Updated Post
So, update. Whereas I don't have the means to upload pics, I still really would like to get multiple opinions here so I can make sense of whats going on. I'll do my best to describe. I understand its difficult to help without a visual, but any input provided regardless is much appreciated.
So yeah, today was my six month follow up. The doctor and me apparently have very different opinions on what is considered "masculine", as my nipples on either side still protrude about a quarter inch on both sides. In my opinion, it goes completely within the contour of the chest. He thinks otherwise. BUT, good news. He set me up with a physical therapy place for my scar tissue lump. I will go twice a week for up to 20 visits. They're gonna do ultrasound and professional massage therapy to destroy the lump. I'm actually really excited for it!
However, that still leaves me with a conundrum. After I realized I couldn't convince him what I considered to be "flat", I finally just said "this is what I want". He sorta gave me a look and asked me to lift my arm up over my head, so I did. When I do this, my chest is COMPLETELY flat. Really flat, actually. Not a trace of gyno. He then began to poke and prod and told me that when I raise my chest, the breast tissue underneath lifts up. I asked him then if he could simply make it look that way when I have my arm down and not have it sorta "slouch outwards" when I do. He told me that I had two options, but both would leave me partially screwed.
Option 1. Excise more glandular tissue. He even finally was clear with me for once and said that it would look like that even with my arm down if he did that. So I said "perfect", thats EXACTLY what I want. "HOWEVER"...he says. If he does this, when I lift my arm up, my nipple will pull inwards, revealing a deformity. He felt strongly enough about it to warn me not to come back afterwards saying its deformed if I chose to go that route. Naturally, I don't want to look deformed...so I asked what else I could do.
Option 2. Some procedure I can't pronounce, lol. Basically, a peri-areolar something. The procedure involves cutting a donut shape around the nipple, removing the excess skin, then stitching it back in all tight. I asked if thats a thing he's had to do before with patients, and he told me thats something woman do to lift there breasts...."AWESOME", I thought to myself in my head. Now I feel extremely embarrassed, and I was already feeling a bit flustered.
The quote I got was not pleasant, either. He considered it my "personal preference" despite me arguing that no man would consider this "masculine" when his nipples protrude further from his body than his upper chest wall. So as far as money saving, I am SCREWED. I don't think I really want him doing anything else chest related anyway, since he apparently has no idea what a male chest looks like. I mean, I wanna like this guy. He did an awesome job on my stomach. But I just can't seem to communicate with him here. I scheduled another second opinion with the same doctor I described in my first post. I told him I may make another appointment if my six month follow up left me with an unsatisfying result, as my current surgeon is a bit infamous for when it comes to answering my questions or addressing my concerns. But I can't help but think he may have a point. With my arm all the way up, its totally flat. Yet it changes so drastically with my arm down. Poking at it in this way, I can totally see how any further tissue removal would result in a "cave in" when my arm is up. But then again, I don't understand. If a guy can be born without gynecomastia, and his chest can look flat no matter where his damn arm is, why can't mine after surgery? I truly believe this doctor is trying to, at least in his mind, do me a favor. But is there no happy medium where my chest can just be flat? Arm up or down?
Thanks for any input. Hoping somebody out there has an experience they can share that may help me. I don't wanna make a mistake and have a deformity, but I still have obvious nipple protrusion with my arms down. What is going on?