I love having boobs!

[Parity]

At a recent bra fitting the fitter holding the bra in front  said "lean forward  and slide your boobs into the cups". The first time anyone has called them boobs mostly they don't refer to them directly.  It was a very affirming moment for me. Yes I do have boobs and that's why I wear a bra.

That would be reaffirming to hear. That in itself had to make you feel better also,  as to why you were there and the shopping experience. Made you feel like you belonged.

[Dudewithboobs]

WP, I’m quite the opposite. I’m a fan of hugs lol perhaps it’s the estrogen dominance that makes me more friendly and welcoming of them. But doubtful. Always have been a bit of a bring it in for a hug type of person lol. 

The pat on the back I’ve had a few times from 2 co workers. Who pass by and jokingly tap me on the shoulder or touch my back to signal they are there if trying to tell me something privately. Good friends type stuff. And few times have felt them linger on a pat or touch that felt more like is that what I think it is. It wasn’t until some months ago I realized my bras while invisible when leaving the house are quite visible in their outline in office lighting. While not too concerned it has just been a what I have noticed and wonder if they do too feeling. 

Parity, I feel the same. I have a neighbor and we get together for breakfast coffee at his house on the patio once a month or so. Older gentleman and we just connect on current events and music and so forth and it’s nice to just be neighbors and such. When I get up to get going to clock in when working remote. We’ll have a brief hug and he always pats my back when releasing and I feel it’s his way of either being friendly or confirming as the more comfortable I am with someone more comfortable I am in not being overly intentional of hiding my bra in terms of positioning myself or refraining from stretching or moving certain ways. 

AlfaQ I’m glad your fitting was so well done and professionally respected in regard to your breasts. It’s one thing to realize we no longer have a male chest. It’s another to realize others at times indicate they realize our chests are different in a way that is not quite normal. It’s very different when someone familiar with breasts and how to take care of them recognize them as the same and calls them what they are to affirm what is being fitted for is what is being fitted for. 

[AlfaQ]

If the fitter is putting you into D and DD cups then they really have no reason not to call them boobs.

[Dudewithboobs]

That’s about as fair of a point as a fair point gets lol. 

[Johndoe1]

At a recent bra fitting the fitter holding the bra in front  said "lean forward  and slide your boobs into the cups". The first time anyone has called them boobs mostly they don't refer to them directly.  It was a very affirming moment for me. Yes I do have boobs and that's why I wear a bra.

In my experience, with the size and shape of my breasts, it's obvious to a knowledgeable fitter, she is dealing with breast tissue and adipose as with any female client. They aren't moobs and and do not look like moobs and should be treated for what they are, breasts. 

The term boobs is common vernacular with women when referring to the female breast amongst themselves. So it should not be surprising that as they see our chests as the same as theirs, they too would refer and use the same vernacular when speaking of ours. I personally appreciate that my chest is recognized and accepted and treated for what it is. There is peace. 

It sounds like this fitter recognized a fellow traveler and was treating you as she would a female client. I enjoy and relish those instances because our chests should be treated with the same respect as a woman's chest. I get just a moment of what that feels like and I don't have to have my guard up in those situations. 

I recently had a conversation with a fitter I had just met (she has never fitted me) and we discussed gynecomastia and how men with moderate to severe cases are treated. She herself said there should be no difference extended to men with developed breasts than are extended to women. That's a private space no matter who you are. And in her shop, men were just as welcomed as women and are offered the same ability for comfort for their developed chest as woman. And her male clients appreciated that. 

So, at least in a small sector of society, we are accepted for what we are, men with boobs. It's a start. 

[Dudewithboobs]

Well said john and glad you’ve had such good experiences and conversations. It’s those who attest to them that may make the people who come and go here more apt to trust going in if they feel it’s needed to, trusting it’s going to be a positive experience rather than a ridiculed one. 

[TracyH]

When I was in High School my math teacher reached up and poked me with her pencil right on one of my breasts. This really confirmed to me that I had boobs and as a teenager struggling with gender issues it didn't help. 

Tracy

[Parity]

Tracy H.,

  Sometimes it's not only the other kids that can be insensitive and inappropriate.  

   I hope you still feel good about yourself and are happy being you. 

Johndoe, 

  "So, at least in a small sector of society, we are accepted for what we are, men with boobs. It's a start."

I like it when someone refers to our breast development to as just that.  They are boobs.  I feel when someone refers to them on me as moobs it is a bit demeaning.  Thinking I can just change with diet and pushups.   I am a man with breast.  Boobs.  And I'm okay.

[Dudewithboobs]

Stone cold agreement with that Parity. Moobs to me indicates poor diet and fatty tissue. When ultrasounds, nurses and mychart details them as breasts and breasts development. When my urologist asks “has anything gotten worse or better since last visit, have you experienced further breast growth” rather than calling it gynecomastia as he did prior to. And then just general self awareness of them. They are boobs. They may not be D cups by any means but no diet or weight loss is going to take them away. Cause they’re boobs. 

[WPW717]

Moobs do not get multiple repeat mammograms, breasts do.

Just ask anyone with breasts in the D+ category 

[taxmapper]

With my mammogram, as I said before, the doctor was very polite and very informative. 

He was also typical male. 
VERY dismissive.   

The biggest problem is getting over the issue of the binary template. not that I dot agree with a spectrum like concept, it works to a degree. But men with developed breast are subject to the same issues as women, especially with glandular growth!   the fat deposits are one thing, but glandular means real honset to God breasts.  They need to be looked at, worked at and treated the same! 

[Johndoe1]

Every time I have had to deal with a male doctor about my breasts, I get that. When a female doctor is involved, it's completely different and I am treated the same way women are treated. Compassion and understanding. There's something about when you have your own, you look at things differently. I can completely understand how women feel like being treated as chattel by men. When it comes to my chest, I have been treated like that too.

[Justagirl💃]

Every time I have had to deal with a male doctor about my breasts, I get that. When a female doctor is involved, it's completely different and I am treated the same way women are treated. Compassion and understanding. There's something about when you have your own, you look at things differently. I can completely understand how women feel like being treated as chattel by men. When it comes to my chest, I have been treated like that too.

Yeah, upon occasion I get the PA and she treats me a lot better than my male doctor. 

My male doctor treats me like I"m a freak show never mentioning my breasts out loud and only talks about treating my gender dysphoria instead. 

[Dudewithboobs]

The perspective from professional to personal interaction is seemingly across the board different from when a man is adding input vs a woman. My urologist who’s male 2 months ago asked “if I had any continued discomfort in my chest tissue” when giving an exam. 
Last month at my quarterly follow up with my NP who’s a early 40s woman, went over recent labs and general physical and asked me “have there been any changes or concerns in either breast since last time”. And during a general exam asking “does it hurt if I press on the breast here, here, etc”Simple things like chest tissue, and breasts stand out to me. I just see it as males not wanting to run risk of offending a male so they keep it medical rather than actual. Whereas a woman may be more empathetic and at ease about men with breasts and address them as such. 
Which is fair I imagine most men or those presenting male are not as comfortable with the terminology used here in regard to their own assets. 

[WPW717]

Lucky you, your caregivers at least examine you somewhat. Mine NEVER have asked to even examine any part of me in last 8-10 years. The only exception was a fill in NP who did do an appropriate exam 4 years ago. That was when I was progressing from a C up to present volume. Even though she knew I was an advanced RN practitioner she made sure I knew how to perform a BSE. One actually wrote a very detailed S1to S4 auscultory evaluation of my heart all from a 6 second exam through 3 layers of flannel. I never went back to him.