you have it bad enough to be unhappy with it and get the op.
another thing i want is that u tel me how to tell this to my parents... (I still live with my parents in the 2 years) and I don't know how they will react
I have thought to do this without telling them... Is it possible?
Will I be able to take care myself after the surgery?
do u have any tips for me
it is possible to do it without them, but a lot less if you're still living there. you just have to decide if you want their support or want to do it on your own. you would not have a severe recovery and could probably get by with maybe a day or three in a motel, but consult with a doc about it.
this is an approach i suggested to someone once before if i tried to picture myself telling parents years ago the way i wish i had if i'd known what this was. either in person or in writing.
"mom, dad, i've had something on my mind i wanted to discuss. this is a little embarassing for me to talk about, but it's something i have to deal with.
i've noticed i've had a physical condition, so i did a little research on it. the technical name for it is gynecomastia, and it happens a lot in puberty, in fact most men get it in at least some degree temporarily. in most cases it goes away in the first 2-3 years, but in others it can stick around.
apparently if your hormone ratios go a little odd, guys can develop enlargement in the breast area. normally it makes people's lives hell because they get teased about it pretty mercilessly, they get depressed and don't talk about it, -- but there are surgical procedures that can correct it too. the price range runs anywhere from $3-6000 depending on surgeon, location, complexity of the case, and so on.
i'm still researching this and talking to a bunch of people i've discovered online who've suffered from the same condition, but i'm learning a lot. a lot of surgeons won't operate till the hormones restabilize a little, but i should be ready. it's normal for people to try to minimize it and say oh it's nothing, or you just need to exercise, but that doesn't fix it, it can really mess your life up inside and out, and i'd like to explore getting it fixed and having a normal life."
(optional if finances become an issue): i understand it's a lot of money, but it's not something i decided on lightly, and you have to understand how important it is for me, so if i have to take a job or two to help pull my weight on this one and start saving, i just want you to know that that's how much this means to me.
adjust to fit your circumstances as needed