Can Depression due to gynecomstia lead to suicide?

[Worrier]

me too, and people telling you you are weak and s. I dont get it,

gyne has ruined my life, i need a surgery to be normal what if  there was no surgery? oh the surgery costs a lot of money.

I dont think i will ever forget the thoughts of high school, i remember every single time i had to do something weird, the girls, flirting to girls was not in my agenda.
parties, pools, your fucking youth, everything is over, now some of you want me to live a life like its always been easy.
Gynecomastia sucks, and it sucks if i think between millions of men I HAVE TO CARRY THIS FLAG.

I dont judge people who commit suicide because i will probably do the same thing, people who judge people like me are WEAK, because they are in no need to die.

I have been suffering from depression for years and I been reading suicide stuff such as guns, pills, carbon monoxide etc...

im not afraid to die really, as if i was aware of saving these boobs... and this piece of worthless human with no life.

surger and suicide = same thing.

I agree with you , people who commit suicide aren't weak. I tried to kill myself once, not due to the gyno,  but when I was sixteen over something else , and I am glad I failed at it although I wasn't at the time. Because you may only get one chance at life, Plus Iam sure there will be people who will miss you if you did it, Iam not saying people who commit suicide are selfish but now when I think of how my parents would have reacted had I succeeded it kills me

People told me I was selfish later on , they were not in my postition so what do they fu**ing know?.Things may look pretty bad at the mo , hell when I had gyno it made me feel pretty bad and not like a real man but life is a long process and things do change. My advice to anyone thinking of suicide is talk to someone ,anyone, , I really regret what I tried to do and wish with hindsight I had not been a typical bloke in the statistics and tried to off myself without telling anyone.

[markashleigh1979]

to commit suicide at all you would hafto first be a complete nutcase

You seem to be a very empathic individual .I thinks you should consider a job with the U.S government as they seem to share your caring and thoughtful nature!  :-/

[sadgyneguy]

looks like many here are unhappy too.

i really consider suicide. i am not afraid to die.

i have really difficulty in living this life with this kind of condition. it's not the gynecomastia, but it's psychological and emotional effects to me. everyday i go out of our house, i always worry about this sh*t.

at least when im dead, all my worries will be gone.

[ruinedlifenew]

"Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.

When pain exceeds pain-coping resources, suicidal feelings are the result. Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect of character; it is morally neutral. It is simply an imbalance of pain versus coping resources."

- http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

[Hypo-is-here]

I think that is very, very true ruinedlifenew.

And I think the link is a very good one full of truisms, hopefully it can help people who feel this way.

Empathy and understanding don't cost any of us anything and yet too often we are all guilty of not sparing enough thought.

[sadgyneguy]

like disk, i am considering a gun pointed through my mouth towards my brain to have a sure death.

having gyne is not fun. with this, I lost my faith to God, I lost career opportunities because I hate when there are so many people. im so depressed.

right now im listening to the video from DrBermants site http://www.plasticsurgery4u.com/plastic_surgery_audio/gyno_lift_audiovideo_41.wmv

[carguy]

ive thought about suicide. i guess ive been very depressed over gyne too. Im schizophrenic. I think all my problems are because of gyne. Being pissed off 24/7 does wonders for your mental health.

[Bluesun_Again]

Hi, Bluesun here with a somewhat changed name again.  I just gotten a new hard-drive and the disk that has all my password info is broken . . . it's a long story.  Anyway, regarding the topic.

Man, I definitely know what deep long-term depression is like because that's what I had ever since I landed into this nightmare-world called gynecomastia.  The thing that usually gets me most of all is how there are those who always trying to imply that I'm gay.  They won't just come right out and ask me and they definitely won't be man enough to come flat out and say it (at moments like that, I always ask, "who's the real . . . ah, with respect to the board-rules, kitty-cat here").  This is no intent to bash those who are gay.  I remember a couple of guys on the board said they were and to that I say that's up to them to make whatever decision to live their own life.  However, I'm not gay and no matter how I carry myself the false stigma being gay is applied to me just because of this horrid condition.  So, yeah, I definitely know about depression.

As some of you may remember, at the beginning of last summer, I finally gotten my operation.  Well, sad to say, the dreaded condition is developing again.  I have to confess though, I made somewhat of a pig out of myself this winter, which is routine for me.  Especially over the holidays.  I never was, what you might call, "sloppy-fat obese" but I was always a big guy.  And now I'm in my late 40's and my skin hasn't gotten the same amount of elasticity that it had when I was in my 20's and 30's.  The doctor warned me a couple of times about that too.  Still, I'm not so concerned about it now as I use to be.  Don't get me wrong, I'm not cheerfully beaming with confidence.  Still, I don't hide in my house all the time anymore (now, just most of the time LOL) and I'm not panicking in dread about the coming summer-months as before.    This board and the people on it (Wolfgang, Hypo, the guy who did the post entitled "I AM NOT MY BODY" and many more) helped alot.  Plus, that great film called, "WHAT THE BLEEP DO WE KNOW".

What I'm leading to is this, depending on the person; severity the condition and so forth, there are different degrees of depression.  Those who are fortunate enough not to go through the degree of turmoil that others are going through shouldn't judge so harshly.  Like I've said before, I just simply can't believe the crying that goes on with some guys on this board talking about having to keep their shirt on.  Try having it so that just wearing a shirt wouldn't hardly make a bit of difference.  

Yeah, I know that much has to do with self-esteem and so forth but there's other factors too.  That old Native American saying about don't judge a man until you walk in his moccasins (sp?) is very true.  If you're privilege enough not to experience the degree of torment someone else is going through or went through, fine.  However, in your somewhat eased state, do your best to make this world a place where so many aren't desperately looking for the exit-sign.  

Plus, there's another side to the "some people are just too afraid to live" viewpoint.  Many, if not all, don't discard the thought of suicide because they want to live.  Let's be honest, they're just afraid of death.


Bluesun

[User]

im just wondrin if anybody here who is very very much depressed, thinking of suicide as one of the ways to escape to this kind of situation?

Yeah, I've seriously considered suicide recently (within the past year) and even began to work out a plan as to how I was going to do it.  For whatever reason, I lost interest in that.  I guess I was too depressed to even kill myself?

My depression began when people started bullying me because of gyne.  I was regularly made fun of in school, harassed and border-line sexually abused.  Not a lot of fun.  I eventually left school (for a variety of reasons) and never fully recovered from everything that happened to me.

Lots of things feed my depression now.  I had a pretty serious episode last week, which pointed the way back to suicide.  I'm okay now, but things were really bad.  And I'm having surgery in a couple days.

I'm not going to blame all my problems on gyne, but I will wager that my life would be a lot better if I never had this condition.

(That's a great link that ruinedlife posted.  I've visited that website before.  It very well could've been one of things that stopped me from suicide.)

[Fajha]

MAN!  This is rough. I never thought I would find myself responding to a suicide thread on the internet.

However, I have to say that I too have considered in on a number of occassions. Gyne has contributed to this thought, however, it is not the only single thing to blame.

Of course there are issues brought on by the condition; not being able to go to the beach, scared to disrobe in front of people, wearing sweaters in the heat of summer to hide the breasts, etc.

And then on top of that, the other associated symptons - which in some cases can lead to impotence or penile dysfunction, as well as being or becoming sterile.  Sometimes, I do wake up and just say, "Why bother?"

I do not judge anyone who considers suicide, neither do I consider such a person weak.  I actually think it is insanely brave - if foolhardy - to point a gun in one's mouth and pull the trigger.  I hope we all can find a true and fulfilling cause to stick around... otherwise, I am sorry for any that choose this way.  Just know I am in empathy with you.

[Paa_Paw]

I once knew a young man who attempted suicide because of his gynecomastia.

The problem was that he did not have Gynecomastia.

That poor lad suffered from Body Dysmorpic Disorder.

Fortunately his attempt was not successful and he was put into the care of a good Psychologist.

[aux513s]

Gynecomastia has a very high chance of causing suicide, so much that psychological counseling is recommended as part of it's routine treatment.

There was a study done a while ago that drew a link between poor body image and suicide. Those people that weren't satisfied with their bodies reported feeling suicidal 150% more than people who liked their bodies. Plus, serious health problems, no matter what they are, can be a cause of suicide.

I have thought about suicide because of my problem, but when push came to shove I was too scared to do it. If someone wants to and has the will-power then go ahead, there's nothing morally wrong with it. It's your life after all and we all die anyway.

Before you think about suicide try everything you can though. Even try moving to a place like Alaska where you can wear a big coat year round and no one will ever know you have gyne. You can spend your days ice-fishing or something.

[GynoVict1m]

We can all hide it.. its the fact we cant live with it ourselves that kills us.

[sadgyneguy]

well for me, it is difficult to enjoy life having gyne.

soon we all die. and for me, we are here to enjoy life. but having gyne, makes life one kind of a hell.

[Paa_Paw]

aux513s,

You are correct!

The Psychological damage is great.  And Yes, Seeing a Psychologist is strongly advised.  As a bonus, a well written letter from a Psychologist can sometimes be a valuable asset in the battle to get surgery covered by insurance.