Finding what works

[oldguy]

Some months ago I asked my wife if she’d be ok if I got a toy for myself. Embarrassing as it is just thought it’s better to ask than just do.

Yesteday I got around to it and it came overnight and opened it and set it in my office. Not to use just out of the way till she left for the day for work. She never comes in the office for anything. And guess what she decided to do today lol! I hear the office door open and go oh shhh head down to hope she’s in laundry room but nope.

Shirt in the office covering the toy in an intent to make sure it’s out of sight for who’s currently in the house for pest control.

On top of it, my lavender lotion I like to help ease nerves and stress at end of night as I love the scent is on desk also from last night applying it to neck before bed from working awhile in the office. Worst placement of two things ever lol.

Gave a glare and headed out for the day no love you see you later, no response to texts. Hoping she’s just in a busy as hell day and there’s no cause for concern later.

Dude,

Looks like you had the worst possible luck, possible.

After several knee operation between us and are 75, we have adapted to cuddling with music from our favorite romantic songs.  We do have toys and these get the job done.  I help her, for several times.  One is plenty for me.

I hope you are able to work this out and she understands your situation and needs.  

[WPW717]

Since the castration I have experienced 3 total body orgasms.

Unique experiences to say the least, wasn’t trying for the first two. Just us petting & cuddling. The third was a solo attempt and it took a massive amount of time & effort to produce. Won’t go that way again. Whew!

[AlfaQ]

It's great to hear that you are able to get sexual satisfaction since your castration.  Whole body orgasms take some effort but in my experience are more intense and pleasurable than what I had experienced before.  I think they are closer to what our female friends experience.  For me this along with my growing breasts has made me feel somewhat feminised but I have managed to reframe this as something new and exciting. 

[Dudewithboobs]

With my imbalance finding other options has been key. My wife I am not so sure would be on board with things. But personal time before hand has allowed me to be able to do things. 

Glad others here are finding other options as well 

[gotgyne]

With my imbalance finding other options has been key. My wife I am not so sure would be on board with things. But personal time before hand has allowed me to be able to do things.

Glad others here are finding other options as well

I've noticed that with the development of my breasts erectile dysfunction started and got worse as the breasts got bigger. In the beginning as my penis was still semi rigid I could use a hollow strap on and move it with my penis. Some time later there was no erection at all and I had to switch to a strap on with a harness. This is sex just as some lesbians do it.

But if I had the choice getting my breasts removed surgically and be capable to get strong erections again (this is only hypothetical since I know it is impossible) or keeping my breasts and stay completely impotent I'd always opt for my breasts. I'm quite done with my male functions.

[Dudewithboobs]

I imagine the bigger the boobs get the bigger the problems get elsewhere. Given the areas below run on T and Free T, the lower both become and higher other hormones get I believe it gets to a point of long term imbalance that the body resets in to a state of a “new normal” making things difficult over time to recover from in terms of function without medical help such as blue pills and such. Which I couldn’t imagine taking. 

My favorite thing sarcastically is how anywhere you read in term of shrinkage is “it can’t shrink it’s not a muscle” “it’ll regain size once function returns” I was 6.25 and now 4 1/8. Consistent loss of function and hardships of function over last year or two has definitively changed size. Every now and a then I’ll notice it looks a little better and for fun measure and never has it re grown beyond 4.5. 

ChatGPT has become a medical journal research of sorts in understanding some things and it goes against the folks of google and confirms this indeed is common place in cases of sustained hormonal imbalance. Even if function is present tissue to things below can receive inadequate blood flow or irregular frequencies of erect. I.e no night time moments or sporadic or libido low so intimacy becomes far and few between due to loss of interest and over time the tissue just loses elasticity which in turn creates a loss of size permanently. 

It’s good times navigating this journey of sorts for what causes not just our chests to grow but other areas to change as well. 

I’ve heard plenty of people and couples resorting to strapons due to impotency and am sorry it’s resulted in that for you and your wife. But hope it’s been a good time nonetheless and am glad she’s adjusted and accommodated unorthodox options where I imagine most women would just disengage. 

[AlfaQ]

Post surgery my size had shrunk and catheterisation had left me incontinent. Fortunately determined rehab exercises have given me  a good recovery.   This recovery was greatly assisted by finding an erotic association with my breasts and bras.  So wearing a bra daily has facilitated my sexual recovery so I don't intend to stop wearing one. 

[Dudewithboobs]

Erotic association is almost impossible as I feel the brain just sees boobs hands feel boobs body feels boobs. Contrary to the eyes going hey dumb*** those aren’t hers they’re yours lol. The attraction to our own chests is a tough line to divide. It’s caused me a lot of angst and worry and concern over nothing. And a lot of enjoyment self discovery and peace at the same time which both of it all happening at the same time often isn’t helpful in easing anxieties lol 

[taxmapper]

My world is entirely diff.   My libido is full strength but unused due to the other half in menopause and T2 diabetes. 

the only other female that "seemed" interested got one handful of boob one night and went... nope. 

This actually put me in a diff. location se3xual wise.   The periphery isn't the right term, nor event horizon.  More like the center of a Black Hole. 

[Justagirl💃]

My world is entirely diff.  My libido is full strength but unused due to the other half in menopause and T2 diabetes.

Be patient with her as menopause really sucks! 
I went through the hot flushes and night sweats myself,  and my libido was nonexistent during those times. 

My doctor floated the idea of estrogen, but never followed through.  I used flax seed smoothies to buffer the symptoms,  and still incorporate plenty of flaxseed into my diet even today. I add it to my sourdough bread and homemade guacamole.

You might work with her a bit helping her with symptoms. 

[42CSurprise!]

I'm back to this thread which has recently come alive again.  I really appreciate that this conversation is here simply because the truth of what is happening to our bodies, our sexuality and our relationships is essential to know.  These are things not often spoken about in conversation with friends and family, but it is OUR reality.  Deep respect everyone.

I've mentioned before that women have a clitoris that functions much like our penis.  As I've experienced the changes that included developing breasts my libido has vanished and my penis seems content with becoming a clitoris.  That is a bit of an exaggeration but it is certainly much easier for me to sit as I urinate and I regularly use tissue to clean myself after urinating... as women generally do.

I'm not in an intimate relationship so have no need to negotiate a sexual relationship.  I'm grateful for that.  I've taken a brief sabbatical from wearing a brassiere because I created a bit of a bruise from wearing a brassiere too long last week... like 14 hours.  I was aware of itching at my side but it was only when I removed the brassiere that I noted the six inch bruise.  It is healed well enough that I put on a brassiere this morning and my breasts are as spectacular as I recalled.  This is a journey and we each are coming to terms with the changes happening in our bodies.  That is healthy.  This is the club we never wished to join but are glad exists so we can find support.

[Parity]

... I've taken a brief sabbatical from wearing a brassiere because I created a bit of a bruise from wearing a brassiere too long last week... like 14 hours.  I was aware of itching at my side but it was only when I removed the brassiere that I noted the six inch bruise.  It is healed well enough that I put on a brassiere this morning and my breasts are as spectacular as I recalled.

Appreciate what you said, this one thing I thought I might comment on.  

  We all share the breast growth journey. Many times we feel sharp pains, other times a tingling even aching.   I have noticed growth without those signs also.  From the pictures and comments you have shared perhaps its time to get fitted again or try a size up. 

  I'm not trying to call you out just a thought of concern.  

Cheers Mate.  

[Johndoe1]

I do have a little envy for those of you who can still go braless. For me, I am afraid that ship has sailed. Any extended period of time unsupported becomes physically uncomfortable for me. Support is now a must for me for comfort. 

[Dudewithboobs]

I walked past the window heading in to the gym today and noticed my chest notably fuller in reflection than I recalled last week. The aches tingled and pains are very real in terms of active growth. Last few weeks it’s been radiating throughout the outside areas with consistent tingling in areolas. To touch there is more mass and fullness and reflection shows it as well. 

Wife and I were intimate last night so no touch and release there that makes me feel she isn’t caring if it’s noticed. Which is nice. As my concern is losing her attraction to me or appeal to my most erogenous area. 

Going braless is still able but it’s more felt than before when walking around the gym and elliptical. Running is fine as muscles tense up in runners position but overall just time to admit I need a bra here as well. 

Was at my other gym two days ago and a woman who was on other side of free weight area and behind me. In the mirror kept feeling someone lookin and would look in the mirror and see her change her glance multiple times. Unsure if she saw my pullover outlines or just general looking and concern of someone seeing my bra. But was the reason I opted out of one today. I feel it’s time to just say f it and wear without care. 

[WPW717]

Yeah, the rapidity of onset for me was  so quick that the angst & anxiety of being outed at the gym & other venues was short lived.

At 75 it was a so effin what if I get clocked. Might have been very different at a younger age with body image issues.

Hang tough guys and stay strong. The truth has been spoken here before, most people have a high degree of internal dialogue such that they don’t notice the subtle things. A few exceptions to this are those professions that are trained to notice the minute things. Nurses, doctors, investigators and their field of view is focused & limited. In other words enjoy the gym, enjoy life, and enjoy the new us. Life is short, eat dessert first.