outside of acceptance, yes, surgery is the only fix, since no amount of trying to fart around with hormones will reverse the tissue development (g___n, t___n, etc). most insurance companies, foolishly, refuse to treat it since it saves them money if they call it cosmetic or elective, with no idea of its psychological impact. on the pain, i am not a doctor, but it happens sometimes, and it seems like that could be related to the tissue distentions or something as it forms, maybe somebody else can speak to that part better. welcome to the site.