How has this condition effected your sex life?

[boobhater22]

I just had a relationship with a guy after being celibate for a year and a half. I just hated my body so much (was morbidly obese then), and my breasts got quite huge due to the obesity. I just...couldn't bring myself to get with a guy.

About five to six weeks ago, I finally got with a guy who was 6'1" and 160 lbs (more than half of what I weighed a year ago last May--330 then), and he was pretty cute and young - mid 20's - very nice body. Right now I have lost like approximately 115 lbs, and I look average wtih my clothes on...but I still have the breasts, and I am still a little big when my clothse come off. However, even though I have lsot the weight, I still feel like i am massively obese and absolutely disgusting and repuslive physically.

As a result of this mindset, I was constantly very awkward and frigid....extremely nervous...whenever we had sex or messed around. In the past when i had sexual relations...whilst thin and whilst slightly overweight...I never, ever had that problem...even though I still had breasts of course. I always kept my shirt on though--because I knew it would totally repulse them (gay men do **NOT** like breasts--they like masculinity!). But now I just feel like I am absolutely repugnant; I still view myself as morbidly obese. It is going to be hard to shake this mindset.

He kept bugging me to take my shirt off, and I kept refusing. Sometimes he would try to take it off, and I would just pin his arms down, so he couldn't mess with my shirt. (I am much stronger than him.) Eventually, he talked to me about why I always kept my shirt on, and I actually told him about the breasts. He said he didn't care, but...I still wouldn't take my shirt off because it bothered me way too much. I never, ever let him see me withotu my shirt on (as I have not done with 95% of the guys I have been with). I was utterly amazed that he had not even noticed I had breasts...I guess some people can be rather clueless!

Well, after several weeks of dating, I broke things off with this dude for reasons other than my extreme self-consciousness during sex. But in the future, I don't think I am capable of having happy sexual relations with my breasts...I just get way too self-conscious and feel way too awkward and inadequate. I would much rather jack off to pornography where i don't feel so inadequate and worthless due to the breasts. So I think I am gonna be celibate again for another year or so until I can afford the surgery. I just don't need this kind of pressure in my life. It's way too much to handle. You really cannot enjoy sex when you feel like you're disgusting and repulsive...at least I can't.

[bassplayer]

umm  lil to much info but its ok umm i cant help you out with the other guys stuff.... But with girls theres so many more things u can do or just tweak your nips works and shows your into her or keep clothes on or do something crazy i dunno use your mind

[aux513s]

Having sexual relationships while you have gyno is a really bad idea in my opinion.

It can only lead to pain and it's not worth it.

Of course the girl is going to pretend not to care when you tell her, but she'll be making fun of you behind your back after she dumps you a week later.

[RiseAgainst162]

what your sayn is so true it sucks...you think she doesnt care and shes into you but then when shes with her friends they just talk garbage and it does hurt no one likes that..so why put yourself through it?

[Gine2D]

Aux13 I have to disagree wityh you on having sex with gyne.  If I had not I would not be married & have 2 sons.

Sex is great, and with gyne it is excellent.

[aux513s]

Totally disagree Gine2D.

For those of us who refuse to lower our standards and date fat, ugly girls, sex with gyne is a no go.

Also, I for one will not be having kids. I don't want them to inherit this condition and have to deal with this hell.

[jc71]

I for one will not be having kids. I don't want them to inherit this condition and have to deal with this hell.

Wow. You really hate gyne.  One of mans deepest desires is to reproduce.  I have a 1 year old boy.  I'm hoping they come up with a gynecomastia vaccine in the next 10 years.  If not, i'll be watching and ready to take him to the endo so he doesn't have to deal with what I went through.

[jc71]

Gine2D - do your sons have gyne?

[There_Is_Hope]

Totally disagree Gine2D.

For those of us who refuse to lower our standards and date fat, ugly girls, sex with gyne is a no go.

Also, I for one will not be having kids. I don't want them to inherit this condition and have to deal with this hell.

Who says they will inherit it? My grandfather didn't have it, my father didn't have it, and my brother didn't have it. I'm the 'ugly duckling'..

[Kevin]

Gyne can be inherited but often it's not. Like me nobody in my family has gyne. I have hormonal imbalance and maybe some mutation has occured during my conception. Now if I have kids there's a 50% chance they're gonna inherit my condition.

[Gine2D]

Gine2D - do your sons have gyne?

Yes & my father also has boobs.  Mine are the largest at 40-C


Aux513, " lower our standards and date fat, ugly girls"
No I did not lower my standards. I dated girls that were over weight, some were skinny, cheerleaders, majorettes, some were plain, some were real beauties.  I did not select dates on the basis of how they looked, but mostly on moral character.  I never was refused a date in high school or college.

Yes, sex is great with gyne,  gyne does not make you do anything.  Boobs do not have any control on your actions.

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[Spleen]

Right on Gyne2D.  It's pure mind over matter.

[aux513s]

my father also has boobs.  Mine are the largest at 40-C..... I never was refused a date in high school or college.

Somehow I find that a little hard to believe.

Right on Gyne2D.  It's pure mind over matter.

If you feel that way then why did you even bother having the surgery?

[Gine2D]

I was not a 40-C in high school.

I was more like the guy in desparate housewifes in build & size, my areola & nipples were much larger.  

Boobs were a little larger in college, but still had the same build.

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[Spleen]

aux, very simple: to improve my appearance.