Some of us take a lot longer! 
Oh ya, its like learning to ride a bike, some of us fall off before we learn how to ride it than others, and some take off the 1st time on the seat!
You don't need to feel like you have to rush into anything! There is no law that says that if you have breast you have to support then! This is a personal choice, mostly for comfort in the majority of people and some just don't need it!
And on another note, there is no reason to be ashamed of it either! It's no different than having a Jimmy Duran nose or if you had some other visible signs of something that only YOU think is so terrible!
You are so right! It took me years to come to terms with my chest. And the reasons for that fear were just stupid. I didn't ask to have breasts. I wasn't "broken". Society was.
I don't feel "different" because I have breasts. I feel like "me" with breasts. At this point, I wouldn't know how to act if I didn't have breasts. I have never known a life being flat chested. How does that feel to not have shirts trying to flatten my bust? Would I even like that "feeling"? What is a "man" suppose to feel like? What does a "woman" feel like? I have no idea. I just know how "I" feel. That is all I have to go on.
After I started wearing a bra, the support felt like I was being hugged all the time. It was very relaxing, calming and the feel of the material of the cups surrounding my breast tissue gently containing/lifting/supporting gave me unexpected confidence because there was no more movement of my tissue as I moved and I had some control over my bust, something I never had before. Of course this all didn't occur to me overnight. It took a while of experiencing life while trussed up in a bra. I now am self conscience when in public braless. The girls can have a mind of their own sometimes that can be embarrassing. Can you say "high beams"!!
I have a female friend, one of only 3 who know I wear a bra, who put it all in perspective for me. She said my problem wasn't that I was wearing a bra, but I had boobs. A bra was just a piece of clothing that helped make me comfortable. My boobs were there whether I wore a bra or not. How did I deal with that? The problem was I had never come to terms with my chest. I thought long and hard about that statement and came to the realization she was right. I then had to learn to overcome my fear of the "boob" and that took a little while but I have just about completely overcome it. Life is too short to stress out over something like boobs. Cancer is something to stress out about, not mammary glands on your chest that doesn't hurt anything but your ego.
I am still careful how I dress because I don't want to flaunt them. My boobs are not who I am but are a part of me, but I still wear my bras proudly because it makes me physically more comfortable. The bra is for my comfort, not societies. And if you study how women wear their clothes, most of the time, they don't show their breasts off. Many times, it is hard to tell what size a women's breast are unless they are very large or they are wearing a revealing or accentuating top. So I have started taking those examples and using it to my advantage and even when wearing a bra. And I have noticed a reduction in "wandering eyes" since I have started doing that. That is not to say I don't get any wandering eyes anymore. I still do. But the number of times it happens has dropped considerably. I am finding that as long as I don't draw attention to them, no one seems to notice or care.
The reality is no one should care if a male has female features or a female has male features. It is no one's damn business. But many people think it is. Like I said, I am not broken. Society is. Once I came to that realization, some through reasoning and some through experience, life for me got a whole lot better.
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