Illusions?

[TikTak]

Gotgyne, just like for you, only the wife is important.
Friends, family, their insights are important to me only for my personal comfort:
it is always better not to be the object of unhealthy interest.
And if they should already say something there behind my back, think something, then burn them to hell.
My wife once, it was twenty years ago, happened to say something unkind. Back then, my problem was still smaller. I dared to strip to the waist on a hot day, to work in the garden, assuming that, after all, I was among loved ones. Well, and I flunked, probably on the occasion of some other problem.
When my breasts grew really big and I started to despair a little, my wife was very supportive, saying that it was a dispute unworthy of attention.
Once, even when she wanted to do well, she knocked me off my feet, stating that "it's good that in this house someone will finally have a nice bust"

[Benusa2]

Hi John,
I’m happy that you have a new found ally. I agree it sounds like she was trying to let you know that and coming from a place of love. She understands how long your journey has been. Sometimes it takes courage to be kind and it must have taken a bit of courage to bring up a sensitive topic in perhaps the only way she knew how. I hope it’s been healing for you. It sounds like she’s extending an invitation.
The same thing happened to me at that age and I can assure you I made every effort to make sure no photos survived. In recent years I’ve just submitted to the fact that I’m prone to development and that it’s lifelong.
I hope you’re doing well and having a good week. Wishing you the best in dealing with family on the subject.
-Ben

[Johndoe1]

It's a different matter when the bra is actually needed for practical reasons.
This is probably the case for some of us.
I don't know at what bust size it is impossible to function without a bra.
In my case, with a size 40C (GB) the potential benefit is negligible in the face of the dilemmas of whether someone will see or not, what a friend or colleague will say, etc. etc.

The benefit of a bra is when you say it is. Size doesn't matter usually. It has more to do with self comfort and that could be physical, that could be mental. Personally, it got real for me when I started to jog. I had been feeling the need for support for a long time, but couldn't bring myself to do it. I had no idea I was as large as I was. I thought I was a large B or small C. My first official fitting had me at DD! Anyway, before that, I got a nasty rash in my IMF and that started the serious thought process of getting them off my chest, literally. In the mean time, I started an exercise program that included jogging. The physical pain from the bouncing was agonizing. It felt like my breasts were being ripped off my chest as they bounced up and down in time with my jogging. I had a talk with the doctor I was seeing for this exercise program. In my case, the doctor happen to be female. She examined my chest and said I had three options. Surgery, live with the pain or wear support and she said I should consider support in the short term if nothing else to avoid injury to my breasts when exercising if I was considering surgery. The rest, is history, as they say.