Bra wearing no shame

[curiousk]

As most of you know, I started developing breasts at 10-11 years old.   I could have probably benefited from wearing a bra in my early teen years, but that wasn’t a possibility for me in the early to mid 80’s.

Throughout my teen and adult years, I dealt with having fairly large breasts that needed support. With inspiration from this forum and the desire to finally support my breasts, I decided that wearing a bra would be the best thing for me.

I went into a women’s clothing store and looked at bras.  I was approached by a SA, asking if I needed help.  I told I was looking a bra for myself and needed help.  She eyed me and said I think these might work.  I tried on a couple without success.   As I was pressed for time, she suggested to make an appointment for a fitting.

When I came back for the fitting, the same SA performed the fitting and it was a great experience.  She made me feel comfortable and educated me on the different styles and what would work for me.  I bought a few bras and wore one out of the store.

Since then, I have no problem going into any store and going to look at bras.  I’ll take them off the rack, carry them around the store, ask for a change room to try on, ask a SA for help or an opinion and pay for them.  I have no problem saying that I’m bra shopping for me.

It’s what I need to do from time to time.  I’m not embarrassed about my breasts and like having them.  The only thing I’ve done is that I’ve chosen to do is support them for comfort.  I’ll never hide them and if it’s a problem for other people, that their problem and not mine.  

A lot of SA’s will help you because you have breasts that you want supported.  Good for you if that’s what you want.   

[aboywithgirls]

Oh yes. It had gotten much easier the last five years or so when I  was still pretending to be a man. While I had a couple of local boutiques where I purchased most of my bras, I could go into Dillards or Macy's or Lane Bryant or Torrid and get great service from all of them.

If you need support for your girls, the stores and the SAs need to sell bras. If you don't go and get the support you need, you are both going to needlessly suffer. You have nothing to lose by wearing the right bra.

🤗Sophie🥰

[Orb]

I like the way you said it Curiousk.  And Sophie is correct in what I see also.  It has gotten easier of late.  The only bad, or negative, reaction I had was from another woman shopper.  We both worked the isles well till I moved in a bit closer to her as she was near the style I was looking for.  She turned and asked if I was going to buy a bra or if I was watching to see if she would stuff one in her purse.  I just smiled, laughed a bit and said I wasn't store security.  I was shopping.  A little smile and laughter eased her mind and my presence was no longer an issue for her.  I feel how we present ourselves can be the tie breaker also.  

[SideSet]

 I thought it was wonderful to see so many here sharing their positive bra shopping experiences, including welcoming and helpful sales associates, getting fitted, and trying on bras. 

 Just one quick look at most of us makes it obvious that we have breasts like women, so it doesn’t take a big leap to realize we need to wear bras like women. And if we need to wear bras like women, we need to shop for bras, and it naturally is going to be where other women are shopping for their bras 

[aboywithgirls]

I thought it was wonderful to see so many here sharing their positive bra shopping experiences, including welcoming and helpful sales associates, getting fitted, and trying on bras.

 Just one quick look at most of us makes it obvious that we have breasts like women, so it doesn’t take a big leap to realize we need to wear bras like women. And if we need to wear bras like women, we need to shop for bras, and it naturally is going to be where other women are shopping for their bras

Most of thehe girls at Zoe's, a bra boutique that I shop at know who I am and who I was. We've had the conversation about men shopping for bras for themselves. They have all seen a large increase in the amount of men looking for support over the last couple years. They've told me that it's not a fetish in most cases. It's a real need to for support! 

I don't expect anyone else here to put on a skirt and heels for work but, I am proud of all of you here who are secure enough to wear your bra.

[Johndoe1]

All the shops I deal with, even the one that closed, all know I am male and buy for myself because I need the support. They know me by my male name and have no problem dealing with me. Their first concern has always been my comfort with the process and making sure I got what I needed without things that might make me uncomfortable. I am treated as anyone else who needs breast support. And that's all I ask. I appreciate that.

[blad]

I would re enforce the theme here that it tends to be a positive experience to openly confirm that you are shopping for a bra for yourself. It is far more fun to engage the sales staff about your needs for a bra than to cower in the corner isles and make excuses that you are shopping for "the wife".

When they see your chest bumps it will be a give away that you are shopping for yourself anyway. Just enjoy the experience with confidence and get the bras you need, not the one you covertly grab off the rack in the first 60 seconds.

In Star Trek vernacular; there is no cloaking device for our needs.

[Orb]

  It takes a real man to walk in, get a bra and wear it.  Just saying.

[aboywithgirls]

  It takes a real man to walk in, get a bra and wear it.  Just saying.

And this girl admires each an everyone of you who are man enough to wear your bra. As it turned out, I was man enough until I wasn't.🥰

🤗 Sophie😍

[Evolver]

  It takes a real man to walk in, get a bra and wear it.  Just saying.

And this girl admires each an everyone of you who are man enough to wear your bra. As it turned out, I was man enough until I wasn't.🥰

🤗 Sophie😍

LOL! Where's the like button?

[aboywithgirls]

  It takes a real man to walk in, get a bra and wear it.  Just saying.

And this girl admires each an everyone of you who are man enough to wear your bra. As it turned out, I was man enough until I wasn't.🥰

🤗 Sophie😍

LOL! Where's the like button?

Too funny 😁!!!

Lots of 🤗🥰!!!

Sophie 😍 

[Rich meier]

  It takes a real man to walk in, get a bra and wear it.  Just saying.

And this girl admires each an everyone of you who are man enough to wear your bra. As it turned out, I was man enough until I wasn't.🥰

🤗 Sophie😍

why is it that most if us have no problem wearing a bra daily. but it seems that a lot of women hate it. the tirst thing thet di when they get home is take it off or dont wear one at all when home. my first eife was the same size as me ,40 c cup. this wife is 44DD and doesnt put one on at all when home and on occasion even when going out. the first thing I do when I get up, clean panties and then my bra till the time I go to bed and sometimes to sleep. very uncomfortable with out one. I have forgotten my wallet but not my bra

[blad]

  It takes a real man to walk in, get a bra and wear it.  Just saying.

And this girl admires each an everyone of you who are man enough to wear your bra. As it turned out, I was man enough until I wasn't.🥰

🤗 Sophie😍

why is it that most if us have no problem wearing a bra daily. but it seems that a lot of women hate it. the tirst thing thet di when they get home is take it off or dont wear one at all when home. my first eife was the same size as me ,40 c cup. this wife is 44DD and doesnt put one on at all when home and on occasion even when going out. the first thing I do when I get up, clean panties and then my bra till the time I go to bed and sometimes to sleep. very uncomfortable with out one. I have forgotten my wallet but not my bra

It is likely sample size.

Almost everyone in the acceptance area of this site has concluded that they feel best wearing a bra. That is basically why we are here.

But women have a sample size of half the planet. Out of all those sample points you will find more examples of those who do not like wearing a bra all day. Percentage wise though, it may not be all that large.

[Johndoe1]

why is it that most if us have no problem wearing a bra daily. but it seems that a lot of women hate it. the tirst thing thet di when they get home is take it off or dont wear one at all when home. my first eife was the same size as me ,40 c cup. this wife is 44DD and doesnt put one on at all when home and on occasion even when going out. the first thing I do when I get up, clean panties and then my bra till the time I go to bed and sometimes to sleep. very uncomfortable with out one. I have forgotten my wallet but not my bra

I think it is multi faceted. One, breasts are hypersexualized. Women stress do their breasts look a certain way. If not, it takes a bra to get to that look. And some women can never get to that look. Their boobs just aren't made to be that pliable. Most women are wearing the wrong size bra. They get hung up on the letters. They have been told for years by their mothers and/or friends that a perfect size is C. Truth is there is no "perfect size" Your perfect size is what size you are. Most women do not understand that a 32D is not the same cup size as a 38D. A D cup size in a 32 is an A cup in a 38. Most big box store sales people know this and so will sell a bra by cup size and not band size. That's why you can't buy a bra bigger than a D or DD at VS. It costs more to stock more sizes. Not only do you have to stock 15 or 20 band sizes, you also have to stock 7 to 10 cup sizes in each band size. Instead of sizing for the band, where you get 80% of support and then size for cup, the big box stores cheap out. Hence 80% of women wearing the wrong size bra. So a woman is wearing a bra that is too large in the band and too small in the cups. Yeah, I wouldn't like wearing a bra like that either. It moves around and no support and my boobs are squished.

Men who have developed breasts have come to the conscious decision that we need support. We take the time to do the research to get it right. We are not told from childhood that when we develop breasts we will be strapped in a bra for the rest of our lives. We don't have mothers who decided what size we are and then we never challenge that. We don't use bras as a fashion statement. We don't sexualize our breasts.

I had a women friend who knows tell me one time she was envious of my breasts. I asked why. She didn't answer in the way I thought she might. She said, "My boobs are expected to be on display all the time to prove my femininity in the clothes I wear, how large they are, what shape they are and how much I am willing to show. You only have to worry about is comfort and hiding your boobs. I will trade with you any day."

[aboywithgirls]

John, you are so right! As a male, I started as a teenager, wearing a bra out of complete necessity. While the girls my age were wearing padded push up bras, I was learning how to be the master of disguise, trying to figure the best way to hide my boobs and bra.

As time went on, I became more comfortable with having the girls and wearing a bra which led to more confidence. I work at a breast care center ( pretty ironic) as the office manager and have for worked there for almost 25 years. I didn't realize that my girls were the unspoken, open secret. One day, during lunch, one of the girls who I usually had lunch with asked me why I wore a bra. I was taken off guard but I told her why. She was the one who convinced me that I didn't need to hide anything and having breasts was nothing to be ashamed of. When we got back to work, I took my jacket off and gained additional confidence. 

When I returned to work after the Covid closings as Sophie, I felt free to be me but I also realized that I was also being judged. My chest didn't change. I wore the bras I did as a male. However my chest instantly changed from being somewhat of an oddity to being sexualized. 

I've learned to deal with it and become comfortable as a woman of transgender experience and with that, gained more confidence.

Love you all 🥰

Sophie 🤗🥰🤗🥰😍