I never said NOT to ultimately have surgery.
No, but you did say "
Save yourself $5000". Which to me, and prolly to many others, would indicate 'Why get surgery that costs $5000, when you can buy a roll of tape for six and change'.
I suggested tape as something to try, costing 2 thousand times less money than surgery. Perhaps he might want to at least try it. Before you were warning of skin damage and scarring disfigurement. Why? That is not true. You older men are just fanatics for surgery as the only way - constantly warning these youngsters that there is just no other way to deal with it. Older members of this board have the responsibility not to indoctrinate impressionable young men into a procedure which they might regret having had in the future. You have the responsibility only to present surgery as an option. NOT the only option
You are right there my man... There
are other options other than surgery. However, the majority of G sufferers who come to this site want it
GONE, and to accomplish this, one needs surgical attention.
Sure there's medical tape as you are suggesting (as you say it's safe...), compression shirts, multi-layering, shoulder hunching, etc... etc... However, these methods of concealment do not truly alleviate the psychological discomfort that the sufferer must endure.
This guy is a little older - maybe he doesn't go to the swimming hole with his buds so often. We can't know that. If his "buds" won't accept him with the way his chest is, then they're not his "buds". If a girl finds fault with a guy's chest - get rid of her. She wants perfection. If it's not your chest, it will be something else.
In most cases, once the sufferer has been ostracized by someone because of his G, he will develop an irreversible complex about his chest. His 'buds' may accept his gyne, but it's not about other people, it's about the sufferer and how he feels about himself. It's not a case of whether his 'buds' accept him or not, its about the
fear of what others will think of him and his chest. Even if people are accepting of the fact, the sufferer still feels uncomfortable in his own skin.
Why is everybody on this board so quick to be a victim of teasing and/or bullying? Doesn't anyone have any guts anymore? Why have men become such shrinking violets afraid to take their shirts off?
C'mon dude, you know that there are many bottom-feeders in this world who get great satisfaction from belittling others who are different or have a bodily defect. Nobody wants to be publically humiliated. Public humiliation is such a powerful act that at one time, people used it as a deterrent to criminal acts. Even the strongest of wills are deathly afraid of public humiliation and feeling like a
freak...
If he wants surgery, then he should by all means have surgery. Why can't I present an alternative without someone who knows nothing about the tape product telling falsehoods about the tape. Chill out - tape is just an option. It is NOT DANGEROUS OR HARMFUL IN ANY WAY - contrary to what you claim. His trying tape has NOTHING whatever to do with whether or not he decides to have surgery. What harm is there in suggesting an alternative to the sacred surgical procedures?
I think you were a tad harsh with Grandpa Dan. Tape for the most part, can be detrimental to the skin if used for prolonged periods of time. I'm sure he had never heard about this 'medical tape' you speak of. I for one had not.
No, there's nothing wrong with you suggesting the 'band-aid fix' tape alternative. However it does have its limitations.
Anyways dude, if I have offended you in any way, then I apologize to you my man. I meant no harm...
GB