I love having boobs!

[Dudewithboobs]

@Oldguy, I’m 39, so a little younger. Discreet is key for me as well. Being a father and husband and having a company and my wife having a company and being active in community and church and so forth. It’s a very fine line of what to not promote in terms of my chest. 
Also being part of a running club with others my age it is just a lot to consider to not run risk of being seen as “that guy”. I’m happy to educate others as to why I’m wearing a bra if it’s recognized but being discreet is my preference. I have zero shame in wearing a bra. Cause I can comedically pull my collar down and show why I’m wearing one lol. But my comedy and comfort in it may not be the same to others so I just try to keep them to myself. 

My breasts are not pendulous or oversized to a degree of neck down indistinguishable to a woman’s. But the volume is enough to cause discomfort so I wear bras that keep me comfortable but hide well. There are continuous signs I notice of an imbalance in hormones and it effects a few things. But it isn’t a concern of mine and dr bills aren’t worth the concern they may have. Unsure if they will grow more or not but if they became pendulous I wouldn’t care too much. And would jut like to continue being comfortable and taking care of them. Just like muscles or other things on my body I try to keep in good condition, my breasts would be the same and would only hope they look great and not some moob sacks. 

[Parity]

@Oldguy, I’m 39, so a little younger. Discreet is key for me as well. Being a father and husband and having a company and my wife having a company and being active in community and church and so forth. It’s a very fine line of what to not promote in terms of my chest.
Also being part of a running club with others my age it is just a lot to consider to not run risk of being seen as “that guy”. I’m happy to educate others as to why I’m wearing a bra if it’s recognized but being discreet is my preference. I have zero shame in wearing a bra. Cause I can comedically pull my collar down and show why I’m wearing one lol. But my comedy and comfort in it may not be the same to others so I just try to keep them to myself....

 

  Dude, I agree with you 100 percent.  My involvement in those same setting is something I too struggle with.  I'm me, unashamed yet...

  Dressing in a way that does more to draw the eyes away is my jam.  I feel its better for everyone I meet to see me as a man with a broad chest rather than a man with breast on display.  That said I do have some bras that I feel make my chest/breast, stand out and on display.  Not for every social setting.   As you said we are who we are and being discreet is what make me, like you, most comfortable. 

[Dudewithboobs]

Definitely. I feel I am very proud of my chest. I don’t mind what it’s become and have fully embraced them for what they are. But don’t feel the need to promote them or provoke attention to them. I’m only a small C cup so hiding them is fairly easy compared to others here who really have no choice but I feel when I am presenting well and keep them discreet but comfortable im most confident. 
I wear pull overs more than t shirt bras at this point or a bralette that gives mild support but lacks details of a bra in terms of visibility. 
I feel if life was a bit different regarding personal areas and relationships. Id wear more traditional bras, styles, colors and just have fun with the options. But as life is, compromise is a must if I can retain comfort in doing so. 

[Traveler]

I feel if life was a bit different regarding personal areas and relationships. Id wear more traditional bras, styles, colors and just have fun with the options. But as life is, compromise is a must if I can retain comfort in doing so.

So true! I very often choose concealment over comfort. I still have visible bumps, but people just see me as “chesty” rather than having a bust.

[Dudewithboobs]

It’s amazing what people see from the neck down, when what they see from the neck up is a guy. 
It’s pretty confident building in itself in wearing a bra knowing because of what people see eye to eye they tend to lack recognition to what’s on the chest if visible 

[blad]

I am fully confident being in public wear a bra daily.

Family / friend contacts with hugs and pats on the back are more reveling and harder to guard against. 

[Dudewithboobs]

Applaud that confidence. I’m very comfortable in a pullover bra but still get nervous at times in a t shirt bra. Was very comfortable in one till a couple months ago and seen my reflection in various lighting for once. 
At home absolutely invisible. 
At work, noticed my straps and arc of seams in the cups were fairly visible as well. 
In Home Depot went to use the restroom washing hands and could clearly see my bra. 

In all cases either a thicker golf polo or relaxed fit dark shirt was worn and felt it camouflaged things well but after that made me feel insecure again. 

A pullover still has definitive lining to them as the neck and back go down further than a man’s tank top lining would. But still feel it provides enough middle ground to not be seen as such on a guy. 

My chest is painfully sore the last day or two and hoping it’s more from wife and I being intimate than the usual case of things. I love having boobs but if this is another growth spurt there’s gonna be a line that gets crossed in their appearance I feel. 

[Traveler]

In all cases either a thicker golf polo or relaxed fit dark shirt was worn and felt it camouflaged things well but after that made me feel insecure again.

That happens a lot to me too. Just remember no one’s really looking.

A pullover still has definitive lining to them as the neck and back go down further than a man’s tank top lining would. But still feel it provides enough middle ground to not be seen as such on a guy.

Totally agree!

I love having boobs but if this is another growth spurt there’s gonna be a line that gets crossed in their appearance I feel.

Trust me, as someone with a bit bigger chest who also wears the pullovers and dark shirts, no one seems to notice or care. Yeah, I’ll occasionally get the glance down from coworkers, but no one’s said or asked a thing. People will accept that that’s just Dude and that’s how he looks. Al long as you don’t go full on bra at work or with your social group you’ll be fine! I’ve been there and done that.

[42CSurprise!]

This small community preaching acceptance has been a great gift to me and I have come to love my breasts.  That said, I've also mentioned before that if given the choice between these rather voluptuous breasts and a flat chest from the time I was a boy, I'd take the flat chest.  Being different always comes at a price, regardless of what that difference may be.  Kids can be cruel and adults not especially empathetic about someone else's challenges.  But I'm not a boy and have lived with a fleshy chest my entire life.  I did not have developed breasts as a teen as some among had, but I was self-conscious enough about my body that I dressed to hide my curves.  Yes, I was fixated on breasts and brassieres for reasons I've outlined before and that made the journey that much more complicated.  But with age came diminishing testosterone and the softness of my chest gradually morphed into breasts.  I also had a fetish for brassieres so when I encountered men who were dealing with breasts developing on their chests who opted for brassieres I jumped into the fray.  So, I HAVE breasts... I love putting on a brassiere and enjoy the new reality...  Since I have breasts it makes sense to love them and it makes sense to find lovely brassieres that show them to advantage... and it is fun to take a few photos to show them off...   Nice to be part of this club... even if it seems to be on hiatus...

[Parity]

I'm with ya 42C.  My boyish bod like yours took a full change to breast as I got older.  Accept? Yes.  Can it be a bit tricky at times?  Can't deny that either.  Toning down is a must, not because of me, rather society.  I do enjoy a well fitting shaping bra when I can.  That is not having meetings with others as much.  As Traveler said:

  "...as you don’t go full on bra at work or with your social group you’ll be fine."

It is what it is.  To bad but...

  If you notice the other side of this site isn't very active.  Not much activity at all.  Perhaps many are just reading post here and living with it or they are getting the medical support they need with engaging with a social group here.

  Regardless,  I'm happy to be a part of this also and appreciate all the comments and advice given here.

[42CSurprise!]

It appears there are a few folks browsing these threads because when I post a photo of my breasts in a brassiere there is generally a "response"... recently 24 views for a triptych I created.  So whether folks want to talk about men with breasts wearing brassieres, there are a few who want to see them.  No judgment on my part because I like to see them as well.  I know we are not alone...

And like others here, I have no interest in flaunting my voluptuous breasts... anywhere but here.  

[Dudewithboobs]

The other side of this forum definitely is very quiet. But given how adamant we are in accepting things on this side and parts of the other side of the forum it may be a cause of concern for them to post to be met with “you need a bra” “you have breasts like a woman” type responses. 

Which if my male ego was in tact I’d probably brush this site off as well cause of it. Also, we all see 98% of men who post here, Reddit, where ever others may be a part of, where not a single concern in the world is for the majority of men. They have normal male chests and seem worried over zero reasons to be. 

But for those like us who have breasts. Whether it’s A cups or DDs and beyond. It’s a road that comes with its own time of self acceptance. And once accepted you learn they are something to be cherished and celebrated not embarrassed by or shamed of. Sure they come with their list of issues. Like any woman’s does. Difference is probably when people see ours it’s with curiosity and judgment and when they see theirs it’s with lust and desire. But the same on both of that is people stare, they see them for what they are and there’s sometimes no way around it and you just do your best to keep them to yourself. Women wear high neck shirts or other type of clothing that rides higher on the chest so their breasts are obvious cause they just are. But not in display. In a pool they may wear a tankini or other style that covers up. And men may wear a shirt or Speedo type top for compression and coverage. 

I’m sure to many we just look like perverts or folks caught up in fantasy of having breasts who find it as an excuse to refer to them the way we do or wear what we do. But it all just comes with once you accept and acknowledge them for what they are you find yourself just normalizing them and being common to wear what’s needed and treat them like women do. No different than if a woman grew a beard without her wanting to and choosing to shave. We simply grew breasts without intention and choose to support them instead of not. 

I firmly believe if more men who had breast growth that needed support, tried it, they would for a day be confused and in awe of the comfort it brings and the sight they see. But after that first day, realize it’s no different than wearing socks. It’s just an item of clothing to wear for comfort and relief. 

And am thankful many of us here post pictures of ourselves so others can see we are just regular people who are accepting and proud of things instead of embarrassed and ashamed of things. This forum is the singular key why I’m proud to have breasts and while they may not be the size of others I have grown to love them thanks to those here who have helped me realize and understand it’s not so bad. And if or when they grow it’s not so bad. 

[OldSlowAndRound]

I find myself being a bit “mercurial” with regard to my breasts.  I’m frustrated the difference is size between the two, but fine with what growth I have.  Most of the time I’m just not trying to flaunt anything by what I wear, but I’ve also abandoned an extra layer of shirt for the summer, and there have been a few days of evening out the girls with some padding and doing a some flaunting. 

I also have paused and wondered if I should just get the surgery and be done with it.  But then I remember my own words “the only person my breasts have to fear is me” and I don’t think I could do that to them, us or me.

So I thank this forum for being there for me as I go on this roller coaster ride off my life.

[Johndoe1]

In my own case, having developed as a teen a female chest is all I have known. To always be covered in a modest (feminine) way when it comes to my chest. I have never known what it's like to be flat chested.  I think I would be devastated if I lost one or both. Sometimes it's the devil you know over the devil you don't know.