There is something a bit disingenuous about this conversation.
I don't know about disingenuous. All I know is my own experience and what I have seen and been told.
Women know full well the impact their breasts have on men they encounter in life. Breasts are not simply elbows. If they were we'd had thousands of commercials of women showing off their elbows. But what we have are images of cleavage clearly intended to capture the eyes of men who might click on the offered link.
Yes. You are correct. Women weaponize their breasts all the time. They do so in the clothes they select. They are a very powerful sign of sexuality. Are they sexually excited with their own breasts? I am sure some are, but most I know, aren't. I suspect the same is true with men with breasts as well. And anyone who is sexually excited with their own breasts, then I see nothing wrong with that. It's just I don't. That's me. And I believe I stated such.
Yes, we have breasts developing on our chests. And yes, we are men who aren't supposed to have breasts on our chest. That is why we're here having this conversation. It is important to find acceptance since apart from having them removed, we need to find some way to contend with the reality in which we find ourselves. But, please, let's not delude ourselves by suggesting breasts don't have an erotic place in the minds of most men. Yes, the fact they're on OUR chests is problematic, but that is the challenge we're here to address. We don't have the opportunity to play with our endowment to titillate others since in all likelihood they would be offended... but we really do have breasts and most of us have some experience fantasizing about breasts that enters the equation. They are not elbows my friend.
I don't believe the conversation was one of men do not find eroticism in the female breast. I am here to say, breasts are the number one sexual attraction women use towards men. That's why we in the gynecomastia community have the societal issues we have today. Breasts are powerful. Can our breasts do the same? I see no reason why not. In my case, a man's breast does not excite me sexually in the same way a women's breast does. But I am not judging what others may or may not be turned on by. I only know me.
And you are correct. They are not elbows. They are breasts. And yes, I would not be surprised if many, if not all of us, have at one time or another, whether we want to admit it or not, have fantasized what it might be like to to have our breasts excite someone in an erotic way. It would be only natural. How many would carry through on such a thing, I can't even begin to guess, but then, I can only speak for myself. That's all any of us can do. To some it is totally academic and to others it may be a practical thing. Your mileage will vary.