Decimal, no offense but that ex of yours sounds rather naive/insensitive.
Over the years I've had 4 long-term girlfriends of at least a year, I've dated at least a dozen girls for a few months or weeks, and, yes, I've had the occasional one-night stand. Although my gyne has always been in the front of my mind - and this could be due to an experience in 6th grade when all the boys in my class ganged up on me and made fun of me about it for weeks - my experience with women has been that they've hardly noticed, if at all. I remember during my freshman year in college (12 years ago now) when I went swimming with a bunch of my new friends and just said "screw it", took off my shirt and put my own self-conscious issues aside. Later that day, this smoking hot blonde who also had been swimming there tracked me down in my dorm room and put the moves on me! We ended up dating for about 6 months and at one point she told me how she first really became attracted to me when she saw me with my shirt off at the swim-hole that day! Now that was a surprise!
All the girls I've been with (even the one night stands, I swear) have been attractive, and none except for one had ever mentioned my "m.b's". The last one I was with just thought it was funny that I was so concerned about it - she said, "every guy has that" and it didn't bother her in the least... She thought I was crazy to have ever considered surgery. But my psychological scars ran deep since 6th grade and I always have avoided going to the beach and such.
A few years back I was going for this drop dead gorgeous woman and she was the first one ever to take a look at my bare chest and decide she wasn't in to me (I know b/c I heard her say that to her cousin). At the time, my confidence was shattered by this, but you know what? She was also the only one of all these women I've been with who is down-right shallow... She probably would have dumped me when she found out I didn't have 6 figures in my bank account anyway!
Taking my own experiences into consideration, it's so true what others have said in this thread: Women really fall for what's between the eyes. The important thing to remember is that if a man allows his gyne to overtake his life then it's not the gyne that the women are running away from, it's his insecurities and lack of confidence! I've read that the feature women notice first on a man is his eyes (I've also read that men notice a woman's breasts first, lol). It's the eyes that, of all physical traits, best display what really lies behind a man. I write poetry, and I've found that time and time again, the second I show a woman my poetry and she sees that I'm a kind, intelligent, sensitive person, she is all mine - at that point I become "dreamy" to her - it's all mental. The bottom line is that if my mild case of gyne bothers a woman so much that she doesn't want to be with me because of it, then that is not a woman I'd want to be with anyway. I mean, I wouldn't avoid a relationship with a woman with unusually small breasts or a not so pronounced ass simply because of that - of course there needs to be some attraction, but ultimately it's personality that matters most. (I'm single again as of a month ago and have become very insecure about my gyne again, considering surgery, but everything I've written here is true - thanks to y'all for helping me to see the truth).
Topic: Does Your Girlfriend/Wife Like Your Gyne? (Read 57892 times)
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