  with some weight loss, it's slightly smaller. The biggest difference, I guess is that if you have long, curled hair, and wear a skirt with heels, I HAVE to wear one. I'm not complaining because I still get the same benefits of comfort, support and shape that I enjoyed as a man.

❤️Sophie❤️

Brdy64

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The question of support really depends on the answer. "Are you more comfortable wearing a bra?" If the answer is "yes", then, I don't think that there is any question.

I was fortunate enough that I was offered to try wearing a bra to see if it helped. No question about it that it did. I have been wearing full-time for over 30 years.

It's so ironic that people believe that a bra has a gender assigned to it. If you have feet, you wear shoes. There's no question.

As a woman, nobody questions the fact that I wear a bra. I was questioned occasionally as a man. The funny thing is, my chest has very little change. If anything  with some weight loss, it's slightly smaller. The biggest difference, I guess is that if you have long, curled hair, and wear a skirt with heels, I HAVE to wear one. I'm not complaining because I still get the same benefits of comfort, support and shape that I enjoyed as a man.

❤️Sophie❤️
When you are clean shaved, wear a mullet haircut, pastel colored shirts, a bra, and big chested...
They expect you too be wearing a bra too.
But they also sometimes call you "ma'am" 🙄

Offline Johndoe1

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It's so ironic that people believe that a bra has a gender assigned to it. If you have feet, you wear shoes. There's no question.
A female friend who found out early on that I had started wearing a bra made a comment that is so true. She said a bra was only cloth, wire and spandex. It had no special power of change. It only made it more comfortable to go through life. And she has been proven right.

Brdy64

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It's so ironic that people believe that a bra has a gender assigned to it. If you have feet, you wear shoes. There's no question.
A female friend who found out early on that I had started wearing a bra made a comment that is so true. She said a bra was only cloth, wire and spandex. It had no special power of change. It only made it more comfortable to go through life. And she has been proven right.
Yeah, I find it very uncomfortable to "not" wear a bra. So if I am too allow myself comfort, I need to wear a bra. 

aboywithgirls

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I find the "Acceptance " and "Acceptance Garments" sections of this forum to be "wear the rubber meets the road" of this forum. Nobody can be forced into Acceptance or into a bra. It truly is a choice, given the circumstances. 

It's after the Acceptance and Acceptance of Garments happens that the choices really open up. Other recent posts have are about what kind of support is best, not whether you need it or not. We are all here for the same reason. As a matter of fact, I needed help last year with a bra and what would work best for me. That is after wearing a bra for 30 years. I needed a strapless bra for my gown that I wore for my sister's wedding. I never needed one in the past. I must have tried a dozen different bras before I found the right one. 

I feel that if you are here, reading this, It's no longer a question of if you need to wear a bra, it's just a matter of finding a bra that works for you and your activities you are going to be doing. The best part of all are the options available to you now.

♥️Sophie♥️

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To Sophie's point, after acceptance and acceptance of support garments is found a happier disposition and life will follow.
One thing I learned as I have navigated this is after I have learned from the group others come into the fold they to ask the same questions I once did and now learn, often allowing the same topic to resurface but with a new and often insightful reply. 
As noted after wearing for many years a new question or situation comes up and a new bra style is needed and learned. 

  A good group this lot.

Brdy64

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Yeah, acceptance of your breasts, and the need for a bra is key. 
What I have found out through "trial and error" is that not everyone's suggestion is the right choice for me. 
I have wasted lots of time and money on suggestions. That and the fact that I ordered online. 
Today I am actually planning on visiting the Torrid store at the mall in-person. I'll be able to try before I buy. This is a first for me visiting "the women's section" in person, but how hard could it be?


 

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