Finding what works

[gotgyne]

With my imbalance finding other options has been key. My wife I am not so sure would be on board with things. But personal time before hand has allowed me to be able to do things.

Glad others here are finding other options as well

I've noticed that with the development of my breasts erectile dysfunction started and got worse as the breasts got bigger. In the beginning as my penis was still semi rigid I could use a hollow strap on and move it with my penis. Some time later there was no erection at all and I had to switch to a strap on with a harness. This is sex just as some lesbians do it.

But if I had the choice getting my breasts removed surgically and be capable to get strong erections again (this is only hypothetical since I know it is impossible) or keeping my breasts and stay completely impotent I'd always opt for my breasts. I'm quite done with my male functions.

[AlfaQ]

Post surgery my size had shrunk and catheterisation had left me incontinent. Fortunately determined rehab exercises have given me  a good recovery.   This recovery was greatly assisted by finding an erotic association with my breasts and bras.  So wearing a bra daily has facilitated my sexual recovery so I don't intend to stop wearing one. 

[taxmapper]

My world is entirely diff.   My libido is full strength but unused due to the other half in menopause and T2 diabetes. 

the only other female that "seemed" interested got one handful of boob one night and went... nope. 

This actually put me in a diff. location se3xual wise.   The periphery isn't the right term, nor event horizon.  More like the center of a Black Hole. 

[Justagirl💃]

My world is entirely diff.  My libido is full strength but unused due to the other half in menopause and T2 diabetes.

Be patient with her as menopause really sucks! 
I went through the hot flushes and night sweats myself,  and my libido was nonexistent during those times. 

My doctor floated the idea of estrogen, but never followed through.  I used flax seed smoothies to buffer the symptoms,  and still incorporate plenty of flaxseed into my diet even today. I add it to my sourdough bread and homemade guacamole.

You might work with her a bit helping her with symptoms. 

[42CSurprise!]

I'm back to this thread which has recently come alive again.  I really appreciate that this conversation is here simply because the truth of what is happening to our bodies, our sexuality and our relationships is essential to know.  These are things not often spoken about in conversation with friends and family, but it is OUR reality.  Deep respect everyone.

I've mentioned before that women have a clitoris that functions much like our penis.  As I've experienced the changes that included developing breasts my libido has vanished and my penis seems content with becoming a clitoris.  That is a bit of an exaggeration but it is certainly much easier for me to sit as I urinate and I regularly use tissue to clean myself after urinating... as women generally do.

I'm not in an intimate relationship so have no need to negotiate a sexual relationship.  I'm grateful for that.  I've taken a brief sabbatical from wearing a brassiere because I created a bit of a bruise from wearing a brassiere too long last week... like 14 hours.  I was aware of itching at my side but it was only when I removed the brassiere that I noted the six inch bruise.  It is healed well enough that I put on a brassiere this morning and my breasts are as spectacular as I recalled.  This is a journey and we each are coming to terms with the changes happening in our bodies.  That is healthy.  This is the club we never wished to join but are glad exists so we can find support.

[Parity]

... I've taken a brief sabbatical from wearing a brassiere because I created a bit of a bruise from wearing a brassiere too long last week... like 14 hours.  I was aware of itching at my side but it was only when I removed the brassiere that I noted the six inch bruise.  It is healed well enough that I put on a brassiere this morning and my breasts are as spectacular as I recalled.

Appreciate what you said, this one thing I thought I might comment on.  

  We all share the breast growth journey. Many times we feel sharp pains, other times a tingling even aching.   I have noticed growth without those signs also.  From the pictures and comments you have shared perhaps its time to get fitted again or try a size up. 

  I'm not trying to call you out just a thought of concern.  

Cheers Mate.  

[Johndoe1]

I do have a little envy for those of you who can still go braless. For me, I am afraid that ship has sailed. Any extended period of time unsupported becomes physically uncomfortable for me. Support is now a must for me for comfort. 

[WPW717]

Yeah, the rapidity of onset for me was  so quick that the angst & anxiety of being outed at the gym & other venues was short lived.

At 75 it was a so effin what if I get clocked. Might have been very different at a younger age with body image issues.

Hang tough guys and stay strong. The truth has been spoken here before, most people have a high degree of internal dialogue such that they don’t notice the subtle things. A few exceptions to this are those professions that are trained to notice the minute things. Nurses, doctors, investigators and their field of view is focused & limited. In other words enjoy the gym, enjoy life, and enjoy the new us. Life is short, eat dessert first.

[Traveler]

I do have a little envy for those of you who can still go braless. For me, I am afraid that ship has sailed. Any extended period of time unsupported becomes physically uncomfortable for me. Support is now a must for me for comfort.

I’m with JD1 on this. I can’t go braless for too long without getting aches, plus my nipples are constantly feeling the movement across my shirt. If I’m just sitting around relaxing, sure but if I’m active, I’ll pay for it later. I don’t know how someone with even larger breasts do it.

[taxmapper]

I do have a little envy for those of you who can still go braless. For me, I am afraid that ship has sailed. Any extended period of time unsupported becomes physically uncomfortable for me. Support is now a must for me for comfort.

I’m with JD1 on this. I can’t go braless for too long without getting aches, plus my nipples are constantly feeling the movement across my shirt. If I’m just sitting around relaxing, sure but if I’m active, I’ll pay for it later. I don’t know how someone with even larger breasts do it.

Yup, here.   If I go braless outside of shower or bed, it hurts after a while.  Breasts seem to be in a morph phase and uncomfortable as hell otherwise.