Hiding becomes more difficult

[gotgyne]

Meanwhile I'm at a stage, that my breasts are more difficult to hide from views of others as some months earlier. I've added a pic with a sweatshirt. That's how (at least) children from below see my breasts. I must admit that I wear the pointy Triumph Doreen bra and of course it's the angle of the photo from my mobile, that enhances it a bit. From above it seems to be less. But I must face the possibility that some child may say to the mother "look mom, this man has got breasts".

I am wearing my support and medical compression pantyhose since the year 2000 with shorts and in fact a young boy asked his father "why does this man wear pantyhose"? He became red and obviously was much embarrassed. I told him not to worry and said "I like intelligent questions" and told the boy in simple words that my legs need these to function properly.

But what if a child comes with the "bra question"? Children are curious, that's normal. I simply could say "I have breasts". What would you do?

[Justagirl💃]

And if somebody does question, why does it matter?

We Are Who We Are, and exactly the way God made us. People that make our business their business are absolutely in the wrong.

Children will always ask questions and that's normal, and so you answered their questions effectively. Because normally children don't have an agenda with their questions.

[AlfaQ]

The Doreen Delicate has less pointy cups than the regular one if you are ever concerned about projection.  It has the same quality and all day comfort.  I have both versions.  

[gotgyne]

Unfortunately the Doreen Delicate is not available in my country. But I have quite a few other bras and among them several with less projection.

[Johndoe1]

First off you have to do what's best for you. And if being supported and contained is what's best for your comfort and health then so be it.

Second, there's ways to tone down the appearance. As someone who is also in the same boat, and there's a few of us too, well endowed women give us clues and suggestions on how to deal with this. Modesty becomes a keyword. Dressing modestly. Presenting modestly. Form fitted tops are a giveaway. Baggy tops is out as well. Layering helps. Muted solids and muted patterns. Differtent bra styles. Nothing that draws attention to the chest. How many times have you noticed a woman's chest one day but not the next? I call this hiding in plain sight. This is a tactic women use all the time. It works for me and others too. 

As I have said before, everyone's breasts are beautiful. So are yours. There's nothing to be ashamed of. And there's no shame in needing and wearing breast support. I have found attention to detail and an air of confidence and no one gives a second glance. As a matter of fact, I get less notices now than before I started wearing a bra. I will take that all the time. 

[Justagirl💃]

Interesting conversation with the CNA this morning where she admitted that well over half of all the male patients over 50 that she takes care of have gynecomastia. Varying degrees of it, mostly not noticeable unless their shirt is off. There are a few however, that are rather noticeable.

It's very common!

She never brings it up in conversation, because it's not professional, and just provides the services that she's required to do.

She did say that my condition is extremely rare and I'm the very first case that she has ever come across. So I educated her to the fact that one in 1500 children is born intersex within varying degrees. She had no idea that the number was that high. It's actually as common as red hair. Her and everyone else has probably met plenty of intersex people in their lives and just never knew it.

We have become very close friends, and have plenty of girl talk conversations.