There's acceptance......and acceptance

[Normal Boobs 1 💄]

I have made my situation clear.
Though I wouldn't  trivialise  the hurdle of starting to wear a bra, much, much more is involved.
I make no secret that from day one I resolved that if I had to have boobs I would enjoy them. Thus I think is the healthiest psycholical option. After  bra wearing  and clothing changes to now boasting a 99% female wardrobe over a period of 12 years , it's only a few months ago that I had a really cathartic moment  that it would be dishonest to continue  to pretend to be male any longer. Hence an gradually experimenting with cosmetics.....which has been quite affirming and attracted mostly positive  comments  (did have have one unwanted advance from a creepy  male who asked to share my table in a busy coffee shop and  then persistently tried to get my phone number)

Someone here speculated whether I might even, at a younger age, have followed Sophie in a full medical transition.  Answer is NO. My position is that major surgery  for other than life saving is, at any age silly and certainly totally stupid at 79yo. Others will disagree, I know.
One thing I am certain of is that even if transition were fully possible without surgery I would not want periods! I suspect that many who have gone down the surgical route might have balked at that. So how honest are we all?..

That, briefly is my position  and thinking.
Contrary views respected.

[Evolver]

Hey there,

I also had a cathartic moment a couple of years ago when I finally realized that I didn't have to hate my masculinity and push it aside, to allow my inner woman to make her presence felt. Once I realized that I didn't have to be binary* because of societal expectations or living up to stereotypes, I felt a deep level of self-acceptance that has given me an inner glow ever since.

Transitioning means different things to different people. Have I transitioned because I'm now 5% (or is it 55%?) 'along the rainbow' compared to 0% before? I have definitely changed, but wherever I am on the rainbow now, I'm not needing to go all the way. I've never felt dysphoric. 

It's interesting that you mentioned Sophie. She is the person who woke me up, and I miss her dearly.

*I don't describe myself as non-binary, in fact I've given up on labels period. I'm just a guy in touch with his feminine side, but my point of difference is that I'm so proud of it that I'm happy to display it and I don't care what people think.



 

[AlfaQ]

I couldn't agree more with your position. There is so much pressure to put everyone into identity boxes.  We are all unique and I identify simply as "me"

[Normal Boobs 1 💄]

My "cathartic moment"  was very sudden and dramatic.

I was quietly reflecting on my life journey and the real "me" when I got what i imagine was something like a female  full on whole body orgasm (??TMI?).
Floods of tears, shaking, real sobbing and intense waves of internal contractions down below with no erection of what has shrivelled  to about 1inch!!  It took around 30mins to subside completely and  was a joyful experience that has sadly not recurred ,☹️
However it has really imprinted on me what I consider to be my true identity.
I don't  know whether anyone else has had anything similar happen. I can't believe that  I can be unique in the whole of human history, 

I do hope that none of the above offends anyone. If it does, don't  report me.....I would be willing to edit some of the above. ....It is  not worth arguments

[gyne73]

my cathartic moment has been in 2013. I was 40. Alone after a nasty divorce, with kids still very young, 9 and 5.

I restarted to wear a bra for comfort but soon realized that it was not enough.

I had the fear to become a fetishist whose only interest is on body parts and accessories.

When you are alone in the home you can experiment with high heels, stockings, make up, pretend to be the gorgeous woman you see in the mirror.

However real life is different; I said to myself that I needed a real life test.

If you feel it show it.

Now I am more on the acceptance side. Life is not black and white. I can still wear a nice bra and be a male. What I am is still an ongoing process.

[Evolver]

What I am is still an ongoing process.

Aren't we all?! Hence my username. 😉

The other thing we need to keep in mind about self-acceptance, is that it's not just about accepting what we have become regarding "I've got boobs!" for example, but also accepting our journeys. If anyone is confused about where it will all end up, why not just go along for the ride? Who cares where it will end up? Embrace it!

[Normal Boobs 1 💄]

What I am is still an ongoing process.

Aren't we all?! Hence my username. 😉

The other thing we need to keep in mind about self-acceptance, is that it's not just about accepting what we have become regarding "I've got boobs!" for example, but also accepting our journeys. If anyone is confused about where it will all end up, why not just go along for the ride? Who cares where it will end up? Embrace it!

Well said . Yesterday  is history -we can't change it.
The future is mystery -we can do very little to influence what it may bring.
This moment is a gift, which is why it is called the present.
Ours to live in and enjoy.

[50/50]

It’s called FREEDOM. People should have the right to choose how they live,wear or whatever it might be as long as it’s not hurting or costing anyone else anything.
I live in a very conservative county and state. They talk about the government is taking away our freedoms. But these same people comment on what people wear or their sexuality or whatever.
I always point out that’s what freedom is. Then they say it’s just weird. But I tell them that’s their opinion but that person still has the right to their freedom. I actually think the ones with half a brain are starting to understand that. I sure don’t call them out on anything they wear or do or whatever because that is their freedom. The hypocrisy runs deep with morons🤣

[bobb]

It’s called FREEDOM. People should have the right to choose how they live,wear or whatever it might be as long as it’s not hurting or costing anyone else anything.
I live in a very conservative county and state. They talk about the government is taking away our freedoms. But these same people comment on what people wear or their sexuality or whatever.
I always point out that’s what freedom is. Then they say it’s just weird. But I tell them that’s their opinion but that person still has the right to their freedom. I actually think the ones with half a brain are starting to understand that. I sure don’t call them out on anything they wear or do or whatever because that is their freedom. The hypocrisy runs deep with morons🤣

if some one don't agree just start calling them names wtf.

[gotgyne]

It’s called FREEDOM. People should have the right to choose how they live,wear or whatever it might be as long as it’s not hurting or costing anyone else anything.
I live in a very conservative county and state. They talk about the government is taking away our freedoms. But these same people comment on what people wear or their sexuality or whatever.
I always point out that’s what freedom is. Then they say it’s just weird. But I tell them that’s their opinion but that person still has the right to their freedom. I actually think the ones with half a brain are starting to understand that. I sure don’t call them out on anything they wear or do or whatever because that is their freedom. The hypocrisy runs deep with morons🤣

My wife and me moved from a left to a conservative country. Here is much more freedom and I have worn my bras every day. In summer the neighbors could notice it by looking accurately. But nobody said a word. That's freedom too.

[Justagirl💃]

Acceptance was realising I was different than 'Everyone' else. This happened many years before puberty. But acceptance was only nurtured by my family around me, so depending upon 'who' was caring for me it was changing. 

Puberty brought a new dimension to the equation,  and an upset father brought two years of testosterone treatments followed by 45 years of boy-mode. Boobs were wrong on me and must be hidden, and don't tell anyone why I had to pee sitting down. 

The true acceptance happened right here on this site after the social worker at the day-centre advised me to join a gynecomastia forum. 
I came to terms with my breasts and the need for a bra. I slowly stopped hiding behind bib overalls and baggy shirts and let the obvious be seen. 

I am built the way God intended me to be built, intersex and all. My natural attraction to 'hang out with the girls' was just a part of me as well as my lack of interest in violent sports. My love of nice colourful clothing and hairstyles was as much a part of me as my breasts. 

I might have gone too far for the likings of the day-centre,  but they don't have the right to dictate my life anymore than my father did for all those years. 

It's been a slow process that spanned several years, but I am 'Birdie'. The tomboyish little girl my grandmother was raising in my youth before my father took over my upbringing.  I sew, knit, cook, etc... I am not ashamed of who or what I am, and I live as myself everyday. I only dress androgynous at the day-centre because it's required by management for my attendance,  but all my clothes are off the women's rack. 

I made a purse for a CNA at the centre and she came over to pick it up the other day. We sat and chatted for about an hour about hot flashes, Hysterectomies, breasts, and lack of sex drive. 
She said, "girl, you are much more girl than you are guy." 
She has helped with transferring into the shower and seen my equipment,  or lack of it personally.  

I live my life as 'me' everyday regardless of those around me. You either like me or you don't.  That's not my problem.  I only have to move to Oregon to be free from the overbearing day-centre,  and that is still on the agenda. 

[50/50]

After 60 we become invisible. No one gives a **** what we think,how we look,what we wear,our opinions and our vast knowledge from years of living. People just don’t care. So enjoy the freedom. Free the boobies…👍😁😂

[Justagirl💃]

After 60 we become invisible. No one gives a **** what we think,how we look,what we wear,our opinions and our vast knowledge from years of living. People just don’t care. So enjoy the freedom. Free the boobies…👍😁😂

This site needs a "like" button!

[AlfaQ]

My boobs began to grow in my 40s. It was slow gradual gowth and as l was swimming a great deal I thought it was muscle development. However as I caught my reflection in the mirror at the pool I noticed how much they jiggled as I walked. 
The movement got more and more annoying so I decided to try a bra. I assumed that I couldn't be more than an A cup so I bought my first bra a 38A which I thought fitted. I think my boobs are down to a diet rich in nuts soya and dairy as I am not overweight.   This year I have had 4 bra fittings at different shops and the smallest size recommendation was 34D. Bravissimo size me as 34DD and Boux Avenue put me into a 34E.  At my size I prefer to wear a bra and now I am happy to accept that this is the best solution for me.